Adults only on "accomodation/information" card????

FSUDEEROSE

I know it is not ok to put adults only on the invite. I also realize that i am supposed to just put the names of the parents on the invite so they know their kids are not invited. That being said, I need to let everyone know that I have a list of babysitters for them.  I am including a card in my invitation  to put "other information" which include, directions to the countryclub, (both ceremony and reception will be there) accommodations for OOT guests, Attire and i want to put a section for child care which will read:

Childcare: The ceremony and reception will be Adult only. If you need childcare please call Suzy Q Planner at 555-555-5555 for a list of babysitters. 

Is this "ok" or is it rude ??? I feel like everything i read has different points of view... HELP!

squirrly

Childcare: If you need childcare please call Suzy Q Planner at 555-555-5555 for a list of babysitters.

That is acceptable, and quite nice of you to help with.  The sentence I skipped is not.

noodle_oo

You could say instead:

Childcare: If you need childcare during the ceremony and reception please call Suzy Q Planner at 555-555-5555 for a list of babysitters.

Maybe that implies it a little stronger that the events are adult only.  If you do this, are you required to pay for the childcare or do the parents pay for it?  Just curious.

MISSCOURTNEY20

Okay, I m really trying to figure out why saying that the reception is adult only. On our reponse card I am thinking of having it read:

Adult Only Reception immediately following ceremony.

Why is this rude?? HELP!!!

squirrly

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_invites-paper_adults-only-accomodationinformation-card?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:cd062f89-8272-496a-b0ab-225e1f87acecDiscussion:570d3236-2ab1-4e0f-8cc2-4919779250c1Post:4e65d790-9628-41bd-9239-c558d8d4471f">Re: Adults only on "accomodation/information" card????</a>:
[QUOTE]Okay, I m really trying to figure out why saying that the reception is adult only. On our reponse card I am thinking of having it read: Adult Only Reception immediately following ceremony. Why is this rude?? HELP!!!
Posted by MISSCOURTNEY20[/QUOTE]

Would you think it was rude if somebody said "Neener, neener, neener!  You're not invited!"  because that's sort of what saying "Adults Only" does.  It highlights who is and who is not invited, when really, you shouldn't EXCLUDE people, you simply invite, by name, those guests whom you would like  to have attend. 

MISSCOURTNEY20

I guess so. I have just seen sooooo many times where people have had an invite only addressed to Mr and Mrs, and them plus their 3 kids have shown up. I just read up on it and it said that there really isn't a right and wrong way to do this. We are having an adult only reception, mainly, to keep cost down. It's at 12 noon so something is going to have to go on the invites because, I think, people will assume that bringing the kids, that early, will be okay. The only other alternative is to put on the response card how many seats are being reserved for that invite. Happy I still have a couple of months to work this out.

squirrly

Check out the RSVP cards in my bio.  We've not had anybody RSVP with extras.  We did have one great aunt accidentally verbally invite her son, but he couldn't come anyway.  It's really possible to prevent without saying "Adults Only".  It just takes more work on your part.

FSUDEEROSE

I can't see the rsvp card in your bio. Would you mind writing it out on here?  I have yet to see one that is understandable and from this century.

squirrly

MISSCOURTNEY20

So are you saying to put each person's name on the response card?? And I am assuming that your reception isn't adult only because there is a children's choice. I like that idea though, and what if you are giving the person a choce to bring someone? Just make another line that says 1 Guest____________________???

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_invites-paper_adults-only-accomodationinformation-card?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:cd062f89-8272-496a-b0ab-225e1f87acecDiscussion:570d3236-2ab1-4e0f-8cc2-4919779250c1Post:fd4efbc2-72d7-48b4-bea4-813f8b49f76b">Re: Adults only on "accomodation/information" card????</a>:
[QUOTE]So are you saying to put each person's name on the response card?? And I am assuming that your reception isn't adult only because there is a children's choice. I like that idea though, and what if you are giving the person a choce to bring someone? Just make another line that says 1 Guest____________________???
Posted by MISSCOURTNEY20[/QUOTE]

<div>If someone can bring a guest, you can leave a blank line and include a note saying, "We really look forward to seeing you! You are welcome to bring a guest as well. Please let us know the guest's name and meal choice on your response card."</div>