C & V Thursday

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Confessions? Vents?

APherber418

Confession: I have been spending way too much time pinning ideas to do for the wedding but not putting in the effort to start any of them.  I need to get a move on.

I don't really have anything to vent about.

anastassiiat

Confession: I haven't been in the gym for like 3 weeks now. First I had a cold, then we were on vacation, and now I have a cold again. Urgh, I know I have to get my butt in there, but I hate working out when my nose is all stuffed, and I'm not a fan of using nose drops, I'm afraid if I use them for way too long they'll stop working for me

Vent: I hate being sick! I have a runny nose and a cough, and I got a flu shot yesterday so now my left shoulder is a bit sore when I move my arm around. Plus the weather is gross outside, it snowed overnight but this morning it rained so now it's all slush instead. I just feel like going home now and sitting under the blankets doing nothing, but instead I have to work until 6:30 today

sopraffina

Vent: I booked my BM appointment months ago. Then my sister got sick. I was going to cancel, but my mother said my sister was really looking forward to going. Her chemo was going to start again on Tuesday, so we should go while she was still feeling good. The saleslady seemed to be pissed at me, like I was some sort of bridezilla who was dragging her poor sister to try on dresses. She kept saying, "Are you okay? Do you need to leave?"

I don't know if she was uncomfortable with the fact that my sister has a bald head or what. I wish she would have worn her wig, but it wasn't my decision to make. I really just wanted her to be comfortable and enjoy the day.

Confession: I really have no compassion for anyone who would complain about the rain forecast on her 11/10 wedding, as though it's normally warm and sunny this time of year. I'm sure I'll feel differently when it's my wedding and I'm obsessed with the Weather Channel. 

lovefuzzies

Confession: I am having a very hard time not taking my frustration over my work environment out on my family and I'm starting to get a little depressed over the fact that I really like the work at my job but I absolutely HATE the environment.  I'd really like to take a part time job and go back to school for my master's degree but FI and I just can't afford that and that depresses me even more.

Vent: I'm trying really hard to make sure everything at work is done right but it seems like no matter how hard I try, how much I write down, how much I verify or how much I double check nothing is right in my boss' mind.  I'm supposed to be reserving a hotel for when I have to travel to Wichita next month and because of her indecision I haven't reserved the hotel yet.  She drives me crazy with her inconsistencies.  We reserved our hotel rooms for the Mexico trip next week and the hotel refused to give us the group rate for the days we're staying outside of our meeting.  Because of that we should be using that hotel for only the 2 days of our meeting when we can get the group rate (which we did last year) but because the boss finds it inconvenient to move hotels with the large suitcase of stuff we have to take we're paying twice the price for the other 2 days we're going to be there.  While I don't mind not transferring hotels I know (from experience) that if she wasn't involved she would tell me I needed to do the hotel transfer to keep the cost of the trip down.  I really dislike inconsistencies like that because it makes it hard to know what's okay for me to do and what's not okay and when I ask her for guidance she acts like I should know what to do.

KplusA

Vent:  I have some sort of stomach bug thing that kept me up all night, and now every time I eat I feel sick.  I called out from work today which is nice because not only do I have this stomach bug thing, but I also have my period and I'm super stressed and exhausted from all the work I've been doing this week, so I'm loving all the relaxing I get to do today.

Confession:  I work full time, but I also just took 2 part time jobs on top of that.  And I have to do it, because my fiance has like no savings and my savings won't cover the huge catering deposit that's due on January 1st.  We've been doing fine with all of our normal bills/student loans/wedding payments until now, so I'm not really worried about getting it all paid for.  But we'd like to buy a house after we get married, so I figured that having a second job would be really helpful.  I got a second job as a wedding photo booth attendant, which pays about $100 each night (plus tips, free wedding food, and a chance for me to scope out wedding ideas!).  This job will only be on Saturdays in the winter, and could be Saturdays and Sundays over the summer, but that is really good money!  But then I also was offered a seasonal job (ending the first week of January) at Yankee Candle, which pays minimum wage and is night hours on weekdays (5:00-9:00) 3 times a week.  So I took them both.  I'm a little overwhelmed because every night this week I've either had work at YC or training at the photo booth company, and now I'm really tired and sick.  Has anyone else ever juggled more than one job?  How did you do it?  I'm so tired, but I just keep thinking about the house that we will be able to get after our wedding with the extra money I'm making.

Sassenach1743

Confession: I've been on Weight Watchers for 5 weeks now, and I've only followed the program and gone to the meetings 3 out of those 5. One week I was working nonstop, so I fell off the wagon. And this week I'm on my period and I feel like crap, so the last thing I want to do is go to a meeting and get on a scale. I'm only down 3.8 lbs since starting, and that's okay, I usually lose weight gradually. Plus, if I'd just start back on my workout routines I know I'd see more results faster! I've been beating myself up about this for months! I just can't beat this lazy funk I've been in lately. 

Vent: I pretty much posted my vent on the Happy Election day post... About how my FMIL ruined our dinner Tuesday night by insisting on debating why my FI and I voted the way we did. And when she realized I was was pro choice she flipped out and pretty much started calling me a baby killer. I think she was just upset that her side lost and needed to make herself feel better by beating us down... when we really just wanted to have a nice dinner with them because we hadn't seen them in weeks. 

I'm an outspoken person and I had just started my period that day so I had a hard time just keeping my mouth shut -like I should have, because it's a no win situation with her. She's just plain crazy. She'd convince you the sky was green with purple polka dots if she wanted to! Honestly, I don't care who she voted for. I don't care if she's conservative and I'm liberal. I don't care to debate or try to convince her. I have respect for everyone's personal preferences and decisions, even hers. I really prefer to leave politics and religion off the table for discussion. Even though I'm considerably outspoken, I don't like heated screaming matches or wasting my energy trying to be "right". I just don't need to do that... it's an exercise in futility!

Anywho, my FI did a great job yesterday getting me to let it go. He assures me that our differences won't really affect our relationship with her (as she's been this way forever). I'm just a little sad that she is so miserable. She is the most close minded and judgmental person I have ever met in my life. 

So much so that my FI told me that his father confided in him earlier that day that he really wanted to vote for Obama but he didn't because he knew she'd lose her mind and he refused to lie to her when she asked about it (because she asks everyone who they voted for so she can judge them). That is so sad! He even sleeps in a separate bedroom at their house... They pretty much have no relationship at all. He is the sweetest man ever! And she, although usually very nice and accommodating, has this hardcore judgmental attitude about everything and everyone. I thought she was just wacky when I met her, but she is definitely more of the delusional brand of crazy.

Oy!

Melokiel

Confession: I just discovered at lunch one of my go to low calorie side options at the fast food place my dad likes has pork in it. I never in a million years would have guessed it and have no idea why it occured to me to look it up today. Maybe because I noticed their green beans had pork in it too. I don't know. But now I feel absolutely HORRIBLE. I can't count the number of times I've eaten it since giving up pork. I know its one of those learn from your mistake things but I can't help but feel like I should have known. FI is always careful to ask what meat the gravy is based on.

Vent: The FIL's want to go down to the flower district and do all the floral decorating ourselves. The idea of doing 20+ centerpieces with real flowers just a few days before the wedding makes me anxiety attack panicky. To top it off, FFIL wants to go down to the flower district with us tomorrow as its right next to the fashion district where my mom, FMIL and I were going to go dress shopping. He's going to be done with flowers a max of 30 minutes after we get there and I'm going to be stressing about him being out there waiting all day long and feel rushed to just hurry up and find a dress and not enjoy it at all. So now I feel guilty that I don't want him to come and kinda don't wanna go dress shopping anymore now.

pedulaney

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2013-weddings_c-v-thursday-31?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:f30b0bfc-508d-415c-bf59-ab83e327da37Discussion:ce45473e-5253-4ead-90cf-a72c3549c695Post:06556235-c55c-4f74-8818-3d203645698a">Re: C & V Thursday</a>:
[QUOTE]Confession: I have been spending way too much time pinning ideas to do for the wedding but not putting in the effort to start any of them.  I need to get a move on. I don't really have anything to vent about.
Posted by APherber418[/QUOTE]

Hey! I am looking at the same invite I think. I added a back to mine with a list of accommodations and RSVP info.

cadamus

Confession: I haven't really been keeping up with my mfp for this week. I went home last weekend and kinda ate what i wanted... Probably should get back on the ball.

Vent: I currently work at a part-time job that I love. And every one keeps telling me that if they werent in a hiring freeze that they would offer me a full time job. It gets frustrating bc I only work 2 days a week. and it ends up being only 12 r so hours. It isn't enough to get all my bills paid on time. I feel like I am falling behind. So i have been applying to jobs like crazy and I am not getting any calls back. Also some of the jobs i think i would do well at say that you have to have 3-5 years experience. How the hell am I suppose to get experience if no one will hire me. Im getting so frustrated and I just want to cry.

cnf2013

Confession: I knew I'd be eating really poorly at my conference for the three days I'm here. I brought workout stuff since my hotel has a small workout room. I haven't gone yet though. My alarm went off to get up and go and I realized I had no dog and no FI to get me up and for once I could sleep in in the giant comfy bed I have. So I skipped yesterday and again this morning. Oops.

lovefuzzies

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2013-weddings_c-v-thursday-31?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:f30b0bfc-508d-415c-bf59-ab83e327da37Discussion:ce45473e-5253-4ead-90cf-a72c3549c695Post:2a54f255-60bb-4693-a9be-f169ded2df5d">Re: C & V Thursday</a>:
[QUOTE] She is the most close minded and judgmental person I have ever met in my life...And she, although usually very nice and accommodating, has this hardcore judgmental attitude about everything and everyone. I thought she was just wacky when I met her, but she is definitely more of the delusional brand of crazy. Oy!
Posted by brita722[/QUOTE]

<div>Did my mother adopt your FI and just not tell me?  LOL.  Wow this is just my mother over and over.  Sorry you're having to deal with that!</div>

MeeJay22

Confession: I hate my dress every other week, but I spent way too much on it to turn back now. When I'm in it, I love it but when I'm not I feel like I'm going to look like cinderella. I've deleted the pictures of it off my phone, refuse to look at other dresses and everytime it comes up in my mind I tell myself I'll "be myself" through accessories. But now I really wish I would have gone dress shopping on my own first... I'm a people pleaser and was more concerned with picking a dress quickly than what I really wanted at the time.

Vent:   Last night I ended up on the phone with a DJ who talked for an HOUR and when he finally gave me his price I admitted he was out of our budget but I enjoyed talking with him, I would talk with my FI and see what we could do. He then told me for a wedding my first priority should be great food, followed by great entertainment, followed by someone to capture the night and I should just put up the money for a quaility DJ.
        I was so livid that he would dare tell me how to spend my budget after I listened to him toot his horn for an hour and then let him down as nicely as possible! I said "My FI and I see it differently, we splurged and spent way more on a beautiful venue with catering and second is pictures. My fiance and I have great taste in music so we figure if it comes down to it we could set up an Ipod and our families would have a great time." shut. him. down.
       I am amazed how some of these vendors in Northeast Ohio talk to clients and frankly tired of them telling me about my budget. My budget is 16,000.00 (sans honeymoon) and to me, that is about 13,000.00 more than I have ever dreamed my wedding would cost. I am fairly young and this is my first wedding but I have you Knotties and the internet at my disposal and I am still able to make educated decisions. Ugh! So thankfull I will have vendors done by December- this has been the roughest part of the whole wedding.