So many people have had posts about people who aren't invited but bring up the wedding and such and the answer is to avoid them/not talk to them about the wedding...
I'm sorry in advance is this seems like a pointless post but I just want any advice about the situation.
My FI's parents are divorced and his dad lives out of state so we only see him twice a year (once in the summer and at christmas or new years)..
The first time I ever met his dad was summer 2009 and he introduced us to a woman that I THOUGHT was his girlfriend but a few days later (we were there a week) she couldn't attend a trip to the Rock N Roll Hall of Fame and Museum so he brought another woman so I figured there was no serious relationship and he was just getting to know some ladies here and there... well the first woman, Jan, says they had been dating for 6 months and I didn't know her or his dad well enough to say anything about the other lady and I kept quiet... until months later when they had some problems in their relationship.
- Fall of 2009 they announced their engagement and were getting married August 2010. June 2010 they "put it on hold" because he said he wasn't spiritually or financially ready for the marriage and he had been shady for months, so I wasn't a big fan of him but I was friends with Jan.
Now they have officially split and he's seeing someone else BUT Jan is still in love with him and calls him often, apparently. She also really wants to stay connected with FI and I (she is 50+ and still lives with her parents/never married/never had kids) I've started avoiding calls or sending very vague texts.
For Christmas we went to see his Dad and we stopped at her house on the way because it saved us from driving too late at night during a snow storm (and we also wanted to say hi) ... but she ended up getting us some stuff for our future home together, which was cute, but unexpected.
What do I do because she will not be invited to the wedding??? She would not know anyone except FI's father's side of the family and sure, she's nice but I don't want things awkward (it would NOT surprise me if FFIL brought a random date - which upsets me but whatever)
She was only going to be invited to the wedding if she was still with FFIL. Is avoiding her the only thing I can do?
Once again, sorry for the long rambling post. ]: