Hey Ladies...
I haven't known how to put what I'm going through to words until recently so I thought I would share... Any thoughts or insight, prayers, jokes ANYTHING to make me smile would be much appreciated. Here goes:
*sigh* BM and I have known each other for about 13 years. We lost contact through college but picked back up when we saw each other at the mall about 3 years ago. We've confided in and consulted each other for years on just about every issue imagineable. My FI and her bf became close, we're at each others family functions, we make plans together weekely, our dogs even love each other. She recently graduated from Grad school and her bf threw a surprise party over the weekend. We were invited along with close friends and family all people we're comfortable with and have been around on more than one occassion throughout the years. Party goes great, we make plans to meet up during the week to run wedding errands and I come home with FI.
On Monday, BM picks me up and we are out running errands and she proceeds to tell me that someone at the party told her that FI had grabbed her butt repeatedly throughout the night and that he was having inappropriate conversations about women that were there with other single guys.
FI and I have a transparent relationship. Thank God as I know I've been blessed. BM informed me that the woman didn't wanna stir any trouble and told her not to tell me who she was, she knows FI and figured he was probably drunk. She offers to tell me her name again, but I choose to respect her privacy pending results from my chat with FI. He would know who she was, she would know it happened and that other people know so everyone in my mind would just be held accountable and I didn't have to know her name. Also we were basically at a family gathering. A family who we are CLOSE friends with, why lie? Makes no sense so I wait for him to come home and I bring him these allegations which he denies out right. He states he wasn't drunk which I know he wasn't, and that he touched no one other than me.
So I call BM repeatedly to ask for a name in the event that FI may have been "drunk" and "forgot" so I can remind him and guess what.. Initially she doesn't pick up, somehow I waited an hour then I txt her . Now BM doesn't want to tell me any more information. Why you ask? Because BM promised her bf and this woman that she wouldn't tell me in the first place, and now her bf is mad at her for telling me and the woman is going to get mad at her if I know her name. SAY WHAT?!? So my dear friend almost put my upcoming marriage in jeopardy on some allegation that she volunteered and then when I call her to expand on that she totally turned into a fairweather friend.... I brought this into my home for NO reason.
FI calls her bf and he also turns into a fairweather friend, stating we need to figure this out ourselves and we don't need her name. He did throw in the mix that the woman never said FI grabbed her butt intentionally which was omitted in the version of the story she told me. Bf told FI that the woman said he graced her in passing... like in a crowded setting which is what it was!
Once I find this out I calledd BM and ended our friendship. I couldn't handle that... I still don't know what to make of this situation. Did I OD on my friend? Am I turning into a bridezilla? I don't even wanna tell my mother any of this...
Thank you for reading my rant... I know its really long. I'll update as I respond.
