My fiance and I are planning to be married in September at a location about 5 hours from home. We then plan to come back and have a party for close family and friends - about 50 people.
We are completely in agreement on inviting our parents to the ceremony and then after that have had some discussions.
We decided against siblings - he has none - I have 5 and we thought they would be somewhat relieved and so far they are - 1 sister lives across the country and her mother in law is getting married at the same time; brother is being shortly deployed with military; 1 sister is relieved because she doesn't really have the money to go (was happy to know we will have party shortly after). So I still have two sisters to tell and I think both will be ok with it.
We also decided against grandparents because I have none and his grandmother and step-grandmother do not get along at all (surprise!) and the grandfather is gone.
So then we had discussion about friends and I wanted my best friend there but didn't think that would be fair to my sisters. He said he wanted his dad to be his best man anyway.
So I called my best friend to tell her last night and I think she was sooo hurt and is very sad to miss this. We had such a great time planning and doing everything with her wedding. And I just am feeling horrible. I really want her there especially because my Mom is gone and I want someone else there to help me with everything. My fiance's mom is awesome but it isn't the same. She is an amazing best friend and I know she was soooo looking forward to this and helping me and being there for me.
So my question is can I have her there and not my sisters? Can I call her back and tell her all of this? It wasn't that I ever didn't want her there - I just didn't know about the fairness. Is it ok to have parents and 1 attendant each and we just have to tell everyone that is all and fiance is wanting his dad anyway?
Please help me out - this has me pretty bummed out!