Save the Date

AMISSA31

Hello Brides

I am from the May 2013 board.  Since you all have passed the STD stage..I have a question.  Did you send out Save the Dates to EVERYONE on your list?

Example:

18 year old living at home with parent(s).... STD is mailed to Parent(s)...did the 18 year old get one too?

I'm trying to decide if I should send one STD to the same address.

LuckyHeather

Hi and Congratulations!

 

We sent one to every address.  In your example, I would address them to the parents Mr. & Mrs. XYZ and then on another line add the 18 year old’s name.

 

Mr. & Mrs. XYZ

Teenage XYZ

Address

Address

 

HTH

 

AurorasEnvy

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_may-2012-weddings_save-the-date?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:f0ca0bc1-9255-4120-8042-b40e7f3e99c5Discussion:baa16976-98d5-4ccd-8083-b307242c920fPost:ab07a0f5-3f5a-4f64-b22e-c30b565e9517">Re: Save the Date</a>:
[QUOTE]Hi and Congratulations!   We sent one to every address.   In your example, I would address them to the parents Mr. & Mrs. XYZ and then on another line add the 18 year old’s name.   Mr. & Mrs. XYZ Teenage XYZ Address Address   HTH  
Posted by LuckyHeather[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>This is what we did, too.  Although we did end up some people who we didn't send save the dates to.</div>

mildlymailyn

Hi! Congrats! We kept Save the Dates for family and super close friends only. How awkward would it be to send one to some one an NOT be friend a few months later. This happened 2 DAYS before STDs went out. The girl went balistic & her STD went in the trash

mandydc0509

We only sent a STD out to ppl we knew we really wanted to come.

The E-board may tell you to send separate STD to one household if there are multiple adults (that are not a couple) living there, but I don'to think this is necessary in every situation.  We had a couple of situations like that where we sent multiple out, and they either 1) looked at us crazy, 2) sent a group rsvp, or 3) just called us and said they were coming.  For this, I'd base your decision on your guests.

Mona8

Same as PPs... We only sent one STD to a household and only to those we were 100% sure would be invited.

mandi921vh

We sent STDs to everyone on the guest list at the time they went out. We ended up adding a few guests between STDs and the invites. I think it's okay to add the 18 year olds name under the parents, but give them their own for the wedding invitations.

MelisMC

Save the Dates only went out to family and close friends only for me. Save the Dates aren't as formal as actual wedding invitations so I think it is ok to just add the 18 year old's name on the same envelope under the parents. When you send your actual invitations out I would send the 18 year old his/her own though.

knottieeafa1bb2d69fa208

For us we just sent to our first round of invites, the people we really wanted to make sure did indeed save the date. we had to do a few rounds of tiered invites since we had a lot of people to invite so not everyone got them. As for a teenager within the house, we sent one to a family so if there was someone living at home or perhaps even off at college, we just sent one to them.

toothpastechica

We didn't send save the dates at all, (all our family is pretty nosy and knew the dates anyways!) and only have about 6 people not able to come. I think  it depends on who your guests are as to if you send them at all, and if you think they should get thier own, My 18 year old cousin who im not close to was invited with his parents and not offefended at all, where as my 20 year old cousin who is quite independent but lives with her parents I did send a seperate one to. You know your guests best. HOWEVER I agree with whoever talked about not sending them to all friends etc, because things do happen between the std time and the invitation time, if you are not 200% sure you want them there, I wouldn't sent a std but would send the invite later if you still want them there then. STD are not mandatory.

bpphoto785

I agree w/ PP about addressing the StD. We sent one StD per household. Even for two of DH's friends who live together. They were magnets so I didn't see why they needed two for the same fridge. That might go against etiquette, but whatever, they didn't care.
 
We also didn't send StDs to everyone, just family and close friends in case we had to cut our guest list. We didn't want to send a StD and then NOT invite them! These also happened to be the people who lived the furthest away and would have to travel so they needed the most notice anyways.