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1 Wedding and a Potential Funeral...(vent...)
Long story short:
My elderly mom got a call from Puerto Rico yesterday. Her mother, my grandmother is on her deathbed. I arranged to have mom and her sister who lives near us in the Bronx to fly out at 5:00am this morning to be in PR by 10:00, to be by Mamita's (her name by which she is called by the whole family) side in the hospital.
Older brother dropped them off at airport, took them as far has he could go.
My mom has flown jetblue hundreds of times in the past. Just a year and half ago she flew with her sister to PR.
Something went wrong this time - she (according second hand from my brothers) missed her flight and never got on the plane.
Now I was used to the idea that mom was going to miss the wedding because of this. I was ok with that. Death is never convienent. But this adds a whole new wrinkle.
We have to face a hard truth, our mom is not well either. The signs of slippage have been creeping on little by little. Repeating the same things, over and over. Accusing people of "stealing", (when things have actually just been misplaced). LIttle things here and there that we dismiss. But it makes me so sad right now that I
1) can't be in PR myself to see the grandmother I haven't seen in 15 years
2) my mom's mental capacities and abilities are declining.
And I have a wedding in 8 days. I did not need this right now, but then nothing ever goes completely smooth in life does it.
Waiting to hear more from brothers about what happened. So we shall see if we can somehow get her to her mother.....
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My elderly mom got a call from Puerto Rico yesterday. Her mother, my grandmother is on her deathbed. I arranged to have mom and her sister who lives near us in the Bronx to fly out at 5:00am this morning to be in PR by 10:00, to be by Mamita's (her name by which she is called by the whole family) side in the hospital.
Older brother dropped them off at airport, took them as far has he could go.
My mom has flown jetblue hundreds of times in the past. Just a year and half ago she flew with her sister to PR.
Something went wrong this time - she (according second hand from my brothers) missed her flight and never got on the plane.
Now I was used to the idea that mom was going to miss the wedding because of this. I was ok with that. Death is never convienent. But this adds a whole new wrinkle.
We have to face a hard truth, our mom is not well either. The signs of slippage have been creeping on little by little. Repeating the same things, over and over. Accusing people of "stealing", (when things have actually just been misplaced). LIttle things here and there that we dismiss. But it makes me so sad right now that I
1) can't be in PR myself to see the grandmother I haven't seen in 15 years
2) my mom's mental capacities and abilities are declining.
And I have a wedding in 8 days. I did not need this right now, but then nothing ever goes completely smooth in life does it.
Waiting to hear more from brothers about what happened. So we shall see if we can somehow get her to her mother.....
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Re: 1 Wedding and a Potential Funeral...(vent...)
...having some issues with ticketing....praying I can work somethig out....
Also, I'm so sorry for what you are going through.
I hope things start getting better soon.
Best wishes
Alzheimers is a terrible thing to deal with. Both my paternal grandparents have it, and it's difficult to deal with, and the disease has many twists and turns. If you really think that she might be dealing with early symptoms, I encourage you to get her evaluated (and it's really hard to convince the person with it to do this usually), but they are making lots of advances with medications and therapies to help.
*hugs* I'll be keeping your family in my prayers.
My dad flunked the "test" he was given with flying colors. Simple things like signing his name, who was president, drawing a very very simple diagram, etc. It was the beginning of getting help.
I am so sorry about your grandmother and also about your mother. Enlist help from everyone over this next week and get through your wedding. I wish you the best in all of this.
I definitely agree with PP, get your mom to the doctor as soon as you can and make sure you go in with her. My grandmother used to flirt with her doctor to get what she wanted (no meds) until my aunt started going with her and telling the real story. Hopefully your brothers will be able to help out with your mom until after your wedding so that you can focus on that day right now.
I'm sorry about your grandmother. It's never easy losing a grandparent. I've lost 2 and a 3rd doesn't know who I am anymore so it's almost like I've lost her as well. My thoughts and prayers go out to you in this difficult time.
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My grandma had Alzheimers, and it was hard, but it is good to get a diagnosis so they can start her on therapies and maybe get some help in the home as well. We got someone to come be with my grandma during the day to keep and eye on her and make sure she was taking care of herself and it was wonderful. There are lots of programs out there to help the elderly with dementia, and lots of support for those dealing with relatives with it.
Try to enjoy your wedding, I hope your family can help you out and help keep the stress down. Best wishes!