A little confused? Guest to plan bachelorette party?

Re: A little confused? Guest to plan bachelorette party?

• ceh789 member

  

  April 2012

  A b-party can include anyone who is also invited to the wedding.

  
  

  You don't have to co-host if you don't want to but you certainly can if you do.

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• AshandStephenW

  

  April 2012

  Ok awesome! I wasn't very sure, thank you for clearing that up for me!

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• ShyDreamer00

  

  April 2012

  Well, if you were helping out with the Bachelorette Party, plus helping to pay for it then I would hope you would be invited-LOL! My MOH is inviting all of the bridal party and our friends within the circle-she pretty much just asked me who I would like to be there. It can be a small gathering or 20 or more
  Each of those attending the bachelorette party are responsible for paying for themselves and for chipping in someway-a food item, drink, decorations, whatever...to help alleviate the cost on the MOH and bridesmaids.
  

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• mbcdefg member

  

  April 2012

  Sounds like she just wants money. If it were me, I'd say, "I'd be glad to help plan if you wish. I can spend x to cover my share and a portion of Bride's costs, so if you want we can plan something around my budget plus yours."

  

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• bonge member

  

  April 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_a-little-confused-guest-to-plan-bachelorette-party?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:cc297044-f153-4b31-88d7-c53ae9158d81Post:ee72945f-3b01-4847-b1a5-640c3821f419">Re:A little confused? Guest to plan bachelorette party?</a>:
  [QUOTE]Sounds like she just wants money. If it were me, I'd say, "I'd be glad to help plan if you wish. I can spend x to cover my share and a portion of Bride's costs, so if you want we can plan something around my budget plus yours."
  Posted by mbcdefg[/QUOTE]
  
  <div>This</div>

  230 Invited
  154 Are ready to party
  56 Missing out
  20 Can't find the mailbox (tick tock)
  
  RSVP Date: 6/1/2012

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• mbcdefg member

  

  April 2012

  I've been to a few bachelorettes and I've never seen it covered by the MOH and/or the bridesmaids. Everyone covers themselves and then kicks in a bit for the bride's share.
  
  Definitely be upfront about what you are willing to spend. And don't let her push you around. Stand your ground and eventually she will get the point.
  
  Her: "I need help planning and paying for the bachelorette."
  You: "Sure. I can chip in $X to cover myself and part of Bride's costs. What do you want to do?"
  Her: "I want to do XYZ, so I need you to cover $Xtimes3."
  You: "I can only contribute up to $X."
  Her: "But I really want to do XYZ. Bride will want XYZ."
  You: "That's fine. But I can only contribute $X. I can help you call limo companies, I can address the invitations, or I can bake cupcakes if you want, but I absolutely cannot pay more than $X. If you'd rather me not be part of the planning in that case, I totally understand. I'll come as a guest and I'llpay for any activity up to $X."
  
  Lather, rinse, repeat.
  
  

  

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• AshandStephenW

  

  April 2012

  Thank you all so much for responding! I'm just really hopping her moh understands that I can't spend tons of money. (student + my wedding + life expences = BROKE) LOL! I'm sure we have all been there with our own wedding planning lol! But thank you all again for the words of wisdom, it's been very helpful!

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