Cover or no cover?

MK559 · March 2012

So my fiancé is wearing his choker whites for our wedding. My dad and his dad will also be in their whites. He decided that he doesn't want to wear his cover during the ceremony because it'd be awkward to kiss and it covers half his face. I see his point but I'd like him to wear it for at least some of the photos. I don't know, personally I like the cover, but I want him to be comfortable. I did google images of military weddings and some guys don't wear their covers. So what are your thoughts? Cover, no cover at all, or cover for a few photos?

Sammy0709 · March 2012

DH followed uniform regs for our VR. I don't know if regs actually apply to wedding ceremonies but if they do following them would be my suggestion. ETA: Based on TX's answer my suggestion to follow regs stands.

iluvmytxrgr · March 2012

Go by the regs. If the ceremony is outside, most regs require him to wear the cover. He can take it off briefly to kiss you and then put it back on. Don't go againt the regs just because it's easier or looks better.

calindi · March 2012

Look into the regs and follow them. I know for Marines, if it's outside then they need a cover. My FI will be wearing his dress blues, and will have a cover on during the ceremony, even though I'd prefer he not, but it's either uniform with cover as required or no uniform - there's nothing in between.

And like iluvmytxrgr said, it's perfectly okay for him to take it off as he kisses you if he prefers. To be honest, I've seen LOTS of pictures of grooms kissing brides in covers, and I've kissed my man with his cover on before, and it has never been an issue.

BinxRose · March 2012

I would suggest wearing the cover, and just briefly removing it for the kiss.

MK559 · March 2012

I asked him about regs too. He said if everyone doesn't wear their cover it's ok.

Sammy0709 · March 2012

4. HEADGEAR

a. General. The cap/hat is an integral part of

the uniform. Uniform headgear is not required to be worn

when ships are at sea outside harbor limits, except on

specific watches or on ceremonial occasions specified by

the commanding officer or higher authority. Uniform headgear

is required in port, unless safety prohibits wear,

i.e., foreign object damage (FOD).

b. Outdoor Wear. Outdoors, personnel remain

covered at all times unless ordered to uncover, or during

religious services not associated with a military

ceremony. Personnel remain covered during invocations or

other religious military ceremonies such as changes of

command, ships' commissionings and launchings, and

military burials, etc. The chaplain conducting the

religious ceremony will guide participants following the

customs of his church.

c. Indoor Wear. Indoors, personnel shall

remain uncovered at all times unless directed otherwise by

higher authority for a special situation/event. Those

service members in a duty status and wearing side arms or

a pistol belt may only remove headgear indoors when

entering dining, medical or FOD hazard areas or where

religious services are being conducted. Tiaras may be

left on indoors.

d. Special Circumstances. A military cover may

be removed when riding a bicycle on or off base. A safety

helmet is recommended. Personnel may remove their cap or

hat when traveling inside a private automobile or riding a

bicycle off base. A cover is mandatory when entering or

within a military reservation, unless wearing the cap is

impractical or hazardous.

I'll post the link if it's too hard to read but I guess, according to part b. if you are out side it seems he doesn't have to wear a cover, assuming it is not a full military wedding. At least, that is my interpretation.

calindi · March 2012

Sammy, it sounds like it's required outside except if it's a religious ceremony. If it's a military chaplain, then ask them for guidance.

I've never been of the mindset "if everyone else does something, it must be okay". That just makes me think of lemmings. Is he going to get in trouble? Probably not, but that doesn't mean it's the correct thing to do. They work hard to earn those uniforms, the least they can do is wear them correctly.

Sammy0709 · March 2012

Oh I was reading the unless as unless it's a religious ceremony that is not affiliated with the military. I hate commas and clauses.

MK559 · March 2012

Not a full military wedding and not religious. He wouldn't get in trouble. I was just wondering if any of you ladies had experienced this. I think him taking it off to kiss me would be perfect. But the cover does cast a shadow that blocks half his face, so I see his point.

calindi · March 2012

Sammy, you're right, if it's an inside wedding he doesn't wear it, and if it's an outside religious ceremony he doesn't have to wear it.

I make that distinction because my wedding won't be a religious ceremony, so by the letter of the law, my FI will have to wear his. I don't think anyone would really make a big deal about it in the long run, though.

iluvmytxrgr · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_cover-or-no-cover?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:13Discussion:b40f7d8c-c7ca-43e0-8fd7-5a3cd2061b2fPost:e948f7b8-425c-4227-be3f-6abcc7980b92">Re: Cover or no cover?</a>:
[QUOTE]Not a full military wedding and not religious. He wouldn't get in trouble. I was just wondering if any of you ladies had experienced this. I think him taking it off to kiss me would be perfect. But the cover does cast a shadow that blocks half his face, so I see his point.
Posted by MK559[/QUOTE]

If it is NOT a religious ceremony he DOES have to wear it.

Sammy0709 · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_cover-or-no-cover?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:b40f7d8c-c7ca-43e0-8fd7-5a3cd2061b2fPost:07ed9e3b-7d98-453a-8aa4-acca73d47e5a">Re: Cover or no cover?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Cover or no cover? : If it is NOT a religious ceremony he DOES have to wear it.
Posted by iluvmytxrgr[/QUOTE]
This.

Irishcurls · March 2012

I'm having an issue with his "deciding" either way. That's not how it works...sounds like he has to wear it, and can remove it for the kiss.

SamiJoeB · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_cover-or-no-cover?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:b40f7d8c-c7ca-43e0-8fd7-5a3cd2061b2fPost:7395fb4f-c804-4fb1-9daf-78d35a223488">Re: Cover or no cover?</a>:
[QUOTE]I asked him about regs too. He said if everyone doesn't wear their cover it's ok.
Posted by MK559[/QUOTE]

I'm not trying to be hateful, but by your way of thinking If everyone else was shooting up heroin, then it would be ok right? Just because everyone does something against regs, doesn't make it "ok". If it's an outdoor ceremony, he should be covered. End of Story.

kyrgyzstan · March 2012

Ours was technically religious (performed by a clergyman) and H felt uncomfortable not wearing it, so he did. The smooching was not hard, he even dipped me! I believe that an area can be designated a no cover area by like a CO. But your husband can't just designate it. Unless he's fancier than most of the SMs we usually see on this board.

Irishcurls · March 2012

You fancy!!

calindi · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_cover-or-no-cover?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:b40f7d8c-c7ca-43e0-8fd7-5a3cd2061b2fPost:a361af07-21dd-4f51-9d7d-cce38d8e5efe">Re: Cover or no cover?</a>:
[QUOTE]Ours was technically religious (performed by a clergyman) and H felt uncomfortable not wearing it, so he did. The smooching was not hard, he even dipped me! I believe that an area can be designated a no cover area by like a CO. But your husband can't just designate it. Unless he's fancier than most of the SMs we usually see on this board.
Posted by WishIcouldbeinthe'stan[/QUOTE]

You know the awkward naked feeling you sometimes get when you aren't wearing something you normally wear? Like an engagement ring, for me - I have mini panic attacks when I'm not wearing it. I feel like that's how my guy gets without his cover on outdoors. I'd be afraid he'd be spending more time during the ceremony worrying about that than paying attention to me! Haha

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