Proof invite and question about wording (on I&P, too)

noelwellin

Posting this on Invites & Paper, too.

Would you girls mind proofing my invite, and offering some guidance on the RSVP?  Do I name the specific dishes or just say generic chicken, steak, or vegetarian?  Also, what do I do on there about kids meals?  Also, do I use the middle initials of my stepdad and dad, but not my stepmom, for all three, or not at all?

Thanks!

Invite:

Mr. and Mrs. Stepdad Mr. Dad and Ms. Stepmom request the pleasure of your company at the marriage of their daughter   First Middle Lastname to First Middle Lastname   saturday, the third of July Five o’clock in the evening Somewhere 123 Any Road Somewhere, State Name Reception immediately to follow

RSVP:

Please reply by June 15

 

m_____________________________

 

_______ accepts     _______ regrets

 

Chicken _______

 

Filet Mignon _______

 

Vegetarian _______

GeauxTigers17

1 - initials don't go on invitations. I would use everyone's middle name if you are going to use your/your FI's middle name, because I like consistency.

2 - Five o'clock is afternoon, not evening. Evening starts at 6

3 - I think your response card looks fine! I might change the wording to "reception to follow" (something about the word immediately bugs me, I have no idea why so feel free to ignore). Also, if your invitation is formal-ish, I might change the RSVP to "Please reply before the 15th of June" but again - not an etiquette thing, just a style thing.

noelwellin

Thanks!  The name thing is what's be getting me the most with these.  I never know when or if to use initials or middle names.  I couldn't figure out how to say the RSVP date on there.  What they had was "The favour of your reply is requested by" but that just seemed off to me for some reason and I was having trouble thinking of a better substitute.  

jessicabessica

Our RSVP cards say "We request your response by June 8" if you're looking for other options.  

strlzfan11

Shouldn't the second line read Mr. and Mrs. Dad?

ootmother2

The groom gets the title Mr.

use first, middle, last for everyone

jessicabessica

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_proof-invite-question-wording-ip?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:d65eed94-b9b3-437e-bcd7-cc800d4b74f5Post:ca887349-6396-4d9d-a233-a55357fe0a5e">Re: Proof invite and question about wording (on I&P, too)</a>:
[QUOTE]Shouldn't the second line read Mr. and Mrs. Dad?
Posted by strlzfan11[/QUOTE]

<div>I assumed it was written as the OP had it because the stepmom kept her own last name (or they could be not married).  </div>

noelwellin

Yup, Stepmom and Dad are not married, but "my dad's girlfriend" always sounds odd to me because they've been together for so long now, so I just started referring to her as my stepmom, because, for all intents and purposes, she is.

And see, I never would've thought to do Mr. Groom.  Thanks!

noelwellin

And what do I do about kids' meals?  Do I put that on there, do I contact the ones with little kids and tell them to just write it in?  How does that work?

Also, should my stepmom's name go first since she's the female, or my dad because he's my dad?

Kate61487

"Five" doesn't need to be capitalized, it's in the middle of a sentance.

Also you might want to consider doing a separate line w/ meal choices for each guest, b/c presumably you need to know who ordered what, not just how many?

so something like this maybe? http://s3.amazonaws.com/wedding_prod/photos/b1d06713a744e4e5da8bdb2300db52c8

As for kids meals, I might just call the parents afterward (it's what I'm doing, but I don't have meal choices)

jessicabessica

Unless you have so many kids that it would be a lot of extra work to call the parents, I would just contact the parents separately.  

I think that the woman's name should go first, traditionally, but I would put your dad first since he's your dad.  

jessicabessica

bree--THANK YOU for the reminder about the numbering!  Our invites are going out next week, and it's something that I have been meaning to do, but I probably would have forgotten about it if I didn't see your post.  

jessicabessica

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_proof-invite-question-wording-ip?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:d65eed94-b9b3-437e-bcd7-cc800d4b74f5Post:a3cc92f9-bf72-41a1-9525-01d5161ad7d8">Re: Proof invite and question about wording (on I&P, too)</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Proof invite and question about wording (on I&P, too) : Seriously. Do.It.   I was driving when I realized that I had forgotten to number them and almost stopped my car on the highway because it was such an OMG moment, lol.  Not a huge deal in the long run but I can't believe I forgot.
Posted by bree4305[/QUOTE]

<div>That would have been me two weeks from now if your post didn't remind me about it.  </div>

noelwellin

Ditto Jessica, thank you for the numbering reminder!! 

Our caterer needs to know how many and I THINK they need to know who, but I was planning on putting "Please initial your meal choice" on the response card for that.  

I guess I should get in touch with them to find out if they need to know who gets what or if they just need to know numbers...

noelwellin

Ohh, good call, I didn't even think of that.  Thanks!

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