MOB and MOG Dilema!!

Re: MOB and MOG Dilema!!

• FutureJilliannD member

  

  April 2011 edited December 2011

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_mob-mog-dilema?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:357Discussion:56d4b06e-2b47-410d-a76a-5dcb0a07cc43Post:eeb12986-9fdf-4003-9f41-56bd150ff8f7">MOB and MOG Dilema!!</a>:
  [QUOTE]So my mother and I went shopping and found a beautiful mother of the bride dress.  I sent the MOG the information and told her what the colour would be so she'd be informed. She told me that she wants to get her MOG dress in the same colour which is really upsetting my mom.  She said she doesn't want to be confused the day of the wedding (Are you MOB or MOG) because they have some the same features (same coloring, same hair color, same eye color...) and the MOG is sometimes asked if I'm her daughter.  They are also both looking at having similar hairstyles.  What do I do?  Do I say something to the MOG (she hasn't ordered her dress yet) or <strong>just tell my mom that it doesn't matter cause she'll look beautful no matter</strong> <strong>what?
  </strong>Posted by MissKate2011[/QUOTE]
  
  This. Also, I'm assuming that the guests will know either your side or his side. So it is likely that they will already know who is the MOB and who is the MOG by default.

  -This is not legal advice-

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• MissKate2011 member

  

  April 2011 edited December 2011

  That's what I've been doing but just wanted to get some feedback!
  
  Thanks!
  
  

  

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• GoodLuckBear14 member

  

  April 2011 edited December 2011

  Ditto Jillian. 
  
  You can also get your mom some great accessories to go with her dress.

  Proud to be an old married hag!!

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• MairePoppy mod

  

  April 2011 edited December 2011

  It's possible that your fmil thought you wanted her to get the same color as your mom. You could let her know she can get any color that she wants. But, you shouldn't tell her not to wear that color.
  
  
  

                     

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• eviltwin13 member

  

  April 2011 edited December 2011

  My FI's mother assumed that my mother would want to wear a different color & style, but actually it's just the opposite. My mother thinks that they should both wear black. That is what was done for my sister's wedding. Everyone thinks differently about this - no need for any upset feelings.

  

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• MissKate2011 member

  

  April 2011 edited December 2011

  Yeah I don't think it's a big deal but since my Mom is kinda annoyed about it I'm stuck in the middle and wasn't really sure on the etiquette of the situation.
  
  FMIL knows she can have whatever colour she wants but as they have the same coloring they both look good in this color.  I agree that most will know who is whom and both will look gorgeous. 

  

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• skippylouwho member

  

  April 2011 edited December 2011

  I found a MOG dress I really loved but I knew the MOB had already picked a dress in that color and I just couldn't/wouldn't do that to her. So I'm wearing another dress. I don't really like the dress but it will do.   I know that no one is there to see me and no one is really going to notice me unless I do something really stupid, like trip when I walk in and I'm not expecting that to happen.
  
  Besides one can endure almost anything, even wearing a dress they don't like. By shortly after 6 PM THIS SATURDAY I will be back home and can change out of it.
  
  
  

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• Dayna3773 member

  

  April 2011 edited December 2011

  Are she and your mom close?  If its a big deal to your mom maybe they could go dress shopping together and try to get ones that go together, but are still different.  My understanding has been that the MOB gets first dibs.

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