RSVPs and a question

Re: RSVPs and a question

• jessiflower

  

  September 2012

  just be truthfull....I find its always the best.  I wasn't sure how to invite one of my daughters friends...because she comes from a family of 5 children.  We dont really know the rest of her family....but we do know her mom and her and wanted to invite them without being all like....oh...we dont want your whole family there, but we would llike mom and daughter there.....I sent the mother an e-mail about how I was trying not be completely tacky, and politically correct and was pretty sure this was neither....she laughed....thought it was great....asked me to send the invite and was not offended at all...it just turned out really well..........after I had all this stess about how to go about asking without seeming rude....
  Just talk to her....tell her the situation....you had a spot open up and would love for her to take it!

  Jessica 120 Invited
  101 Are ready to party
  18 Can't make it
  1 Are keeping me on the edge of my seat wondering
  

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• ericaandtom2012 member

  

  September 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_october-2012-weddings_rsvps-and-a-question?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:56b9bcef-1e34-456e-81f5-cfaa107456b2Discussion:bf400fc9-7d41-41a2-8b12-cdaf0b2809d5Post:bef00a3c-f9a7-4bc4-a0c1-8cf8afb9983e">RSVPs and a question</a>:
  [QUOTE]So, I have a 100% return rate on the RSVPs I sent out back in August.  I know that's pretty amazing after the horror stories I've read on here.  Some people declined and I have 3 spots available for our small ceremony (venue allows 25 people maximum).  I have a co-worker who I'm close to (we both went through ugly divorces from our 1st marriages and she helped me decorate my apartment).  I wanted to invite her at first, but FI and I had to really narrow our list down and it didn't work out.  She's been really interested in the wedding plans and asks about them regularly.  <strong>How do I invite her now without making it seem like I "B" listed her with 17 days to go?</strong>
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  <div>You can't, because that's exactly what you are doing-  B listing her with 17 days to go.  Just leave it be and leave your list as is. </div>

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• BrittneyRN

  

  September 2012

  I agree with PP. What you will be doing IS B listing her. Don't invite her with 17 days to go.

  

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• SomethingBeautiful08 member

  

  September 2012

  I agree that you can't make it look like she wasn't a "b-list" but I also think that it is possible to invite her and still be polite... well as polite as possible.  First off make sure FH wants her there.  Then do prep an invite, then explain, in private, but preferably in person your situation.  It might not be perfictly polite, but depending on the person it might work. 

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• cbear215 member

  

  September 2012

  I would leave your list as is.  PP is right, you ARE b listing her.  I don't think it's going to come across as anything but that 17 days out.

  

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• CandiceAdam member

  

  September 2012

  I think it depends how close you truley are. If all of the guests at the ceremony were mainly your family and she knows that, I feel like you could let her know some of the family was unable to attend but you would love for her to be there and support you. If she has been asking about the wedding she probably knows that the ceremony is intended to be very intimate with a small number of guests and might be honored that past your fam. she is the next person you thought of.

  

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