Grooms parents don't get along!

Re: Grooms parents don't get along!

• RoxysMama

  

  September 2010

  Personally I think you should only have one reception and they should both be invited.  They are both adults and like it or not they need to act like.  Plus if you did a 2 day reception who would you invite to part one and part two. Would you just invite the same guests and have 1 for mom and 1 for dad.  That could backfire and turn into why wasn't I invited to the 1st party?  I think it is best just to bite the bullet, plan one wedding, one reception and hope that they both suck it up, put on their big kid pants and behave!
  
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• jojobrn member

  

  September 2010

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_grooms-parents-dont-along?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:d2601fd8-8701-4f6b-81bd-7eb25654fd6fPost:d61e5553-9173-45f0-a24e-fe2665e925e5">Grooms parents don't get along!</a>:
  [QUOTE]Help!  My fiance's parents don't get along at all.  The can't even be in the same room together.  His mother even says he is "betraying" her for choosing to still have a relationship with his father.  We are getting married in Vegas.  His mother will most likely come to the wedding.  For the reception, should I invite the father and not the mother?  Or should I do a two day reception where they can each come a different day?  My fiance doesn't seem to know what to do either and keeps putting the decision off.  I would welcome ANY ideas!!!
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  </div><div>Invite both, remind them they are grown ups and should behave as such.
  
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• mysticl member

  

  September 2010

  If you hold separate events for each of them now you are setting yourself up for that for the rest of your life.  They will each demand their own b-day party for the grandchildren, their own Christmas, their own Thanksgiving, etc. 
  
  My step-sis hosts Thanksgiving every year.  She invites her mother and her father and her step-mother (my mother) and me as well as a bunch of other friends and family.  Everyone knows who is on the guest list and if they don't like it they can stay home.  Her mother hugs me and is very excited about my wedding (no she is not invited).  We take the blended family to a whole new level, but not that far.  BTW I do drink more on Thanksgiving Day then any other day of the year. 
  
  Somewhere along the line everyone decided that it was better to give the kids (my step-nieces/nephews) a well adjusted/supportive family than still battle out the old hurts and drama. 
  

  

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• flower_diva member

  

  September 2010

  these selfish people are forgetting this day is NOT about them....invite them and if they come ,if they don't play nice,  have them escorted from the room .You husband to be is respondsible to talk to both of them and inform them of the consequences .If they try to make you feel guilty about the decisions you mare making...tell them ...it is their choice and if they choose not to come....you will miss them .  end of story

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• lexandfab member

  

  September 2010

  Hold one reception and I say that because this is a celebration of you and FI's new life together. It's not a 'test' of who will show up, but people who love you both should recognize this day is about your love and commitment to be together, not a nod of indulgence to their own childish behavior

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