FI and I were fighting yesterday because he stared to say I keep adding people to the guest list and now he feels like a bank (we are paying ourselves, 50% him, 50% me)!
The only people I added were my cousin's FI (she got engaged in Dec, I didn't even know she was dating) and my niece's BF (didn't know she was seeing anyone either).
He feels I shouldn't invite my niece's FI because he's never met him (and he doesn't really care for my niece, but that's another story). I tried to explain it's not the point of not meeting him, don't like whomever, it's that they are a couple and must be invited as a couple. Period. It's proper and would be rude if I didn't.
He also doesn't want me to invite another cousin because we never got a thank you from her wedding last July (she put monetary gifts accepted on the invitation and cashed our check the day after the wedding). She's my cousin, and besides this act of rudeness has always been a great cousin. I'm not going to NOT invite her because of a thank you note. He wants me to be rude and not invite her.
Adding up alcohol costs (we're having beer/wine/sig. drink, he wants people to pay for their drinks. I said no because it's rude!!! He said we'll never "break even" (ugh!) and he doesn't want to be in debt because of drinks and hosting extra people he doesn't want there.
I don't understand where this is all coming from, as we set the budget first and are STILL under budget! We're not even going into debt or anything! Just needed to vent.
ETA: He gets that way every couple of months about the wedding and starts to stress, but after a few days he starts to realize we have it covered. He's just stressing because it will be the most money we've spent on anything (obviously), but we aren't going into debt. He just has a hard time parting with money, period.