So this is a really strange situation.
Our dear friend/GM passed away just a couple of weeks after we were engaged in August. His mother was always crazy, his father died several years ago, and his sister is a total crack head - legitimately.
The crazy has picked up significantly since his passing and because of her harassment and inappropriate comments towards myself, FI, and our group of friends we have all severed ties with her and no longer speak to her. It's a very sad situation, and I empathize with how difficult her life has been, but there comes a point where she began to attempt to taint our memories of him and that isn't right.
We have chosen to not invite her to the wedding for that reason. She would also make a total scene and be horrible and ruin the night for everyone there. He would not want that to happen at our wedding.
She has been stalking FIs and my own facebook page and got a hold of our wedding website. She sent both of us an email today (we have no idea how she got our emails because we both blocked her on facebook when we figured it out). The email said all sorts of junk that I am not going to get in to here, but the biggest issue is since she found the website she knows where the venue is and the date. She told me she is planning to attend and bring her nephew (even if she was invited she wouldn't be allowed to bring a +1) and if he ends up not being able to make it she is going to contact friend x, y, and z about bringing her (they have all cut off communication as well). She also wanted to discuss with us which photo of her son we want to print BIG and put on an easel at the front of the ceremony and reception because we are apparently also having a memorial service for him there.
She has fabricated all of this nonsense in her mind and I don't know what to do. We replied to her email saying a firm no, she is not invited because her presence is not appropriate, etc etc. We are waiting for her response which we are not looking forward to.
When I spoke with my mother about this she thinks we need to hire a security guard to look out for her showing up and escort her away if she leaves and she will pay for it. Is this really necessary? Would you do it?
I suppose this was also sort of a vent because I'm saddened and frustrated by this situation. Ugh. Thanks for reading