Father Daughter dance........

ag.4.24.10 · April 2010

I am having my dad and step-dad both walk me down the aisle together because I wanted them both to be a part of this. Now, I am having a hard time figuring out the father daughter dance. I was thinking I can pick a song and dance half way with my dad and the other half with my step-dad. What do you think? or do you have any more suggestions? Or should I do one and then later on do the other one? Maybe I will ask my Dj what he thinks....HELP!!!

This 2 dad thing has been very hard for me to make decisions.

NicoleEOle13 · April 2010

The switch off sounds incredibly uncomfortable if you ask me, but then again I am not familiar with your dad/step-dad and what they are comfortable with. I would think that would make both feel very hurt if you split a song with them.

You honestly don't think your step dad will just be content walking down the aisle with you and then watching as you dance with your biological father only?

ag.4.24.10 · April 2010

I'm not really sure how my step-dad would feel. I think he would be hurt, he has been a big part of my life, been there since I was 10. UGHHH these kinds of decisions is what I didn't look forward too. I always knew when my FI and I decided to get married that this would be hard. And it as been. I didn't expect my dad to help with the wedding and didn't want to ask but he offered to help so I have been very thankful, so I want to include him in as much as I can. But my mom and step-dad have also paid for a big chunk of the wedding so I don't know........

aallenba · April 2010

What if you danced with your dad and then at a good part in the song have it fade out and with a brief pause and then fade into the 2nd song?

I don't think it would sound weird if there was a moment between the two so you can hug your dad and then go get your step dad to dance with him.

I thin if people know you and know that you have your father and step-father they would completely understand.

fallen4ever84 · April 2010

Both my Dad and Step-Dad are walking me down the aisle also. For the father-daughter dance, I am planning on dancing half of the song with one and then other half with the other. I really didn't want to do two separate dances but I want to dance with both of them so I think that works out well.

I think spliting the song up between the 2 is a good idea.

ag.4.24.10 · April 2010

fallen4ever- Have you picked your song yet? Are you having one song or two different songs? Who are you dancing with first??

Also I asked my dad tonight about it and he said he will have to see if his knees allow him to do it, so I know for a whole song he wouldn't be able to but for half a song he might..

fallen4ever84 · April 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_florida-west-coast_father-daughter-dance?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:62Discussion:7bd5071c-3bf2-43ed-ab73-962860a4e930Post:02cbc051-5c6e-44c8-9e7f-cdacf5710510">Re: Father Daughter dance........</a>:
[QUOTE]fallen4ever- Have you picked your song yet? Are you having one song or two different songs? Who are you dancing with first?? Also I asked my dad tonight about it and he said he will have to see if his knees allow him to do it, so I know for a whole song he wouldn't be able to but for half a song he might..
Posted by ag.4.24.10[/QUOTE]

Yeah, we're dancing just to one song, Over the Rainbow by Israel Kamakawiwo'ole. If I did 2 different songs it would end up being 2 separate dances and I don't want that, since I think that it'll get a bit long for the guests to sit through. Although, now I'm starting to get worried that it'll seem awkward to switch in the middle of the song and maybe I should just do 2 separate dances!

I haven't decided who to dance with first, but probably my Dad first and then my step-dad. Like you, my step-dad has been in my life for a really long time (since I was 4), so in my mind he is just as much my Dad as my bio-Dad is.

NicoleEOle13 · April 2010

I'd say it would be the smartest and safest thing by talking to both dads about how they would feel about this. That way no one gets hurt or surprised.

ag.4.24.10 · April 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Father Daughter dance........ : Yeah, we're dancing just to one song, Over the Rainbow by Israel Kamakawiwo'ole. If I did 2 different songs it would end up being 2 separate dances and I don't want that, since I think that it'll get a bit long for the guests to sit through. Although, now I'm starting to get worried that it'll seem awkward to switch in the middle of the song and maybe I should just do 2 separate dances! I haven't decided who to dance with first, but probably my Dad first and then my step-dad. Like you, my step-dad has been in my life for a really long time (since I was 4), so in my mind he is just as much my Dad as my bio-Dad is.
Posted by fallen4ever84[/QUOTE]

Yeah but maybe the DJ can pause the song and then start with your step-dad? I sent an email to my DJ so we will see what he says. I really don't know how to do this. But everyone(on my side) will know what's going on but I don't know if everyone on my FI's side would know.

wendyjoy182 · April 2010

fallen4ever84- love that song by the way- everytime I hear that song it kind of switches to "what a wonderful world" in the middle as well so that could be a nice time to transition to the step-father.

fallen4ever84 · April 2010

ag 4.24.10 - That's true, if he pauses the song that could probably work. I'll have to ask him. I think we might be using the same DJ, are you also using Rob Sword?

wendyjoy182 - You're right, it does switch over to "what a wonderful world" in the middle since the song really is a combo of those 2 songs, so that would be a great time for me to switch and start dancing with my step-dad! Thanks for the suggestion!

JulieNFlo · April 2010

Wow...ladies this is a really interesting post. I never really thought how difficult a decission like this would be for you guys but honestly I would not even know which direction to go. I will say that both dad and step dad deserve to have a dance with you being that they both have played major rolls in your life.

Either way you go I am sure that both men will be happy and thankful for your decisions. Good Luck with whatever you decide and keep us posted on how it turns out!

HappyMrsK · April 2010

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[QUOTE]I'd say it would be the smartest and safest thing by talking to both dads about how they would feel about this. That way no one gets hurt or surprised.
Posted by NicoleEOle13[/QUOTE]

I think this is a great idea! It should be whatever all of you are comfortable with.

ag.4.24.10 · April 2010

I am using Rob Sword. He emailed me back saying this wouldn't be a problem. I was also thinking of using the same song as you, it's between that one and I loved her first(I think that's the name of it)

fallen4ever84 · April 2010

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[QUOTE]I am using Rob Sword. He emailed me back saying this wouldn't be a problem. I was also thinking of using the same song as you, it's between that one and I loved her first(I think that's the name of it)
Posted by ag.4.24.10[/QUOTE]

Great, I'm glad to know he said it won't be a problem! It's a beautiful song and as another poster pointed out, it does have a great transition right in the middle of the song that would make it easy for switching Dad's. But "I love her first" is a really nice song too!

Good luck! I can't believe our weddings are coming up so soon!

dancer14 · May 2010

This is going to be my biggest challenge planning our wedding. I grew up with my mom and step dad. My real dad has never really been in my life. He would always come and go. We just "re-found" eachother about 2 years ago and this is the longest we have been talking. I know my engagment is near and I'm so confused on what to do when it comes to the "dads"...
who walks me donw the aisle? who do i dance with? who's "giving" me away? the list goes on. I've been half tempted to just elope..but I want so badly to have a nice wedding with all my friends and family.
My biggest fear is that I hurt someone. My mom and step dad just found out that my real dad and I are speaking again and aren't happy one bit. I know they just don't want to see me hurt again..
any help would be great. Thank you!

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