Thank You's

USER876

Need a little help regarding Thank You's.  We decided to use preprinted ones for people that gave us money, and hand write ones for people that gave us actual gifts.  Can anyone post a sample of theirs so I can get ideas layouts and what to write in the preprinted part?  I will prob lay it out myself and get them printed online.

ddelo23

I can't post it, cuz i don't have anymore.  But we just put, "Thank you for sharing our special day with us". But I wrote personal notes on ALL of them regardless of if it was cash or a gift.

30may09bride

You pre-printed the note? Really?  People who gave you money are just getting a pre-printed "Thank you for your generous gift.  Love, Mr and Mrs. User"?  Personally, we hand wrote every single note (all 125ish), and I think it is tacky to pre-print them.  But, I pretty much wrote (with some variation to make some of them more personal), Thank you for your generous/kind/etc gift!  We will be using it to help decorate our new home/buy our new home/enjoy our honeymoon.  It was so great seeing you at the wedding!  We hope you had a great time.  Having friends/family with us helped make our wedding extra special! love, bride and groom

mbcdefg

We decided to use preprinted ones for people that gave us moneyIf it's just going to be a pre-printed message and your names, PLEASE don't do that. Handwrite something to everyone, even just "Thank you for the generous gift! We really loved having you at the wedding. Love, Bill and Mrs. Bill."Otherwise, if you just mean that the cards will have a message and then you'll additionally write something else besides that, I've seen people print things like "Thank you for sharing our joy."

Kvarrone

This is what we used, but we also wrote a personal message with 90% TY's on a separate card. http://www.figtreeproductions.net/GALLERYS/KristenSalTYC/pages/Back2.htmSorry, not clicky

30may09bride

And for actual gifts, the note started off, with Thank you for X, then put how we were going to use it (we got very few actual gifts, most were kitchen related, china, crystal, etc).  So, we went with can't wait to use it for entertaining for entertaining friends and family for some of them. 

USER876

Yeah, you all are right, I guess we have to hand write them all.  Problem is we both suffer from left handed syndrome and have horrid writing (I used to get D's in penmanship) and learned to type 50 wpm in 6th grade just to avoid writing!

Rosie24

User, can you tell me how to lay it out an where is the best place to print online? Is it easy? I hate this stuff and  I do NOT want to go through my photog.

JeannineG122

I'm a left handed freak, and have nice handwriting.  You must write with the lefty curve user.  The key is to turn your paper on an angle.  That's how I write.

ddelo23

User - even if you have someone else write them (no one would know)...it's still more personable.  I have HORRIBLE handwriting too! but I still did it, since DH has 3 year old handwriting.

kewltif

I've gotten these and it has annoyed me.

I <3 Seabass

I have horrible handwriting and when I wrote our e-party thank yous I think they would have been much "prettier" and easier to read if they were printed, so i see where you're coming from. But yeah, I think handwritten is the right thing to do.

mbcdefg

I'd rather get a handwritten one-sentence thank you, than a pre-printed paragraph.We went to a wedding a couple of years ago that was EASILY over $100K, for a nice couple. We didn't get a thank you card until nearly a year later, and it was just a pre-printed, "Thanks for coming and thanks for the lovely gift" and that was it (they didn't even sign their names). And all I could think about was how tacky it was ... you had this giant blowout but you can't even bother to spend 30 seconds per note, especially when you had a YEAR to do it?

justkris10

Agreed - my cousin got married like 2 weeks before me and I saw her thank you's on my Aunts fridge which were pre printed with "Thank You" only with their photo and I almos shyt my pants, my Aunt did not understand for the life of her why I thought that was wrong... I literally bought Thank You's from Target with a cute design on them and wrote a nice message in EVERY single one of them and then hand addressed/return addressed each one of them (more than 125 or so)... Now Im still waiting (89 days) for my twatwaffle photographer to send me a disk of my photos so I can include one with each note

erikag23

who care's weather the gift was monetary or an actual gift~ i think everyone of your guests deserves a handwritten thank you.  i am shocked that you would even consider the preprinted option, user!

uppereastgirl

While I hate the idea of giving money as a wedding gift because it seems lazy and impersonal to me, you can't get by with sending lazy and impersonal pre-printed thank yous to ANYONE.  You just can't.  Whether or not they spent time picking out a gift for you, they gave you generous gifts and spent their time coming to your wedding.

Sinthya

glad you seem to have come to your senses. Better to be made fun of for writing like a 3rd grader than a lazy ingrate. lol

imagrl10

we got a preprinted thank you once from a family friend. it was the tackiest thing. the reason was because she had 200 guests..but still cheezy

mbcdefg

I hate the "But I don't have TIMEEEEEE!" excuses from people who have giant weddings and then don't want to handwrite the thank you cards.Bull.Shiit. Because you KNOW they probably spent hours pouring over magazines and websites looking for the *perfect* chair covers and flowers, and that they're sitting there watching TV after their weddings. You can do all that but you can't spend under a minute writing a card to someone?

erikag23

when we wrote our thank you's it was over a few bottles of wine~ def helped writters block, lol!  i did my family, al did his and we split our friends.  i think it took us a total of 4 nights, not bad at all.al was pretty lit when he wrote the thank you to our videographer~ he bascially said, thank you so much.  i can't wait to hire you for my next wedding

kle0113

We (well I) handwrote each and everyone of our Thank You's!  It was a major PITA, but we got so many compliments on them so it was worth it. Erika - That to funny what Al wrote! 

alliecarrie41

thank you for changing your mind and deciding to handwrite them all -- pre-printing is horrible!

JeannineG122

lmao, that is something mh would say.  Priceless.

misskris927

I had 253 guests and still hand wrote everyone a thank you. We did have a preprinted saying on each picture, but we still wrote every person a personalized message. It took forever, but I felt that was the right thing to do.

velveena

Come up with a short generic sentence that would be appropriate to hand-write in & add to the printing.  "It meant so much to have you there!  - User & DW"If you asked a friend or parent to do it, and they got into the routine, I doubt it would be more than a 20 minute inconvenience.

USER876

Ok, enough small talk...show me your samples!

erikag23

http://tinyurl.com/5a53sg  we made ours through vistraprint.  it was a postcard style on linen paper~ above the pics read:  Love~ Happiness~ Laughterand on the back was printed:  thank you for sharing in our special daythere was plenty of room to write a personal message.

kalypso97

While I hate the idea of giving money as a wedding gift because it seems lazy and impersonal to me...Wow, this is pretty judgmental and also completely ignores cultural norms.  This is what my family and extended family ALWAYS does (and everyone I know that is Italian for that matter).  Is it because we are lazy? Bc we don't want to take the time to give something "personal"? That's ridiculous.  It allows the B&G to use it to help towards their new life...Frankly, the non-lazy and personal alternatives do not interest me in the least.  Is buying from a registry more personal?  Clearly not.  And buying some random thing that they might like is going to result in lots of gifts that the B&G don't need (or want).  I appreciated that people gave us money and we were able to use it towards things we really needed, whether that be to help pay for the wedding, or a downpayment for a house.I agree that generally gifts (birthdays etc) should be personal, but weddings are not the time for personalized gifts.

JeannineG122

I have my non Italian husband now saying "La Boost"

kewltif

I much appreciated all of the "non personalized" gifts over the random stuff that some people picked out.