Why aren't vows good enough?

Lisa50 · May 2011

Somebody just shoot me now! Find this thread and please, please tell me why vows are no longer sufficient ... wedding-boards_ceremony-ideas_unity-plant

Seriously, I don't understand sand, pebbles, coffee beans and now plants and trees?

memSomerville · May 2011

Snorf.

I had a longer reply assembled, but it was even too much mockery for me..... Oh my.

Lisa50 · May 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_40-plus-brides_arent-vows-good-enough?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:69dea60c-2319-4015-8380-4a5cc0f18476Discussion:278c844b-ff76-4abc-a961-203870393364Post:235d251b-521d-4979-8b50-121c62e31a14">Re: Why aren't vows good enough?</a>:
[QUOTE]Why can't I find it??? The link doesn't work. Someone please provide a link because I can tell just from the posts above that I will die laughing.
Posted by LucyHC[/QUOTE]

I'm so bad at links ... mem, where are you? A little help, please ...

right1thistime · May 2011

I couldn't find it either, I found one about Unique Unity Ceremony, though. And I want to just cry.

You know what symbolizes your unity? Your marriage. Live it wisely. Form a bond that is strong and tight. Put each other above everything else. Treat each other beter than you treat anyone else. Respect your differences. Share your joy, carry your partner's sorrow, and let your partner carry your's.

Vows are good enough. Always have been. ~Donna

IslandBeachBride · May 2011

Whew - I'm glad we're only doing vows. We were asked if we wanted the unity candle, sand, etc. I said nope. Funny, the pastor said "ahh, keeping it simple, I like these ceremonies". LOL! I said - if we can cut it down to our names & I do, that will be sufficient.

Lisa50 · May 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_40-plus-brides_arent-vows-good-enough?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:69dea60c-2319-4015-8380-4a5cc0f18476Discussion:278c844b-ff76-4abc-a961-203870393364Post:0f00c039-c5c1-41cd-9350-e98678d826d7">Re: Why aren't vows good enough?</a>:
[QUOTE]Whew - I'm glad we're only doing vows. We were asked if we wanted the unity candle, sand, etc. I said nope. Funny, the pastor said "ahh, keeping it simple, I like these ceremonies". LOL! I said - if we can cut it down to our names & I do, that will be sufficient. :)
Posted by IslandBeachBride[/QUOTE]

That's cool. That's what our minister said as well. She said that some of the weddings she'd officiated in the past have been frighteningly overdone.

We're having a reading and music (my son and cousin's wife playing a duet) with a little bit thrown in about marriage, commitment, etc., the vows and ring exchange.

Seriously, I wish I could find the thread about the coffee beans, it might trump the one I tried to put in the OP re: unity plants and trees. *sigh* Honestly, I'm not trying to slam anyone, but I just don't get it.

memSomerville · May 2011

[QUOTE]"FYI...most of the people who just handled your ring didn't wash their hands after they used the restroom." [/QUOTE]

bwaaa-haa-haaa-haaa-haa-haaa!!

That was the highlight of my day so far. But then again, I just left a class where the final topic of discussion was mange and ringworm....

Lucy cracks me up.

GoodLuckBear14 · May 2011

I want to know what it means if the plant eventually dies (as has been known to happen).

impslave · May 2011

I'm a notorious plant killer, so that would have been a bad omen for our marriage!

We knew from the start that we wanted to keep things as simple and quick as possible. H didn't even want to do our own vows, he was afraid that he would venture off-script and start babbling. I suggested using the ceremony from "Spaceballs."

In the end, we went with the quick civil script provided by the hotel chapel. No sand, no candles, none of that stuff.

Lisa50 · May 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_40-plus-brides_arent-vows-good-enough?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:69dea60c-2319-4015-8380-4a5cc0f18476Discussion:278c844b-ff76-4abc-a961-203870393364Post:f77a97b3-1198-4efa-9cd0-1c9a833919cf">Re: Why aren't vows good enough?</a>:
[QUOTE]bwaaa-haa-haaa-haaa-haa-haaa!! That was the highlight of my day so far. But then again, I just left a class where the final topic of discussion was mange and ringworm.... Lucy cracks me up.
Posted by memSomerville[/QUOTE]

OMG .. she cracks me up, too! I read that post -- started laughing and could not stop -- my fiance asked "What's so funny?" I'd already told him about the candles, sand and coffee beans. I just told him about the paper cranes. When I mentioned the ring/restroom connection ... he couldn't help it, he started to laugh too!!

The funny thing is, we'd discussed the ring warming and decided, with two families as goofy as ours are, the rings would end up lost before making it anywhere near the front, accompanied by a chorus of ... "Did you see the ring? I never touched it. I heard it fall over there!" ROTF LMAO

2dBride · May 2011

Here is the original link. But I'm with you. A marriage ceremony is by its nature all about unity--you don't need to add special unity ceremonies to it.

right1thistime · May 2011

To the other plant killers: Have you tried talking to your plants?

I do. I tell them, "good luck, this is the last time you and I will be interacting. You are on your own now." ~Donna

shytownkelly · May 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_40-plus-brides_arent-vows-good-enough?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:69dea60c-2319-4015-8380-4a5cc0f18476Discussion:278c844b-ff76-4abc-a961-203870393364Post:33e9e334-3147-425c-a800-7ed669a118a8">Re: Why aren't vows good enough?</a>:
[QUOTE]To the other plant killers: Have you tried talking to your plants? I do. I tell them, "good luck, this is the last time you and I will be interacting. You are on your own now." ~Donna
Posted by right1thistime[/QUOTE]

Oh so they are like teenagers? <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-tongue-out.gif" border="0" alt="Tongue out" title="Tongue out" />

maglinpa · May 2011

I agree with you guys about all the craziness going on as far as unity ceremonies within a unity ceremony. I saw one the other day where they were washing feet and I leaned my head to the side, as Lucy and Gladys do sometimes when they are not sure what I am babbling about, and thought what on earth does that have to do with marriage? No way am I washing FI's feet in a wedding ceremony (or any other time unless medically necessary) or vise versa!!!

That being said, when my brother was married he and my SIL had a unity candle. If I am not mistaken, the parents lit the side candles and then they lit the unity candle. I believe there was even words spoken about the families being unified and that everyone present was vowing to support and help them in their marriage. I thought it was a nice part of the ceremony.

Lisa50 · May 2011

Geez ... another variation on the theme. Will this ever end??

http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_ceremony-ideas_tree-rose-ceremony-signify-union

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