Wedding Confessional Booth Monday!

Mademoiselle D · August 2012

Confession time! Let out whatever has been bugging or worriedyou about wedding planning which you haven't told anyone about.

Mademoiselle D · August 2012

I am truly hoping the majority of our OOT guests will return their rsvp cards with "decline with regret". We are expecting a bit over of 100 guests and that's not including our immediate family (parents and siblings) and the few children who will attend. I know it's terrible to want this but I'm crossing my fingers about it!

minionlover · August 2012

I confess that I get a little down everytime I hear about or see a bridal shower. I know that no one is going to have one for me since it is my second wedding. I don't even want gifts, just a little luncheon that's all. My parents don't get along with FI's mom so I don't see a combined family affair either. Oh well I guess that's life though right?

missv19732000 · August 2012

It's my 2nd wedding too and I'm not having a bridal shower or a bachlorette party. I don't think it's a big deal, but that's me. I have been getting a little anxious because my FI and I have never lived together. We will not be living together until after the wedding. I'm feeling a little overwhelmed, because I am scared about not living up to his expectations. I've talked to him about it and we've went over what exactly each other's expectations are of marriage, but I guess because I have a divorce under my belt I am scared of failing again. Plus, there are kids involved on both sides (we each have 2!) But I think it is all normal stuff, just wish I didn't feel this way :-(

LaMaFa · August 2012

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[QUOTE]It's my 2nd wedding too and I'm not having a bridal shower or a bachlorette party. I don't think it's a big deal, but that's me. I have been getting a little anxious because my FI and I have never lived together. We will not be living together until after the wedding. I'm feeling a little overwhelmed, because I am scared about not living up to his expectations. I've talked to him about it and we've went over what exactly each other's expectations are of marriage, but I guess because I have a divorce under my belt I am scared of failing again. Plus, there are kids involved on both sides (we each have 2!) But I think it is all normal stuff, just wish I didn't feel this way :-(
Posted by missv19732000[/QUOTE]
Is there anyway you could do a trial week or two living at each other's houses? It might end up a little bit tight on space for the kids, but it could be fun for them, kind of like a camp-out sort of thing. That way you get a little more opportunity to see how each other live and start figuring out if there are going to be any things you'll need to figure out compromises about. Then it might be a little less nerve wracking and stressful for you after the wedding when you do move in together. And i suggest a week at each house, because you'll be different in your own environment than you might be at the other's house (where you feel more like a guest than a resident).
Also, I think the fact that you don't want this relationship to fail is positive, you want to find ways to work together so your family can be happy and healthy (in all meanings). It tells me that you expect to face some challenges and that you want to be as prepared as possible to handle them together for the best interests of your new, combined family. Any marriage is a scary thing, I think we all worry at some point about it failing- but healthy dialogue between you two is the key to preventing that. Don't shut him out or shut down for no reason, make an effort to talk, or at least plan a specific time to go back to it and talk if you're too emotional right then. Pre-marital counseling could be helpful too in easing your fears and making you more comfortable in your marriage. GL!

LaMaFa · August 2012

I am seriously starting to freak out that my exchanged stamps will not come in by the deadline for sending out the invites! I want to have them sent by no later than next Friday and there is no sign of those stamps! AGGHH! I haven't told my mom about the stamps (she paid for them for us) because she really liked the original ones we ordered but they didn't match ANYthing about our wedding! So when I got them in, I filled out the exchange order form & sent it back, but like 2 weeks ago. I really feel like I'm gonna have to go bridezilla if they aren't in by the end of this week! And then I'm going to have to 'fess up to my mom about the exchange... so NOT looking forward to that convo (if it has to happen).

missv19732000 · August 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Wedding Confessional Booth Monday! : Is there anyway you could do a trial week or two living at each other's houses? It might end up a little bit tight on space for the kids, but it could be fun for them, kind of like a camp-out sort of thing. That way you get a little more opportunity to see how each other live and start figuring out if there are going to be any things you'll need to figure out compromises about. Then it might be a little less nerve wracking and stressful for you after the wedding when you do move in together. And i suggest a week at each house, because you'll be different in your own environment than you might be at the other's house (where you feel more like a guest than a resident). Also, I think the fact that you don't want this relationship to fail is positive, you want to find ways to work together so your family can be happy and healthy (in all meanings). It tells me that you expect to face some challenges and that you want to be as prepared as possible to handle them together for the best interests of your new, combined family. Any marriage is a scary thing, I think we all worry at some point about it failing- but healthy dialogue between you two is the key to preventing that. Don't shut him out or shut down for no reason, make an effort to talk, or at least plan a specific time to go back to it and talk if you're too emotional right then. Pre-marital counseling could be helpful too in easing your fears and making you more comfortable in your marriage. GL!
Posted by LaMaFa[/QUOTE]

We've done plenty of "trial runs" and they've been fine. The kids all love each other, although every now and then his daughter and my daughter stop talking to each other (his daughter has an overbearing personality and my daughter will choose to just ignore her when his daughter is in one of her "moods" - typical girl stuff, in my opinion).

You have good points...I do sometimes shut down and then talk about it with him later on. He is such a selfless, understanding man (I'm lucky) and just let's me have my "moments" but then later he reassures me that things are and will be fine! I just have to continue to be open with my feelings and I think things get better.

STBMrsDio · August 2012

I'm with you Dania, we invited 140. I want 100 to show, it's destination so I'm hoping that pisses people off enough to not come. That and us not allowing kids. I know it's bad but I wanted immediate family and my Mother invited some pleople I'd rather not say my vows in front of lol.

JaxJ128 · August 2012

Im at 120 invites and I truly only wanted 100 as well....we're paying 133 person so an extra 20 is alot! And of course those are people that were invited because of my mom/FI's mom ....I guess this happens to everyone. They say its safe to say 10% wont show so it should be okay. Im also not inviting children so I really hope theres no drama with some of my family members and my cousins.

JaxJ128 · August 2012

PS I dont know how to add this Monthly siggys to my posts...can anyone help me? Id like to do it! Thank u

thebtflbride · August 2012

It's my second wedding too, but my matron of honor offered to host the bridal shower in her home and my bridesmaids are all helping out. Since we have all the "house" things, and someone told me that I shouldn't have a shower and not ask for gifts, so we are doing lingerie. (which I will use for my boudior session) its going to be small, women only brunch. I hope one of our bridesmaids picks up on the fact you might want one. Good luck.

Mademoiselle D · August 2012

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[QUOTE]PS I dont know how to add this Monthly siggys to my posts...can anyone help me? Id like to do it! Thank u
Posted by JaxJ128[/QUOTE]
Here are directions for getting pictures into your signature

What if I want to add a photo to my sig?Upload a photo to photobucket.com or tinypic.com. You do not need to create an account to use tinypic.com. Copy the url for “Direct Link” (it should end in .jpg or .png). Paste it between the quotation marks in the following and delete the space: <img src="pictureurl.jpg" width="200px" />

 Copy and paste that formula into the signature box. You can adjust the size of your sig by changing the number, but 200 is generally a good size.

Let me know if it works!

catsai2386 · August 2012

I am sick of hearing from the peanut gallery on things they do not like but then do not offer any suggestions in return. Also I am sick of people going against what I want because "they want it' even though they have both been married before. For example, stupid wine bottles in the oot guest bags. I do not find this necessary however, I am being told "its the right thing to do". Meanwhile at her wedding, she didn't even make OOT bags!! GRRR!
Also, I know I am not supposed to plan my own Bachelorette party but all the bridesmaids want to do something but will not help me think of anything. My MOH is not interested at all and everything I come up with is "that's too girly" or "thats not fun enough". AAAAAHHHHH!!!
I am planning it and am just getting fed up with everyone having things they like and dislike and refuse to do. I am not a wild person so I am not coming up with immoral things. I posted before about paintball and all the girls do not have a problem because we are given masks and we will wear jackets etc. but my parents are pissed because they think everyone will show up with bruises.
I am just starting to get discouraged at how no one is willing to work with me and compromise but no one is willing to offer suggestions but they all want to do something!

sorry for the rant

JaxJ128 · August 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_florida-south-florida_wedding-confessional-booth-monday-7?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:67Discussion:c859566e-48cb-4ff1-9a1f-cb68caed0403Post:993ad918-c425-489a-a085-c72979f74c8e">Re: Wedding Confessional Booth Monday!</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Wedding Confessional Booth Monday! : Here are directions for getting pictures into your signature What if I want to add a photo to my sig? Upload a photo to photobucket.com or tinypic.com. You do not need to create an account to use tinypic.com. Copy the url for “Direct Link” (it should end in .jpg or .png). Paste it between the quotation marks in the following and delete the space: <img src="pictureurl.jpg" width="200px" /> Copy and paste that formula into the signature box. You can adjust the size of your sig by changing the number, but 200 is generally a good size. Let me know if it works!
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</div><div>thanks so much! It worked but how do I center it all now??

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