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Engaged a Month and Already HIt Our First Snafu... (Just a Vent)

muenginerdmuenginerd member
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We’ve been engaged for just shy of a month and I hit my first issue.  We are suppose to be meeting with a priest from the church tomorrow, I just called to confirm my appointment and the church had no record of the appointment.  I spoke with the priest 3 weeks ago, turns out he has all the notes of our call, he just never transferred the date onto his calendar.  In the mean time, he had booked another appointment for the same time as ours.  FI and I had rearranged work schedules and took vacation time for this meeting.  Thankfully, the other couple who had scheduled just cancelled so we can have the appointment back.  The priest made it sound as though we were lucky everything worked out like it did.  I just bit my lip, and sounded gracious that he was still able to meet with us.

 

Just getting a little frustrated for the moment.  We have appointments to go see venues next week with parents traveling from out of town.  We can’t book a date with a venue until we get a date from the church.  Can’t get a date from the church until we get approval from the priest.  We wanted a date nailed down soon, as some family and wedding party members are waiting to hear from us before they starting laying out vacation for next year.  This is the first and one of the most important things we’ve done and they’ve already lost appointments.  Just keeping fingers crossed that this is the one of the biggest worries I’ll face…
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  • s-aries8990s-aries8990 member
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    You  just have to remember, priests are human too! Is this a parish that you attend regularly?

    All I can say is try to relax and enjoy the process! If things don't work out perfectly, it's not the end of the world, there is always a work-around! :)
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  • kerbohlkerbohl member
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    edited March 2013
    Ah, the frustrations of wedding planning.  Don't worry, everything eventually falls into place (or so I hope . . .)

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  • TheBaysideBrideTheBaysideBride member
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    Ditto the above - we had so, so many issues between places, officiants, etc, and everything will fall into place. you really, really have to not let stress get the best of you.
    Congrats!!!
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  • owengirl996owengirl996 member
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    Just as it did, it will always work out one way or another! You will more than likely face more challenges, but just take it in stride.

    I had two BMs get pregnant and due within days of our wedding, so we pushed it up an entire month. I thought it was the end of the world at the time, but looking back, it turned out perfectly for us :)
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  • hollyk224hollyk224
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_just-engaged-proposals_engaged-a-month-and-already-hit-our-first-snafu-just-a-vent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:683Discussion:995e456d-328e-4647-99cf-89d7416141d1Post:2f675e7e-7b3f-4cad-a3ab-42c0cedb4bd2">Re: Engaged a Month and Already HIt Our First Snafu... (Just a Vent)</a>:
    [QUOTE]Just as it did, it will always work out one way or another! You will more than likely face more challenges, but just take it in stride. I had two BMs get pregnant and due within days of our wedding, so we pushed it up an entire month. I thought it was the end of the world at the time, but looking back, it turned out perfectly for us :)
    Posted by owengirl996[/QUOTE]

    <div>It will definitely work out!  Trust me, I was worried about so many things that didn't even matter, and then on the wedding day things that I never would've thought would go wrong did!  Lol!  I also had a pregnant bridesmaid (my sister-in-law).  Our wedding was on June 30 and her due date was July 4 - so needless to say we were all on our toes and guessing if she would become a mom first or if I would become a wife first!  As it turned out, she went into labor 10 days early and my nephew got to be at the wedding!  :)  Everything WILL BE FINE!  I know that's hard to understand now, but trust everyone when they say things will be ok!</div>
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  • Ella and PedroElla and Pedro member
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    I have some advice.  I agree with the 'it will all work out people' to a point, but I think there are definitely things you can actively do to help (did not say ensure) that things will go well:

    1. DO NOT make appointments, financial connections, decisions, or commitments on the phone.  DO NOT DO IT.  If you have to deal with anyone (family, vendor, wedding party) in a phone call about anything besides just a 'hi there,' send a FOLLOW-UP e-mail.  But, for any meeting, appointment, commitment, purchase, complaint, change in policy etc. SEND IT IN WRITING.

    2. Print any e-mail about the above.  Even if you think everything is fine.  Save it in a binder.

    (1.B. BUY a big 3-ring binder, and sheet protectors, and wide-style binder tabs, and make a wedding binder. This is not just to save ideas about table centerpieces, linens, shoes, tuxedos, or a poem you want read,  this is to have a PAPER RECORD (see item #2.)

    Then, when something does come up, which is far less likely because vendors and others who have things in writing are more likely to keep organized too, you can at least track back and hopefully get things done properly that got messed up.

    Good luck!

    (P.S. our binder is 5 inches thick because I also had a lot of inspiration images I wanted to save, and this comes in VERY handy at vendors like the florists - a picture is worth a thousand words.)

    Ella
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