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Let's talk about our FB friends....

One of my high school friends, who was actually one of the coolest girls in school, literally has 54 albums of her kids playing lacrosse.  FIFTY FOUR.  And they each have between 48 and 190 pictures.  

And my aunt who is the raging alcoholic (not the fun kind) of my dad's side of the family who I have not seen since my dad's funeral in 94 has found me.  She writes me long illiterate messages about farmville and wanting to see me before she crosses into the other side of the river.  And now she is friend requesting all of my husband's family and writing them weird messages about how she is the black sheep of the family.  I feel bad to delete her since her two sons, my cousins, both passed away in the same year recently before the age of 30, and I hear she is very ill.   
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Re: Let's talk about our FB friends....

  • A bunch of my cousins between the ages of 12-15 are constantly posting pictures of themselves where the contrast is turned up and the photo is almost entirely whited out so that basically all you can see is eyeliner.  They also write absurd comments to each other like basically what you would expect from 12-15 year olds, but I'm having a hard time coming to terms with it because they're family members. :P
  • My sister recently got FB and I really feel like she needs a lesson of some sort.  She discovered the status feature and I get a play by play of her life everyday, and she has friend requested all of my friends.  I totally understand some of them because she's two years older than me and knows some of my friends well, but the others?  Some of these people in my class I'M not even friends with.  I'm really not sure if I want to say something or not, but it's kind of annoying. 
  • emilyinchileemilyinchile member
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    edited July 2010
    Sorry, I'm not so starved for gossip that I feel the need to talk trash on people who have nothing to do with this website.

    But umm, lacrosse is cool, and I hope your aunt gets some help.

    ETA: The OP was the only one up when I wrote this, and it just seemed mean to me. Not like "omg, my friend keeps posting status updates about her new puppy" but actual "someone has a serious problem, let me tell you how annoying it is to me."
  • I'm glad you posted this because today, the inevitable happened: my aunt added me on facebook.

    I know this doesn't seem like a big deal, but I've NEVER had family members who had facebook, AIM, anything, really except email. If my parents got FB, I'd freak. Also, my aunt is 66.

    I give it a week, tops, before my dad's girlfriend adds me.
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  • Damn Em....and I thought you were one of my favorite new regs on here.

    When I used to post on here a lot, people liked to vent about things that annoyed them that have nothing to do with this website.  FB posts were pretty common. 
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  • I'm facebook friends with Robert Hamburger of realultimatepower.net fame. I was honored when he added me.
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    This chick I'm friends with on FB that I attended high school with is getting married next month and updates once or twice EVERY HOUR about her wedding, usually full of really bizarre misspellings and elipses, and she'll comment on her own statuses several times as if she's talking to herself.  I know everything about her wedding, where she's registered, how she's doing her hair, all sorts of details about her reception - you name it.  She announces it constantly on FB.  She has an entire FB album of about 60ish pictures of her in HER DRESS.  Her current profile photo is edited with "To hearts be come 1" written at the bottom. 

    She also invited all her FB friends to her wedding and bachelorette party via "events" on facebook.  She had 56 people rsvp "yes" to her damn bach party.  Really?  Monday when I got back to work and logged in I noticed photo albums of the party were up and... my god.

    ETA - she routinely complains in her FB status about people who gossip about her around town and online.  I don't have the heart to tell her she should probably just delete her facebook and disappear from the internet - she just puts out way too much info.

    I love FB and all - great tool to keep in touch with people and all, but damn.
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  • Sorry :/

    I can get on board with the ridiculous number of photo albums, if that helps at all. And I'm all for venting about random crap, I've done it myself. Just the part about your aunt really rubbed me the wrong way, for whatever reason.
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_lets-talk-fb-friends?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:c9770fcf-f2da-490e-b9bb-784f1e007b04Post:69b234a3-9b8d-4bd5-a9a6-b34497109b6b">Re: Let's talk about our FB friends....</a>:
    [QUOTE]Her current profile photo is edited with "To hearts be come 1" written at the bottom. 
    Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin[/QUOTE]

    I feel confident stating that people who actually write like that should not be getting married. Because she is clearly a minor.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Let's talk about our FB friends.... : I feel confident stating that people who actually write like that should not be getting married. Because she is clearly a minor.
    Posted by msmerymac[/QUOTE]

    Mery it's tragic - she's 27 years old <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-surprised.gif" border="0" alt="Surprised" title="Surprised" />
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  • I have a friend on FB who is a self proclaimed cougar - she's 30 and is looking for guys between 16 and 23. She posts every hour (even from work) about all the of "hot meat" she's seen in the past hour or what random and inappropriate sex dream she's had. She also posts random pictures she takes of young guys she meets on the street or celebrity teenagers. Yesterday it was Elian Gonzalez. Her updates creep me out and I've decided to just hide them.
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  • Oh, I added this guy I used to work with a long time ago just because I saw he had a baby and wanted to find out more. I can't wait to see my friends who used to work with him as well and say, "OMG D-- has a KID?!" Poor kid. This guy is nice but like an entire basket short of a picnic. I feel kinda bad saying that, but this is the last guy I would have thought would be responsible enough for a baby. And I wasn't the most mature or responsible person in the world back when I knew him.
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  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_lets-talk-fb-friends?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:c9770fcf-f2da-490e-b9bb-784f1e007b04Post:e01de58e-34ae-4e9a-a605-f631b1652826">Re: Let's talk about our FB friends....</a>:
    [QUOTE]I have a friend on FB who is a self proclaimed cougar - she's 30 and is looking for guys between <strong>16 </strong>and 23. She posts every hour (even from work) about all the of "hot meat" she's seen in the past hour or what random and inappropriate sex dream she's had. She also posts random pictures she takes of young guys she meets on the street or celebrity teenagers. Yesterday it was Elian Gonzalez. Her updates creep me out and I've decided to just hide them.
    Posted by ebonyivory10[/QUOTE]

    Uh... does she realize that she could get herself in a helluva lot of trouble?!  That's not being a cougar that's being an idiot!
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  • I guess it sounds coldhearted but while I feel bad for her for losing her children, I also have a hard time feeling too sorry for someone who has had a problem for over 50 years, and abandoned her children until shortly before their deaths.  I accepted her request to give condolences and be polite, but my relationship with her previously was nonexistent.   

    And I have asked about my cousins and more serious things, but I think she is just more interested in spamming me with stupid games and sending weird messages to my husband and his family, which is why I felt like venting.
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  • Sascha - we took a nasty smelling cyst out of a person today.  Made me think of you.  In the most non-creepy way that someone would think of someone when they see/smell a nasty cyst...
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  • I am so beyond honored that you thought of me!!

    Great...now I have an urge to watch it on the big screen again.  It is like a train wreck...I can't stop watching it.  I wish I knew someone with a cyst.
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  • Wanted:  1 non-creeper, non-molester, non-serial killer with awesome nasty cyst.  Must be willing to let random girl pick at and pop it.
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  • I should totally put that on craigslist.
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  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_lets-talk-fb-friends?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:c9770fcf-f2da-490e-b9bb-784f1e007b04Post:3f02032b-f43b-4134-b00a-f435bb29be44">Re: Let's talk about our FB friends....</a>:
    [QUOTE]I'm glad you posted this because today, the inevitable happened: my aunt added me on facebook.
    Posted by msmerymac[/QUOTE]<div>
    </div><div>It's a slippery slope mery.  My husband's huge family has all requested me, so I definitely have to edit what I say on there.  Everytime I see any of them, they want to talk to me about my updates.  My nephew told me I was much funnier online I was in person.  That kind of stung.

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  • Sascha, after that explanation, I understand it more, and I'm sorry I was snappy before. Seems like one of those situations that just sucks for everyone.
  • Thanks emily.  I see how it could come off poorly.

    Anyways....your wedding photos are stunning.  I have checked them out a few times before.  And love the shoes...I used to work for MB.  :)
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  • I just looked at your bio. Gorgeous photos, Manolos and a dog named Lola? I'm sorry I ever doubted you. And would like to know if I can please come play in your shoe closet.
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_lets-talk-fb-friends?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:c9770fcf-f2da-490e-b9bb-784f1e007b04Post:a016f5d2-eb79-40a6-a9b0-7c7089779392">Re: Let's talk about our FB friends....</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Let's talk about our FB friends.... : It's a slippery slope mery.  My husband's huge family has all requested me, so I definitely have to edit what I say on there.  Everytime I see any of them, they want to talk to me about my updates.  My nephew told me I was much funnier online I was in person.  That kind of stung.
    Posted by saschaduran[/QUOTE]

    <div>You can set up separate groups of friends so that your security settings apply differently to different groups.  You could throw all the family members you find yourself censoring for into a group that doesn't get to see much of your facebook.</div>
  • I knew I could win you over with shoes:)  

    Damaless, I keep meaning to attempt to do that.  So much effort.  Then what would I complain about?  Thanks for the reminder though, haha.
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  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_lets-talk-fb-friends?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:c9770fcf-f2da-490e-b9bb-784f1e007b04Post:e9804aaf-1fad-4a2c-a9ea-db27da14c870">Re: Let's talk about our FB friends....</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Let's talk about our FB friends.... : Uh... does she realize that she could get herself in a helluva lot of trouble?!  <strong>That's not being a cougar that's being an idiot!</strong>
    Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin[/QUOTE]
    Tell me about it! People have warned her but she does not seem to care. I would be more likely to think of her as a perv than a cougar. 
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  • My jacked up cousin (abandoned her 17 year old to run 4 states away from babydaddy #3) requested me. No way in hell is she being added as my friend. Her second daughter (age 9) has kissy face mirror pics all over her FB, lies to make her age 23, and writes statuses like "I'm board," "I wish I was hangen out with frends" and "lets go paaaarty." Ugh, effing trainwreck of a family.
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  • My stepmom and her crazy mother fb friended DH. No me, just DH. Thats ok by me though, I don't need a grandma fb friend.
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