I need some help/advice.. I will try to keep this short but I'm not sure how well that will work..
My fiancee wants to get married in a church and I don't. I was baptized Ukrainian Catholic, he was baptized Roman Catholic. We both attended catholic elementry school & highschool. We both attended the same church during that time. When we first got engaged, I called the church to book it. The coordinator gave us a bit of hassle because we don't live in the city anymore (we live outside of it). We fixed that problem by registering with the church. Last night we had our first church meeting with the coordinator and the priest. There's a few things I have to do paperwork wise because I'm baptized Ukrainian Catholic & getting married in a Roman Catholic church.
Our meeting with the priest was okay.. he really pushes the fact of having marriage prep through the church (which is a 9 week, once a week course) vs. a weekend course offered else wheres. He also made comments about how God had brought us together, and if he wasn't for him, we wouldn't be getting married, getting engaged was a God factor.. things I just don't agree with.
My fiancee & I don't go to church.. we don't pray.. we're not athiest.. yes we attended catholic schools but our lifestyle doesn't involve religion.. I don't want to get married in a church because I don't agree or like the way they push things on you. I didn't like how they treated us in the beginning, I don't believe in doing something that feels forced or uncomfortable. I don't have the same feelings towards the church as I did growing up. My fiancee hasn't really expressed why he wants to get married in a church other then he just wants to.
I want to get married by someone who supports our decision in getting married & becoming husband and wife.. I don't want to be married by someone that their reason is God and our faith is the reason we're together, etc.. I don't agree with that.
What do I do if him and I can't get on the same page? I don't want to force him into doing something he doesn't want to do.. and I don't want to be forced either. I need to talk to him about my feelings & I want to hear his..
Anyone else going through the same thing? How did you make a decision?