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Need Help With Invitation Wording

Schroeder246Schroeder246 member
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Ok Knotties!

I need some help deciding how our invitation will be worded.  Here's the situation:

-My married parents are hosting
-My fiance's parents are divorced, neither parent remarried, and his mother passed away

I know it is now ok to leave off the name of a deceased parent, however, FI's grandmother (his deceased mother's mother) is both incredibly traditional AND outwardly vocal about her dislike of FI's father.  If we just have "Groom, son of Mr. Groom", I could see her being offended.  We are of course recognizing FI's mom in the ceremony and the program, however I don't want FI's grandmother to show up already offended because of the invitation.

I'd rather not leave off his parents entirely because I think it's important that both sides of parents be on the invitation to recognize them.

Any advice?!  TIA!

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Re: Need Help With Invitation Wording

  • aesthyerinaesthyerin
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    You could put something like

    Schroeder and Schroeder's FI along with their families invite you.. blah blah
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  • nda_roxybabenda_roxybabe member
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    Are you against a simple "Together with their families" ?

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  • brookelynpaisleybrookelynpaisley member
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    This sounds like a "Together with their families" situation.
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  • Schroeder246Schroeder246 member
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    I guess I'm not opposed to a "together with their families", it's just not something I ever envisioned.  I have simply awesome parents who are being incredibly generous with the hosting of the wedding, so I guess I really wanted to honor that by seeing their names in print.  Sounds like it might be something I need to get past :)
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  • shellydiane820shellydiane820 member
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    edited March 2010
    You could do

    "Mom and dad request the honor of your presence at the marriage of their daughter schroeder to fi, son of mr FIL and the late mrs. MIL
    date...and bla bla bla"
    EDIT: I missed the divorce part, maybe do the late Ms. whateverhernamewas
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  • agk0125agk0125
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_need-invitation-wording?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:26785dcf-5aaa-4134-bdb0-eb9c3ff78ce5Post:02eaba0e-fdd9-48fe-94f9-7f0cee31d008">Re: Need Help With Invitation Wording</a>:
    [QUOTE]I guess I'm not opposed to a "together with their families", it's just not something I ever envisioned.  I have simply awesome parents who are being incredibly generous with the hosting of the wedding, so I guess I really wanted to honor that by seeing their names in print.  Sounds like it might be something I need to get past :)
    Posted by Schroeder246[/QUOTE]

    Well if they are funding the majority of the wedding I think they get a say in whether or not their names are on the invitations.
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  • danieliza1127danieliza1127 member
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    Well since his parent(s) aren't hosting it's fine to list both of them on there, as son of, like this:

    Mr. and Mrs. John Smith
    request the pleasure of your company
    at the marriage of their daughter

    You
    to
    Your FI
    son of Mr. Thomas Jones and the late Ms. Mary Jones

    date
    time
    place

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  • Kristin789Kristin789 member
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    Danieliza is right.
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