I've been lurking around this board for a few months now and generally appreciate the suggestions and advice that people share. I was brought up with a moderate degree of etiquette (thank-you notes always, not arriving empty-handed, addressing invites with formal titles, for examples) and I respect that it shows a consideration for other people and their comfort. I am making every effort to plan my wedding in accordance with most etiquette guidelines.
Recently, a friend of mine (whom I knew to be newly engaged) announced that she and her FI had gotten married in a private ceremony on a mountain. (I think this is in the category of "eloping.") I congratulated her of course, although I was a little surprised because she's generally the type who would love to plan and host a giant wedding event. Then I heard that she and her now-H are planning to hold TWO (not just one) "real weddings" a year from now.
He is from another country, so they want to have two "real weddings" (her words, not mine) -- one in each country to accommodate their families. But they wanted to get married now to help facilitate the Visa/Greencard/immigration issues. (I don't know any details on this, just that he's planning to live and work in the U.S.)
I tried to clarify with something like, "Oh, so you'll have two parties to celebrate your marriage later on?" but she didn't confirm this. It's possible that they don't have the details worked out yet and maybe it will just be two parties, but I'm afraid she will plan two "weddings" (as I said, she loves that stuff) -- which I find to be a huge faux pas, times 2.
Is there anything appropriate that I can say to her, or is it best just to keep quiet and let her proceed as she plans?