ANOTHER VENTING SESSION THANKS TO FI

IFEFAD · June 2010

SOOOOOOOO Ladies, being engaged for over 6 months and FI is yet to tell his Groomsmen or Best man know that they will be in the wedding..... I don't even know if he picked them yet.... WTF.... I am soooo "urked"

mahoganieyes · June 2010

Well I wanted to wait till a yr out because you know how things change in a few months. Some friends come and go during this process. I would give him till July and ask.

summerbride11 · June 2010

Did you two mutually decide how many BM and GM you want? I'm asking because my hubby took the longest time asking his GM also. I found out after we were married that he really didn't feel that close of arelationship w/ anyone but his best friend. He just met his brother 4 years ago and we weren't sure if he'd be in the country. I look at Steve as a social butterfly. He has so many friends, but he sees them more as associates. He asked his best friend to be Best Man right away, but had a hard time deciding on others. He felt kind of pressured because the "norm" is BM's and GM's walking down the aisle. In hinesight, if he had communicated w/ me, I would have been fine with just having my sister as the MOH. It would have been WAY less expensive too. Your wedding party, thier guests, the gifts, the rehearsal dinner and guests. We also paid for thier hotels and 2 of the GM tuxes and 1 of the BM dresses, the flower girl dresses. Well, I would've kept the flower girls. they didn't give any trouble,lol. If you have a certain amount of BM, do you have to have them paired off?

missrekaeagle · June 2010

We're getting married this July and my FI didn't ask his GM till May. Everything has worked out fine so far so don't stress it.

MIABRIDENTAMPA · June 2010

Well Fi has a group of friends he grew up that automatically assumed they would be in the wedding, he didnt have to ask. However, as things got closer, money was tight, some couldnt afford the suit and travel expenses, so all in all I wished I had waited on choosing BM as it has been an issue. So if they dont have to travel oot you can give him more time.

angelajerry813 · June 2010

Why do men always have such a laid back approach? I hope he will decide soon so that you can get the planning process going.

winter443 · June 2010

I was urked by this too because it took hubby the LONGEST time to decide (I mean 3 months before he still wasn't sure). Hubby is cool with a lot of people but he doesn't consider them "close" friends. It was hard for him to choose but he eventually did. I was so pressed about getting tuxes but I just let it go and he took care of it. We picked the tuxes out about a month before the wedding. Savvi was even able to get a tux the next day when we ended up having to replace a groomsmen (someone dropped out the day before the wedding, we got the replacement fitted Friday afternoon and the tux was available the next day around 12 noon).

winter443 · June 2010

Also, your wedding is a year away, I say don't pressure him. Things can change in a year and he may not want the same people to be in the wedding. Give him some time.

luckyinloveaz · June 2010

Im having the same issue. We have 4mths left and FI hasnt picked anyone. Im not gonna bug him over it either. If he doesnt want anyone then so be it. I wish I would have known before I asked my girls. I have my oldest son walking down the aisle and my youngest and ring bearer. So at the least he will have them on his side.

IFEFAD · June 2010

I have an idea of who they are but i should not be the ones telling them. He has a VERY laid back approach to everything... This whole wedding process has been great for him (lol)...... His fav saying is --"EVERYTHING WILL WORK OUT".

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