Dad's girlfriend and Mother of the Bride

grateful01 · April 2013

I am the girlfriend of the father of the bride, although "girlfriend" at our age seems somewhat juvenile. We have been together for nine years, the bride's parents have been divorced for a bit longer than that. Our situation is quite unique. The mother of the bride and I have a very good, healthy relationship. So much so that she called to invite me along for the wedding dress shopping and her sister asked me to co-host the bridal shower. The mother of the bride has truly gone above and beyond to include me in the special events, which is true of the bride as well. We all get along very well. My question, how do I show my appreciation? I want to get a gift for the mother of the bride. Something I can give her privately, and something that conveys how much I am grateful for the inclusion in the entire wedding process. The event is May 11 of this year. Any and all help and recommendations will be appreciated! Thanks.

speshlsnowflAkE · April 2013

I think you should get her a tiara. Any woman would feel special with a tiara.

Calypso1977 · April 2013

We're not going to be able to tell you what to get her, because the best gifts are always the ones picked out with the recipient's personality and enjoyment in mind.

this, since we dont really know the person and maybe accompany it with a heartfelt note.

you are very lucky to have this kind of relationship, and surely your "stepdaughter" has experienced a lot less stress as a result.

s-aries8990 · April 2013

In addition to whatever you get her, I suggest writing a heartfelt note. A gift is nice, but knowing how much her actions have affected you would be a great thing for her to know.

misssunshine17 · April 2013

I just want to add, you all sound fabulous. You don't know how many brides we have here stuck in a hard place because their divorced parents don't get along.

kmmssg · April 2013

As a mom and stepmom that is one lucky bride! I get along with my girls' stepmom but she has this habit of trying to treat me like she is mom and i am stepmom. While we can't tell you what to buy i do think the heartfelt note is a wonderful idea. A spa card might be nice and would be personal. Lucky bride and two lucky ladies!

IVajAzzlEmyHoohA · April 2013

A gift certificate for a waxing and bedazzling. You want her to look fresh and sparkly all day!

grateful01 · April 2013

Thank you all for your great suggestions. I think the personal note is a wonderful idea. I have a few photos of mom and bride when bride was a little girl, I think I'll have it professionally framed. Thanks again, good luck to all!