Emily Post's Wedding Etiquette & do I need to invite this girl?

LizHZ

Has anyone read Emily Post's wedding etiquette book? Is it worth it if you're fairly clueless about traditional weddings but are trying to plan one?

2: Two days after announcing our engagement, at the spur of the moment I went bridal gown shopping with my mom & sister. My sister had plans to shop with her close friend we've known as a family for years, so she brought her along. I didn't purchase a dress; we're planning a 50-person family only wedding that probably won't even involve all of our cousins, so... am I obliged to invite this girl anyways since she went dress shopping? 

BlueBoxBride

I don't think so. 

ootmother2

haha

NO, you don't have to invite her.

BlueBoxBride

My boss proudly displays my announcements/StD at work for clients to see. 

I would be in so much trouble if I had to invite everyone that knows I'm getting married! 

Beachy730

No you do not need to invite that girl.  Your sister invited her to your shopping trip, you didn't. 

As for that book, I've never read it or heard of it until the knot.  From what I've heard though its pretty outdated.  I would just stick with asking here if you have etiquette questions.

aMrsin09

Yes the book is good if you think you are etiqueette challenged.  You don't have to follow it word for word.

No you don't have to invite her.

LizHZ

Yep, my sister had a shopping trip with the girl planned and they cut it short to join my mom & I looking at gowns. We didn't have any appointments, we just went to local stores randomly and wound up trying dresses at all of them.

In terms of etiquette... the weddings I've been exposed to have all been very off-beat and non-traditional to the extreme. Ditto with the events- I've planned and thrown together dozens of them for 200+ people, but they've all been fun, eclectic ones- not traditional or black-tie. So I think I need some type of primer for it...

akhensley81

Liz- I don't think you need to spend money on a book, there's tons of resources online. The information on TK's articles was very helpful for me (and I had no idea what I was getting myself in to either)... and the girls here on the Etiquette board were also very helpful.

sarah0725

I actually have that book and always recommend it when people come on here and ask ridiculously stupid questions (not that yours was). It's always available pretty cheaply used on Amazon, and I don't think it's out of date. Peggy Post is responsible for it now and she definitely is aware of the times. I think it's useful as a reference book for little things, like when you're writing invitations and you're not sure of the wording. It also helped me to understand deep down what etiquette really means, i.e. that all it's really about is making sure that everyone behaves as graciously as possible in social situations in order to make sure that everyone else feels comfortable.

So yeah, I'd recommend it.

And I don't think you need to invite your sister's friend.