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LOL oh FI...

fireytigerfireytiger member
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Sometimes my FI is so silly with what he thinks is required for a wedding... :)

We have had a great deal of difficulty choosing what we want to do for a wedding cake. We originally were going to have our caterer do it, but then finances got bad so we cancelled the caterer (and, therefore, the cake). So then we started shopping around for another option, FI's grandparents offered to give us $500 to pay for food and our wedding cake, and whatever is left over from that $500 is our wedding gift. We found the cheapest actual tiered wedding cake option that was available, at Walmart. FI's grandma is adamant that we get the bigger cake, one that can serve about 100 people, so we were gonna go with that for 150 bucks.

Well, today I was playing around online and found DIY how-tos for making some BEAUTIFUL cake stands. I looked everywhere for a platter that is big enough to hold the biggest bottom layer of the tiered cake, and couldn't find anything that I liked. So I thought, maybe I could see if it'd be cheaper to just get regular round cakes, and stagger them ourselves with my DIY cake stands? I called Sam's Club (whose cake I find to be MUCH better than Wal-Mart's, strangely enough considering they're owned by the same company) and they have 10" round cakes for 13 bucks each. Ding ding ding, we have a winner!! That would make our cake only cost us about 40 bucks, instead of 150. Can't beat that deal.

So when FI came home, I explained the idea, showed him my concept for the cake stands, and he seemed to like it. But then he spent the rest of the night whining that he wanted to have a "real" wedding cake. Silly me, I thought that a wedding cake was defined as cake that is served at a wedding, not by whether or not the layers were stacked on top of each other, lol! He eventually did agree that it's a better option, and I showed him lots of pictures of other real weddings that had their cakes set up like that. But he's still complaining a bit about it.

I guess I just don't understand, I would have been happy with a sheet cake from Costco to be honest, because I think their cake is divine. But god forbid we do something like that, or else our entire wedding would be invalid all because we got a cake that isn't a "real" wedding cake. lol :)
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  • lindaloulubbocklindaloulubbock
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    edited December 2011
    That is funny!  I really like that look of the separate cakes on staggered stands!

    I decided to DIY our cake (I did my sisters stacked basketweave wedding cake for 200+ and it wasn't bad at all), but I said the exact same thing about Costco--if I get too stressed out at the last minute, I'll bake a small cake for us and just buy sheet cake at Costco. 


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  • Sue-n-KevinSue-n-Kevin member
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    edited December 2011
    We are also doing the Costco sheet cake. I know for some brides wedding cakes are a BIG deal, but our budget is so limited I can't see spending a lot.

    Our caterer has a bakery and the cakes I've seen in their "cake book" look great. Their food is awesome, so I'm assuming their cake would be too. A 2 tiered "token cake" is $86 with flavored fillings. That will be for the bridal party, and we'll have 2 white Costco cakes in the kitchen to be cut and placed out for guests.
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  • SarahkayfaSarahkayfa
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    edited December 2011
    Good for you! I love the cake stand idea, and I love the fact that you're getting such a good price! Your FI will come around...Maybe put a little cake topper on one or a few fresh flowers so he'll feel more weddingy. 

    Instead of printed invitations, save the dates & wedding announcements, I threw out the idea of writing a personal note to each guest & relative. My partner nixed the idea instantly, saying he wanted to 'do things right.' As if not having printed stationary nullifies our marriage. It's really funny the wedding details that men care about.
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  • fireytigerfireytiger member
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    edited December 2011
    Well we do have a cake topper, and I had planned on for the other two maybe doing small arrangements of lilies and roses, so they're not bare. But FI said "OMG that's not a REAL wedding cake, I wanted to have a real one!" and I said to him, "Uh, FI, people do this ALL THE TIME. It's still a real wedding cake, lol" and he said "But I wanted the stacked wedding cake, this isn't really a real wedding cake because it's not stacked!" The funny thing is, he actually LOVES the idea of the cake stands, he got into it when I was asking him his opinions on what we should use for it, how they should look, etc. He even said "that will be really pretty, I love the pretty woman for her pretty smart ideas!" lol and then boom, freakout because it's not a "real" cake.

    FI's family probably won't mind it at all, although if it were a sheet cake, they would be like "ehhh, that's not right". I don't know WHY, I know I would LOVE it if I went to a wedding and had a costco sheet cake served instead of a big tiered thing. Why? Because costco cakes are actually GOOD! I have never in my life touched a wedding cake that wasn't dry and flavorless.  If I'd gotten our cake through our caterer, it probably would have been the first exception to that, because their cakes were unbelievably moist and delicious. But I would still prefer costco cake. I just wish they did round ones instead of just sheet cake, I would totally get a costco membership just for those cakes, lol.
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  • SarahkayfaSarahkayfa
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    edited December 2011
    I'm sure he'll be fine once he gets a chance to enjoy your delicious cake.
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  • fireytigerfireytiger member
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    edited December 2011
    I'm not going to stack the cakes, and i'm not baking them myself. I'm going to buy three round 10" cakes, and have each cake sitting on it's own individual stand. I've held those cakes before, a 10" round cake is NOT that heavy. I'm also not seeing how it's less work for me to buy the cake at wal-mart either, considering we still have to pick up the tiered cake, haul it to the venue, then set it up on... you guessed it, a cake stand. Which as you say, a tiered wedding cake is heavy, so i'd still have to pay for a cake stand that can withstand that weight.

    My experience with Wal-Mart cakes is they are dry, bland, and overall nasty, I've NEVER eaten a wal-mart cake that wasn't bad. I really don't want to pay them 150 dollars for a cake that I know is going to be crappy, just so I can say I had a tiered cake. Maybe if they delivered it and set it up too for that price, but they don't.
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  • wolfsmagic13wolfsmagic13
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    edited December 2011
    I like your idea of the cakes and I am sure your FI will come around.  We are going with a slab cake with a smaller cake on top for us (the anniversary cake) because my FI wants to do things in a semi traditional way as he didn't the first time for himself however doesn't want toasts or a receiving line which I know is mortifying my step mom (myself included) to the core.
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  • handfast4mehandfast4me member
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    edited December 2011
    You may want to practice this cake before the actual day of.  My sister, makes wedding cakes on the side, and she practiced my daughter's wedding cake a couple of times before the wedding.  She's been hired dozens of times for weddings, but still wanted to practice for DD's wedding.  She stated that the hardest thing was making sure that the rounds were EXACTLY in the middle of the one underneath.   She put fondant over each layer separately, and then decorated with black, as the kids wanted.

    I'm not getting a picture in my head of rounds that are all the same size.  Will they then just be stacked, and all the same size, or are you going to cut them down? That's also tricky. 

    I'm not sure I would add the stress of assembling a cake to the already stressful day of getting married.  But that's me. 
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  • fireytigerfireytiger member
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    edited December 2011
    Again, I am NOT making my own cake! lol I'm BUYING the cakes already made. I'm not stacking them either, each cake will have it's own cake stand, which is what I said I was going to DIY, was the cake STANDS, not the cake. That's what FI is complaining about, is the fact that the cakes aren't going to be stacked, and he thinks that makes it not a "real" wedding cake.
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  • calo1983calo1983 member
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    edited December 2011
    sounds like a great idea to me! where did you find the diy cake stands thing? and are they three seperate stansd or is it one that has three tiers? i saw one that has three tiers at either joanns or michals and it was pretty neat made it look like the cake was floating! anyways...if you could post the link it would be appreciated! we need to cut the cust anywhere we can and this sounds like an awesome idea!
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  • fireytigerfireytiger member
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    edited December 2011
    http://eatdrinkpretty.blogspot.com/2010/09/diy-cakestand-tutorial.html Here you go! This is the tutorial I used, although I'm making trays with three "legs" instead of just one in the middle for the cakes, just for extra reassurance that they're not going anywhere. ;)
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