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Mom not invited??

RochelleAnn2302RochelleAnn2302
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Ok I don't really know how to take this. My mom wasn't invited to a bridal shower thrown for me by my fiance's mother and sister. They live in the same town and it seems very rude to me not to include the bride's mother in this type of event. They didn't invite my grandmother or any of my bridesmaids either who mostly live in the area. Should I say something to them? How to I handle this? I know over 30 invites went out (b/c they were explain to me they had to buy more) and NOT just their family, their friends are included. I never saw the guest list so I have no idea who they invited but I know my bridesmaid's mom got one, but not my bridesmaid. Frown
what to do?
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  • Whippet8Whippet8 member
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    edited December 2011
    Maybe your FMIL and FSIL assumed that they would know they were invited? I only say that because your BMs mother got one, and BM didn't.

    If it was me in that situation, I probably would have had DH bring something up casually to his mother and sister...since I wouldn't feel close enough to really ask them.

    I feel like it's mostly some type of miscommunication, or idea that maybe each side of the family throws a shower? I'm not sure.
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  • banana468banana468 member
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    edited December 2011
    I'll echo the casual DH mention.  
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  • MairePoppyMairePoppy mod
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    edited December 2011
    The MOB, MOG, grandmothers, sisters and bms should get courtesy invites to all showers. Have your fiance talk to his mom about it so she won't be embarrassed.
                       
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  • SuMmErKuTiESuMmErKuTiE member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_pre-wedding-parties_mom-not-invited?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:32Discussion:1bdbd7d0-42f0-4661-ae68-09e7fa3fde98Post:115a023d-abe1-46a9-9736-3ca0450b8d22">Re: Mom not invited??</a>:
    [QUOTE]The MOB, MOG, grandmothers, sisters and bms should get courtesy invites to all showers. Have your fiance talk to his mom about it so she won't be embarrassed.
    Posted by MairePoppy[/QUOTE]

    Ditto this ;0)
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  • RochelleAnn2302RochelleAnn2302
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    edited December 2011
    Thanks! I'll have him say something. I just wanted to be sure that I was not mistaken that they should get an invite!
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  • 526SadieSadie526SadieSadie
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    edited December 2011
    Don't stress, it might just be a very simple oversight.  I couldn't find my official list and was making a second list of people invited to my wedding to make triple sure that I'd have enough return envelopes and I forgot my sister (and MOH) I remembered my FI's distant cousins who he doesn't know well and I've never met, but my sister, my best friend in the whole world, I forgot.  They might have just innocently forgot to count your mom in, or they assumed she knew she was invited!
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  • fallingwaterfallingwater
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    edited December 2011

    My mom just went to a bridal shower that was thrown by the bride's mom.  The bridesmaids are throwing one next month, and the bride's coworkers will also be throwing one for her next month.  I don't know about you guys but I had one.  Anyway, I guess as long as mom is invited to the one thrown by the bridesmaids, which I guess should be the main one, then you really don't have an issue.  Yes, your mom should have been invited, but in the case of my mom's friend - the brides mother won't be invited to the one that the brides coworkers are throwing. 

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  • mhickey426mhickey426 member
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    edited December 2011
    I agree with all of this but if they just figured they were all coming shouldnt they tell them where and when the shower is. I would have one of them ask where and when the shower is to see what they say so u dont look like the bad guy or stupid to think that they arent invited if they really are
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