HELP- Wedding Dress

Re: HELP- Wedding Dress

• jenandcris member

  

  May 2010 edited December 2011

  ... I know how you feel. I'm in the midst of finding THE dress, too. I'm on my 12 month mark though... and you're supposedly supposed to order your dress by at least 8 months? I'm having the opposite problem... I guess. Nothing seems to look good on me. )o: FI will like one sillouhette (mermaid, trumpet), but I like more flowy dresses... I'm going to Priscilla of Boston appointment on Saturday... my mom is SURE that I'll find a dress I love there (her dress was also from POB)- she's even flying in from OH.
  
  I'm thinking that if you keep going back to that one particular dress, the Casablanca 1936, then maybe you need to stop looking for dresses per se and focus on finding shops that carry that particular style? Maybe you need to branch towards other states, like RI or MA or NY? A friend of mine was set on a particular dress, but it was discontinued. She recently found her dress on eBay and went all the way to CA to look at and purchase the dress.
  
  Edit: I'm a plain person, too... I guess. I'm a t-shirts and jeans (and sneakers... or 4" heels!!) kinda girl.  So whereas I'll look for dresses with very minimal beading or lace, FI and my mom looove embroidery, beading, rouching... Ehh. It's hard to win.

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• skarupak

  

  May 2010 edited December 2011

  Honestly, I had an incredibly hard time picking out a dress and I chalked it up to my personality. I tend to be a perfectionist and I realized that I would probably never find everything that I wanted in one dress, at least one within my price range. I also did not like the high pressure dress store environment. Ultimately I went to the Running of the Brides in Boston and found a dress that I really liked but that needed some alterations to make it fit my ideal. I saved a BUNCH buying my dress that way and then brought it to a good seamstress who has made it into a one of a kind!
  
  We as brides all imagine we will look a certain way on our wedding day and it is hard to then bring that image into reality. Sometimes the siloquette we think we want doesn't flatter, or nothing really stands out. We expect a "knowing" feeling and we panic when it doesn't come. It puts a lot of pressure on us. For me, I knew I had to buy the dress that I bought because instead of staring myself down in the mirror I closed my eyes and imagined myself in the dress in front of my FI walking down the aisle. I got really emotional about it and realized that I looked great in this dress and that I could see myself in it in that moment, and that was what mattered.
  

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• skarupak

  

  May 2010 edited December 2011

  I wanted to add too that this is what I hate most about the wedding/marriage: the expectations going into it. Sometimes I even hold poor FI to those standards i created in my head of the perfect groom. He's not perfect, he doesn't have every single quality I could want in a husband. He also has qualities that I never realized I needed. Sometimes I have to remind myself that as much as I wanted A, B, and C, just having A and B and also getting X, Y, and Z is more than enough. I think a dress can be very similar. Once you find a "good fit" you just have to stop looking at other options and commit, haha.

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• smore154

  

  May 2010 edited December 2011

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_connecticut_wedding-dress-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:65Discussion:d1878254-fb70-46ee-9288-bfa284fbaf52Post:51755350-bd14-4cbd-bca2-274ec6ae5484">Re: HELP- Wedding Dress</a>:
  [QUOTE]I wanted to add too that this is what I hate most about the wedding/marriage: the expectations going into it. Sometimes I even hold poor FI to those standards i created in my head of the perfect groom. He's not perfect, he doesn't have every single quality I could want in a husband. He also has qualities that I never realized I needed. Sometimes I have to remind myself that as much as I wanted A, B, and C, just having A and B and also getting X, Y, and Z is more than enough. I think a dress can be very similar. Once you find a "good fit" you just have to stop looking at other options and commit, haha.
  Posted by skarupak[/QUOTE]
  
  Omg you girls are saying exactly what is in my head right now!!! I thought I was going a little nuts, and thinking about it way too much (probably am)- but with all the stories of "I found mine after the first dress I tried on" or " I cried so hard when I found mine" I was like REALLY!? Where are the water works or the "THIS IS IT!" moment. I realized on Saturday that was not gonna happen to me- it is so comforting to know I am not the only one, and the advice you are giving is sooo great!! thank you!

  

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• runtome

  

  May 2010 edited December 2011

  My problem is I keep seeing ones that I like. I think I found it and the poof not the fave anymore.

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• Vikki2pay member

  

  May 2010 edited December 2011

  I had the same issue, I had a hard time finding exactly what I wanted.  I knew I wanted a ballgown, but I just couldn't find the right one.  And honestly when I found the dress I knew it was the one, but I never had that moment where I cried, but I just knew the dress was right when I put it on.
  
  Take your time and you will find it.

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• ggmae member

  

  May 2010 edited December 2011

  I made a list of what I wanted and didn't want in a dress. For example, I knew that I wanted a simple, bright white dress - nothing with too much embellishment. I also knew that I wanted something more fitted, not a ballgown. I knew that I wanted covered buttons down the back and a sweetheart neck - those were 2 things that I wasn't willing to budge on. I also knew that I wanted a dress that already had those elements - I didn't want to choose a dress and then make tons of changes to it.
  
  I tried on 6 dresses within my budget, chose 2 that I liked, and went back 4 days later to purchase one. I purchased the dress that I kept thinking about throughout those 4 days. That's how I knew that it was the right dress for me.

  

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• ZoeTheDog

  

  May 2010 edited December 2011

  <--- wrong person to be giving advice.  I saw a dress online...went to the store...tried it on...and bought.  It was also on sale.  The End. 

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• smore154

  

  May 2010 edited December 2011

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_connecticut_wedding-dress-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:65Discussion:d1878254-fb70-46ee-9288-bfa284fbaf52Post:20fc8148-0d41-47b6-a360-eaace0f3b436">Re: HELP- Wedding Dress</a>:
  [QUOTE]<--- wrong person to be giving advice.  I saw a dress online...went to the store...tried it on...and bought.  It was also on sale.  The End. 
  Posted by ZoeTheDog[/QUOTE]
  
  LOL this made me laugh so hard. I wish I could do something like that!! It's such a big purchase for me I start to freak out a little.
  
  Thank you everyone for all of your great advice and stories. This really put me at ease and helped me out. I will keep you posted as to which one I pick!

  

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