In case anyone has seen my previous thread, I have some family drama that was crazy and some wrong on my part, but has now been cleared/forgiven. But now I have more family drama, this time I don't believe Im out of line. But I need advice/opions anyway.
So fiance & I are both Pagan, different paths but we share mostly common beliefs. His family is a mix of Christian & Catholic, and most of them are openminded about his religious path. Some are not so open, but they keep their opinons to themselves.
My family is a same mix as well, though my problem lies with my parents. They are "born again Christians". I know there are many different types of christians, but this is what my parents are.
For the sake of family involvement, we've decided to have an open ceremony, with our Pagan beliefs in place of the "god" parts, but it will still be traditional with vows and the like. Pretty much it is with our faith but easy enough for non-pagans to understand the ceremony & also to not be offended.
Fiance's family & friends love the idea, saying "it's your wedding we are there to celebrate it your way" Things like that. Most of my friends & family think the same. Except my parents. They tell me they don't know if they can be there because of their beliefs, and they need to speak to their pastor.
Growing up w them I know how conservative and alot of times extreme they can be, but still this shocked me. This is my second wedding (fiance's 1st) & that was a court wedding the 1st time. So I want them to be here for this one, I want my dad to walk me down the aisle. I tell them I understand that they may feel it's wrong to be involved, but you can just be guests instead of being in the wedding party portion. They tell me no they dont think they can be there at all because they can't support witchcraft. It's evil. Yeah, this isn't the first time I've heard that. They've told me times before that they want to spend as much time with me as possible because they know they wont see me when they pass on (a rude indirect way of saying you're going to hell).
They told me they will think about it and seek advice from their pastor. That was 5 months ago. My wedding isnt til May 2012, so I've got time for guest list. But I've asked only a couple times if they've thought about it, & everytime they skirt around it. So what do I do? Decide on my own not to include them, wait endlessly for them to stop being snobby, move on? I don't know what to do, my fiance is supportive no matter what.
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