Confession

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• thatgrrrrl member

  

  February 2012

  This is so completely normal.
  
  I missed being the only one who knew when she was moving. Or that special connection that just she and I had. I think a lot of moms feel like that after they birth their child. You lose that tiny privacy you had with your baby. Now you have to share her with the world.

  

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• mrsconn23 member

  

  February 2012 edited February 2012

  You're 2 weeks out or so?  Yep, I was there 2 weeks after I had DefConn.  I told DH that I missed being pregnant.   I still miss it sometimes.
  
  My sitter has a brand new baby that's just started going to her and he makes my ovaries flip over and over and over. 
  
  ETA:  OMG, yes TG.  It's the sharing with everyone else.  When they're inside, they're yours.
  
  You're so normal.   

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• Wzz member

  

  February 2012 edited February 2012

  I miss it, and I don't. I don't miss any part of what is in the past, really. I would love to do the whole pregnancy and childbirth thing again to do a few things over, but then i don't because in the end i *DID* get what i wanted, and that is a healthy baby and that i made it out alive. and what happenes next and what happens every day is so great.
  
  (ETA:ftr, the moving inside was weird to me. i couldn't get used to it. it was reassuring, but i am too small for all that stuff to feel awesome inside.)
  
  it's only been a couple of weeks, so you're definitely going to have to feel your feeings and let things pass. but ultimately, you did get the birth you wanted, and that is the birth of a live baby who is healthy and thriving. you can;t ask for anything more.
  
  i don't mean that to sound harsh (after all, you did only have a baby a couple of weeks ago). it's just some perspective. even artofmakingababy didn;t get her total birth experience, i believe. and apparently she's crazy.

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• hmonkey member

  

  February 2012

  wz, you are so learned.

  

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• Wzz member

  

  February 2012

  don't sass me, hmo. i know people. 
  

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• DG1 member

  

  February 2012

  Hell, I still miss it. I get really jealous of pregnant people. Even random strangers.
  
  Not because I want to care for a newborn again, for sure, but I was pretty good at the whole pregnant thing. 
  
  So yes, normal.
  

  
  

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• TheDuckis member

  

  February 2012

  I'm certainly glad to have a healthy baby, especially after all we went through during the pregnancy. I do selfishly wish the healthy mom part had turned out a little better. I'm still recovering, which I'm both in denial about and having trouble handling. I really did think I was easy-going enough to handle anything not going according to plan, so I'm also having trouble with the mere fact that I'm having trouble.

  
  Crap...I Mean Crafts

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• NOLABridesmaid member

  

  February 2012

  I confess to liking when  women describe what it feels like to grow a person inside them. Makes me feel like I understand in a small way.
  
  {That sounds kinda creepy when I think about it}

  

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• Wzz member

  

  February 2012

  i'd like to add, i am not normal. so there's that.

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• PMeg819 member

  

  February 2012

  I miss being pregnant. I also miss breast feeding. And I admit to getting overly emotional about it and having moments of crying about it. But, my hormones are still a mess and that contributes. I want to say it gets easier but it takes some time.

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• dharmabunny member

  

  February 2012

  I totally miss being preg. If it didn't involve postpartum, dealing with newborns or raising another child, i'd be all over it. And FTR, you matter too. Just because baby came out healthy and thriving doesn't mean your own health and well being doesn't matter or should be shelved as being selfish. There's enough care and concern for everybody's health. This is'nt kvetching about not having enough candles, not spending the entire push time in a squat, not getting a birth tub or saying enough rainbow meditations. IDK if i would dwell forever in the coulda woulda shoulda that you can't go back and fix, but you had a traumatic experience, whether it was through any fault or just 'Sh!t happens' give yourself the opportunity to grieve and come to your own terms about it. Regardless of how anyone would see it. They aren't you. I'd talk about it with your OB at your follow up. She might be able to provide some answers from the 'I was there' perspective. And if you want to sound off to another NB mama you know where to find me.

  

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• GBCK member

  

  February 2012

  I think some amount of "*stomp*, but X is what I wanted, and I got Y" grief is a necessity.
  And I hated 90% of being PG (HOnestly, it's one of the reasons we've not yet decided on more...I"m not sure I can go through that again) and I still 'miss' it on some level

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• EdsdollfaceJen

  

  February 2012

  I had a hard pregnancy and I miss it. I especially miss having that privacy of just he and I...I do feel that we have an incredible bond now though. I look forward to doing it again, even though it was the most stressful time in my life, it was also the beginning of the happiest.

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