September 2012 Weddings

Irritations of the day...

I had asked for a breakdown from my venue of the taxes/fees that would apply to certain things because some of the bill is being covered by my parents and some by FI's parents.  So I got the breakdown, and the total of the two numbers added up to the grand total amount.  Well, we have already paid a $600 deposit, and it appeared that was included in the amounts given.  I e-mailed the coordinator to clarify that this was the case, and she e-mailed back that that amount was NOT included in the numbers.  So I tried to explain that the total appears to be the grand total, not the total due.  She seemed annoyed and confused.  Finally, she added the numbers herself, and I think she saw what I meant.  She's going to check with the accountant again.  My biggest annoyance was that she seemed annoyed with me.  I'm a person that only really questions things when I'm pretty sure I'm right about it, so the fact that my question annoyed her irritated me.  I really haven't been contacting her all the time or anything, so I'm not sure...maybe it was a case of the Mondays.

And then, this was lovely.  I had everything I could do to nod and smile.  My FMIL threw a shower for me with FI's side's guests, many of whom I didn't know.  When I got the invitation it said FMIL, grandma, and two aunts (FFIL's sister and his SIL) were hosting.  Ok, great.  It was a lovely shower.  Well, we were about to leave FIs parents place when FFIL says to me, "make sure when you write your thank you notes to include a line thanking the aunts for helping with the shower."  Seriously?  I think I've written a thank you note before.  In fact, I did it two weeks ago at my side's shower.  And, I have a mother and father that taught me how to appropriately write a thank you note.  I just said, uh huh.  But it was one of those things where I almost didn't want to write that because he felt he had to tell me.  I, of course, did thank them for their hard work, but that irritated me to no end. 

I think the fact that it's two months away is getting to me, and maybe a lot of us on here, since I see a lot more venting now.  I'm glad this board is here!  Thanks for letting me vent!

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Re: Irritations of the day...

  • I agree, I think we are all getting pretty aggrivated at stuff we typically wouldn't now that we are getting down the wire.  But $600 is alot of money and you have every right to question it!

    A couple of weeks ago FI and I had our final meeting with the church.  FMIL kept telling us make sure you sit up straight, smile, look happy, dont talk back etc;....really?!?!?  #1- I learned all that from my own parents years ago #2- I think I know how to act in church!!

    Ugggh- gotta love the futue in laws (I hope we aren't like that when we become the in laws) lol

  • I'm glad someone else has similar experiences!!  I did get a response that the $600 was indeed included in the totals and then they were adjusted.  So that's good. 
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    Once upon a time, there was a boy who loved a girl, and her laughter was a question he wanted to spend his whole life answering.
  • That is awesome news :)
  • Glad you questioned it!  I think people either are afraid to question or totally lash out without questioning things in a reasonable manner so I think you handled it well.

    And wow yea that would drive me crazy about FFIL saying that.  I HATE when people fish for thank yous or compliments.  It makes me not want to.
  • Yes, frustrations are running high. It seems like things that might night irritate me before irritate me now. Hopefully it will mellow so I can enjoy my last month of engagment !!
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