So the wedding is over and I am starting my vedor reviews (the last thing I have on my checklist)! DH and I were beyond happy with just about everything for our wedding. The venue, our DOC, the food, the cake, the flowers, the bar service, the photography and the videography, all exceptionl. The only thing that was extremely disappointing was our DJ. In short, the music he decided to play throughout the night was very hit/miss. We also had some very big issues that happened that defintiely affected the reception (one involving our cake cutting song being played without DH even being in the room). We had several guests approach us during the evening to share comments with us about the music during the reception, but DH and I were both just too busy to really focus on what was happening. It wasn't until after the wedding, when our dj sent us a link of all the music played from cocktail hour until the end of the reception, that we were clued in to what our guests were trying to tell us. Dinner hour music was horrible, depressing and slow and lasted for what seemed to be FOREVER. Dance music was all over the place, couldn't get our crowd going, songs were being faded out way before they were finished, too many slow songs back to back, etc. Just a jumbled mess honestly.
So, I waited until last week to start writing my review of our dj, because I wanted to let some time pass and really process everything so I could write a fair review. I posted my review on WeddingChannel.com and honestly, it expressed some of the issues we had, but it wasn't written in a mean way at all. I even gave props to the music selected for our cocktail hour because, it was really good! I did say that our dj was the biggest dissappointment of our wedding, because to us, he was! I still have guests talking to me about the music.
Well, the day after I wrote my review, the dj messaged me on Facebook and told me that "the review would stay up forever, it was going to hurt his business, it hurt his feelings and would I please consider removing it." Seriously??? He never once expressed concern over the fact that we were not happy. He never asked what went wrong, what made us feel the way we did. He was only concerned with how he was going to be hurt by this review. I chose not to respond to his message because, I didn't feel I owed him any explaination since he wasn't even willing to try and find out what our side of the situation was. Then on Friday, he posted on Facebook "psycho clients go away, don't come back any other day." I was like, really? This was followed by another email from him telling me that he is a God loving, hard working individual whose business I am trying to ruin by my review. That what I said was full of lies, that it wasn't very Classy Kat, and that he wished me and DH good luck because if this is any indication of how I am, that we were going to need it. OMG - I was so angry on Friday!! Who does this??? Especially knowing that there are several review sites that I can post on, and that I could also include his comments that he made via email to me. Isn't the whole point of giving a review so that other clients can get both good and bad feedback about the vendor so they can have a better idea of who they might be hiring? I am wondering now if he has done this to other clients who may have written a negative review, badgering them and being mean to them until they take their negative review down, because on his website and on other review sites, there are only positive comments (one of the major reasons we selected him for our wedding).
And after all of this, late Friday night, he went to one of my wedding photos on Facebook and "liked" it. That creeped me out...and completely felt like a passive/aggresive move. I plan on removing him from my FB list and will also write additional reviews on WeddingWire.com and Yelp but, do you ladies think I should do anything else about this guy? I think it will all blow over in time but, my venue has him as a preferred vendor and I would truly hate for other couples to go through this experience because I didn't do something more.
Have any of you had to experience this yet? I would love your feedback. I know vendors are not allowed to be on our boards but, as creepy as he has been, I would not be surprised if he wasn't stalking this board and my local board, to see if I posted anything about him - which is why I am not stating his name or the name of his business.
*edited for corrections