I went dress shopping last week with my mom, sis, and future MIL. MIL is divorcing future FIL and is being really petty about it. A week after she left him (for another man) she took her wedding ring, melted it down and made the diamond into a necklace. Then she told me that my something borrowed was going to be that necklace. Basically a "no buts about it" attitude. I don't want it.
It's yellow gold for one thing which I don't like at all, and I don't like what she did to it. It's basically what it represents that irks me. I really like FFIL and he is hurting so bad because of everything she is doing to him. I simply don't want to wear it... ever. But she is the kind of lady who will throw a huge fit and cause drama if I tell her the real reason. I can see her not going to the wedding because of this. (she is that kind of person)
My sis told me that the something old, new, etc is something that should come from the bride's side of the family. She did it that way when she married, as did my mom... so could I make that the excuse for not wearing it?
***also I don't like the fact that the diamond is a family heirloom, passed down from FFIL's grandmother (I believe) and it was supposed to go to my fiance for him to pass down to our children. But she believes that it was "owed" to her and that it's HERS now, it doesn't belong to the family anymore.