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Added Guests

kel50785kel50785 member
10 Comments First Anniversary
in Texas-Dallas and Ft. Worth
So my FI came to me last night saying that his mom's friend won't be able to make it to the wedding so his grandma would like to invite another person.  I told him that's not how it works, everytime someone says no we add someone else.  He doesn't even know who the lady is that his grandma wants to invite. His parents aren't helping w/ the wedding and are already inviting 20 ppl that neither myself or FI know.  Am I being a brat by telling him no more ppl can be added?
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  • crash2729crash2729 member
    Seventh Anniversary 2500 Comments 5 Love Its
    No because it could very easily get out of hand. 
    Also, since your wedding is so close. I'm assuming your invites have gone out? 
    Grandma's friend may feel like she was "B-listed" and get her feelings hurt.
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  • professorscienceprofessorscience member
    5000 Comments Third Anniversary 25 Love Its Name Dropper
    You are not being a brat.  Especially if your invitations have already gone out.  That's crazy rude.  If they haven't gone out, just have your FI tell your FMIL (no matter how much she loves or doesn't love you, this message will be better received from her son) that the guest list has been finalized and you are sending an invite to the original person JUST IN CASE their plans change.

    Now, I don't see a problem with inviting people you don't know (I did at first, but I came around).  My husband's dad works in accounting for doctors, so we ended up inviting several of his clients.  I looked at our wedding as a family celebration, so after losing my mind a little, I was fine with inviting some strangers.  It really wasn't that big of a deal.
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  • ktwed1ktwed1
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    You are not being a brat. Once the guest list is finalized that should be it. Things can get really out of hand if people keep getting added. So best thing is to have FI explain that just because some people may not make it is no reason to keep adding.
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  • AshJohnson30AshJohnson30 member
    100 Comments Second Anniversary
    Nope you aren't being a brat at all! Just because someone says they can't come doesn't mean they won't end up showing up. We've been dealing with this. Just communicate that the list you currently have is final. Some people's feelings may get hurt but it's y'alls wedding.
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  • roseofdeborahroseofdeborah
    500 Comments
     No, I've been going through this too. If people haven't been invited by this point they can't come! Especially plus 1's which my FI doesn't get, Most of his friends are single and he's like oh make sure to bring someone...I could slap him sometimes.
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  • kel50785kel50785 member
    10 Comments First Anniversary
    Thanks Ladies! That makes me feel much better.  I haven't sent out invites but am getting them out next week.  My FI is thinking I'm being harsh by not adding more people but his parents are adding all this stuff to me last minute and don't want the guest list to be another thing!
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