NWR- Secrets

fluttaby32 · March 2012

Do you have any secrets from your FI, or are you the type of couple that tell each other everything?

Bonus points for sharing your secrets

amandad18 · March 2012

The only secret I have right now is I ordered him an iPad and it is KILLING me not telling him. Next Friday is so, so far away

bpphoto785 · March 2012

We're really honest, even when it comes to gross stuff. It actually KILLS me not to tell him everything!

After my boudior shoot I really wanted to call him and tell him all about it and I can't until I give him his wedding gift. IT'S KILLING ME!!

fluttaby32 · March 2012

me & FI tell each other everything too BUT what inspired this post, is I was thinking about the one thing I cant talk to him about. I know details about FBIL's past relationship bc his ex is my MOH! I wish I could tell FI about this, but he wouldnt be able to not tell his brother (and I dont blame him). Its so weird having something I cant tell him. It would cause all kinds of drama between me & my MOH- this is HER secret, not mine, KWIM?

amanda14lynne · March 2012

FI and I are pretty open. I had one big secret that I kept from him for about a year but it killed me and I just blurted it out one day! One of my best friends is married to his cousin. FI and his cousin are really close. For about 6 months, my friend had a "relationship" with another man. It wasn't very physical.. but wrong nonetheless. I knew about it the whole time it was going on, but I never said a word. Her husband eventually found out and they have since moved on.. but I never told anyone that I knew. I eventually blurted it out one day in convorsation. FI and I have been best friends since 8th grade so we have no skeletons in our closet.... I wouldn't have it any other way.

dori851 · March 2012

I couldn't think of anything until I saw fluttaby's post! My FSIL who I've become really close with, told me that her DH doesn't know about somebody she slept with. I'm not sure if she cheated on her DH, or if this happened before they were married. I didn't ask too many details because I don't like to be involved in that crap! Anyway, I know that if I told FI he'd HAVE to tell his brother. That's just a whole lot of drama I don't feel like being involved in. I'm all about "what goes around comes around." So, if she did in fact, cheat on her DH, it'll come back to bite her in the a**!

And that's how I feel about that

LOL

fluttaby32 · March 2012

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[QUOTE]FI and I are pretty open. I had one big secret that I kept from him for about a year but it killed me and I just blurted it out one day! One of my best friends is married to his cousin. FI and his cousin are really close. For about 6 months, my friend had a "relationship" with another man. It wasn't very physical.. but wrong nonetheless. I knew about it the whole time it was going on, but I never said a word. Her husband eventually found out and they have since moved on.. but I never told anyone that I knew. I eventually blurted it out one day in convorsation. FI and I have been best friends since 8th grade so we have no skeletons in our closet.... I wouldn't have it any other way.
Posted by amanda14lynne[/QUOTE]

your's is similar to mine! Only you came clean I haven't lol! But mine is a lot less serious- MOH wasn't cheating on FBIL, just snooping through his phone, fb, etc. I know FBIL would be livid if he found out about this now, and I dont need drama with them both being in the wedding party & all, ya know?

fluttaby32 · March 2012

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[QUOTE]I couldn't think of anything until I saw fluttaby's post! My FSIL who I've become really close with, told me that her DH doesn't know about somebody she slept with. I'm not sure if she cheated on her DH, or if this happened before they were married. I didn't ask too many details because I don't like to be involved in that crap! Anyway, I know that if I told FI he'd HAVE to tell his brother. That's just a whole lot of drama I don't feel like being involved in. I'm all about "what goes around comes around." So, if she did in fact, cheat on her DH, it'll come back to bite her in the a**! And that's how I feel about that :) LOL
Posted by dori851[/QUOTE]

Exactly!!

mancila60 · March 2012

FI and I tell each other everything! We always have since the night we met it's just a very comfortable thing. I think keeping things from them is wrong. FI and I are keeping secrets from other people but not each other. It's like any time we find out anything juicy or stuff we are supposed to keep secret we tell each other and make them swear to secrecity. We know several things about FI's best man and even though I am goo friends with his wife I refuse to tell her because it's none of my business and it's not my place to tell her. (he didn't cheat or anything like that)

I wouldn't have our relatiopnship any other way though!

littleshrink · March 2012

We tell each other everything and are like open books to one another. I know when something is going on and vice versa. If he has conversations with his best friends and they are "intense" or some fashion like that, I know something is going on but stay out of it. It's their friendship and I respect that. On the other hand

if it's something he feels like I need to know, he'll tell me. I'm a counselor, so we base those conversations as counselor - patient confidentiality! hehehe

bpphoto785 · March 2012

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[QUOTE]FI and I tell each other everything! We always have since the night we met it's just a very comfortable thing. I think keeping things from them is wrong. FI and I are keeping secrets from other people but not each other. <strong>It's like any time we find out anything juicy or stuff we are supposed to keep secret we tell each other and make them swear to secrecity.</strong> We know several things about FI's best man and even though I am goo friends with his wife I refuse to tell her because it's none of my business and it's not my place to tell her. (he didn't cheat or anything like that) I wouldn't have our relatiopnship any other way though!
Posted by mancila60[/QUOTE]

We do the same thing! I think I'd go crazy if I couldn't tell FI the stuff that happens at work! I even tell him the things my Mom asks me not to tell anyone! I figure she doesn't mean FI :)

ladychambers83 · March 2012

FI and I tell each other EVERYTHING! Sometimes I feel gulity for telling him my friends secrets, but I love being able to hear his point of view on things. And a lot of the time, I'm able to help them with a male's perspective. He's amazing, I wouldn't have it any other way. It also sucks that I'm a horrible lier lol I couldn't lie or hide something if my life depended on it. As soon as I see him I start smiling really hard, and he instantly knows I know something juicy hahaha
I almost blurted out how my dress looks to him while watching Four Weddings one night, and gave a detail of how it might look

then I started crying lol he started laughing at me saying he still has no idea and that he knows its been killing me to keep the details on my dress from him lol then I started laughing at myself for been such a blabbermouth when it comes to him

fluttaby32 · March 2012

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[QUOTE]FI and I tell each other EVERYTHING! Sometimes I feel gulity for telling him my friends secrets, but I love being able to hear his point of view on things. And a lot of the time, I'm able to help them with a male's perspective. He's amazing, I wouldn't have it any other way. It also sucks that I'm a horrible lier lol I couldn't lie or hide something if my life depended on it. As soon as I see him I start smiling really hard, and he instantly knows I know something juicy hahaha I almost blurted out how my dress looks to him while watching Four Weddings one night, <strong>and gave a detail of how it might look :( then I started crying</strong> lol he started laughing at me saying he still has no idea and that he knows its been killing me to keep the details on my dress from him lol then I started laughing at myself for been such a blabbermouth when it comes to him
Posted by ChocolateFlav17[/QUOTE]

LMAO! That is soooo sweet. Funny, but still, really cute. You are a lucky girl it sounds like you have a great relationship :)

mildlymailyn · March 2012

I tell FI everything. Sometimes, I feel bad afterwards, like when I tell how inappropriate my co-workers can be, he gets kind of upset. I hate the idea of keep secrets. For example, they cut everyone's hours at work, he told me and then told me NOT to tell my co-worker (who is married to his boss) because his boss wasn't telling her. He was going to pretend he was still going to work. I told him, if you did that, I would be so mad to you!

KissaC18 · March 2012

I tell FI everything I'm really terrible at secrets and I like to be open with him. But I think he keeps some secrets. Mostly about a few past relationships. He doesn't express his feelings well and I think it has a lot to do with his mom. But I've always been open with him about who I am and how I feel.

Cackle6 · March 2012

Heh, looks like I'm the odd duck out.

I don't keep anything big from him, obviously, but there are certain things I don't tell him, like how much I actually spent on a pair of shoes, small embarrassing things that happen to me (like falling on the sidewalk when drunk at a ladies night, heh), etc. I don't think there's anything wrong with keeping small stuff secret.

It's like that episode of Friends where Monica and Chandler decide to tell each other everything and they and Ross end up telling embarrassing stories about each other. By the end of the episode, they say something along the lines of "well we don't need to tell each other *everything* " That's pretty much how I feel.

I also haven't told him a lot about my past relationships, as I was a bit of a slut in college and there are some things he just doesn't need to know about!

ETA: I do have kind of a big one actually. FI and I were friends for about a year before we started dating, and during that time I slept with an aquantiance of his. It was before FI and I really knew each other, but I found out later that he hated the guy. So in order to keep the peace and what not, the guy and I decided not to every say anything. I'm sure it wouldn't be a huge deal now if I was to tell him, but neither of really talk about our past relationships so I just left it alone.

kimberlykh · March 2012

I think we tell each other everything, or would if it was necessary. (But some things are necessary IMO). But, FI is like the most honest guy I know and we actually had to have a talk last year, because he was too honest. One of his friends got really drunk during a guys night and did stupid things and said "don't tell anyone." Well the next day we were at a cookout and all the guys and their wives were talking about it, and I was confused because I knew nothing about it. I asked him about it and he told me, and he said, well my friend said not to tell anyone so I didn't. We had the talk that generally "don't tell anyone" excludes the SO. Now he loves to tell me all the juicy things about his friends. But, we honestly dated for a year or so and he kept all of their secrets to himself.

mandi921vh · March 2012

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[QUOTE]FI and I tell each other EVERYTHING! <strong>Sometimes I feel gulity for telling him my friends secrets, but I love being able to hear his point of view on things. And a lot of the time, I'm able to help them with a male's perspective.</strong> He's amazing, I wouldn't have it any other way. It also sucks that I'm a horrible lier lol I couldn't lie or hide something if my life depended on it. As soon as I see him I start smiling really hard, and he instantly knows I know something juicy hahaha I almost blurted out how my dress looks to him while watching Four Weddings one night, and gave a detail of how it might look :( then I started crying lol he started laughing at me saying he still has no idea and that he knows its been killing me to keep the details on my dress from him lol then I started laughing at myself for been such a blabbermouth when it comes to him
Posted by ChocolateFlav17[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>I do too! FI and I tell each other pretty much everything, we are best friends and it's weird for us to have secrets or to not share things with one another. When I am planning a surprise gift for Christmas or his Birthday it is SO hard for me not to tell him because I tell him everything. </div>

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