FI and I had a discussion last night over dinner about what people "typically" give as gifts (monetarily) at a wedding...
I said that I would not *expect* money (or any gift for that matter) from anyone, but it wouldn't surprise me if a select few of my aunts and uncles gave a few hundred dollars. I said I'd actually feel bad if a few of my relatives (namely my grandparents who are on a fixed income) do give monetary gifts, especially large ones.
FI insists that we will likely get several thousands of dollars and not to feel bad if people open their pocketbooks because "that's what people do" at weddings...
... I guess my point is: I never realized that weddings were some big money-making venture for the B/G (especially if they are not paying for much, as we won't be). He was quoting figures in the tens of thousands for weddings he's been to & in (including his brother & SIL, who apparently were given $25k or so in gift money). I figured we'd likely end up with $1000-$1500, perhaps a little more, but I certainly would never think people would give collectively in the tens of thousands! Am I just that out of the loop? [We're intending on 150-175ish people, mostly family.]