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Is it acceptable to ask the wedding party to pay for thier own dish at the rehersal dinner?

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My fiance and I are paying for our own wedding. Since we are going to be a little tight on money, do you think it would be ok to ask everyone that attends the rehersal dinner to pay for their own meal? Please help!
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Re: Is it acceptable to ask the wedding party to pay for thier own dish at the rehersal dinner?

  • blush64blush64 member
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    edited December 2011
    No.

    You could just invite them back to your home and cook them food. Don't make them pay.
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  • katheriner89katheriner89 member
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    edited December 2011
    We are having wings & pizza due to this reason. I would NEVER ask someone to pay for something that I invite them to.

    I suggest you looking for an area to host it at for free (back yard, parents yard, park, etc.)
    & have something cheap, yet yummy, like pizza, wings, burgers, etc.
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  • hlq2011hlq2011
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    edited December 2011
    No.  You're hosting, you're paying.   It doesn't have to be elaborate, but you don't ask your guests to pay for their own meals.
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  • deepcovejackiedeepcovejackie
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    edited December 2011
    No.  Have a low-key pizza night at home.
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  • barbie92barbie92 member
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    edited December 2011
    No. Just do something cheap if you can't afford much...your friends won't care.
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  • trix1223trix1223 member
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    edited December 2011
    No.
    "Trix, it's what they/our parents wanted. Why so judgemental? And why is your wedding date over a year and a half ago? And why do you not have a groom's name? And why have you posted over 12,000 posts? And why do you always say mean things to brides?" palegirl146
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  • Ashes_3Ashes_3 member
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    edited December 2011
    This is a definate NO! I would have a cookout, pizza, sandwiches, anything would work. You could always do pasta, because it is a lot cheaper!
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  • McKenna2012McKenna2012 member
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    edited December 2011
    Nope.
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  • sister2groomsister2groom
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    edited December 2011
    No, a rehearsal dinner is a thank you for attending the rehearsal. Also, if I'm paying for my own meal, I want a say in the restaurant, which i shouldn't have for the RD.
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  • banana468banana468 member
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    edited December 2011
    No way.  Make it super casual but make it at your expense.
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  • S+H2011S+H2011
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    edited December 2011
    I paid for my meal at my friend’s rehearsal dinner. She didn’t tell us ahead of time either. I would’ve rather just had a slice of pizza or something since I had driven from out of town and paid to have my hair done the next day. At the same time, it was a fun night and the $20 wasn’t the end of the world.
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