Am I being Difficult?

Re: Am I being Difficult?

• MissyCee member

  

  September 2010 edited December 2011

  woah, you should be panicking, the wedding is in a month and you haven't even decided on the invitiations yet? If you don't want to spend the $ and your folks don't want to spend the $ then you don't have a choice but to compromise and go cheap on things unfortunately. Buy an invitiation set that you can print off yourself, those are well priced and I've seen some very cute sets. Staples, AC Moore and Walmart all sell those. And on the AC Moore website you can print a 50% off coupon for more savings!

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• jojobrn member

  

  September 2010 edited December 2011

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_am-being-difficult?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:3507ab06-860b-4f1e-8c8c-dee568bda23ePost:1ed2cb01-51aa-485f-bd0e-650422e2261e">Am I being Difficult?</a>:
  [QUOTE]My parents, who are divorced, took  months to finally agree with money and give my fiance and I $2,000 for the wedding. I got my dress, the bridesmaid's dresses, the accessories, some decorations, and that rounded to about $1000 right there. All we needed were the flowers, the cake, invitations, and brochures. My fiance's family was going to do the reception, they agreed to it. We had the menu down, the site, everything. Last week they decided they didn't want to do it anymore. So that added onto our budget. I got an estimate on our cake.  $250 to feed 140 people, basket weave, with a few flowers here and there.  Simple, but it's the cake I absolutely dreamed of! My mom doesn't want to pay for it. She says it's too high. I designed my own invitations and found a place to print them off (140) for $90. Still too high. It's in the budget, but don't want to spend it. The flowers and decorations will be around $600...they didn't even think of a photographer! My parents say that if we spend all their money,we have to pay the rest out of pocket. I'm trying to go as cheap as I can but still have the wedding I want. But it's just not working. My fiance's health isn't well and we have all these doctor bills to pay, I don't mind putting my own money in my wedding, but  as I said, we don't have much to spare. Am I being too stubborn, should I just cut on some things like make the cake plainer and buy cheap invitations? The wedding is in about a month and none of this is figured out! I'm starting to panic. I'm at the point where I just want to call the whole thing off and elope instead.
  Posted by ReneeDawn[/QUOTE]<div> </div><div>I too am wondering about an October wedding date with no invitations out yet. Unless your date has changed.</div><div>
  </div><div>If you must, postpone the wedding to be able to afford the invites and cake. Money given tends to come with strings attached.
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• 6fsn member

  

  September 2010 edited December 2011

  The wedding is in a month and you haven't made the invites?  The cake is the least of your worries. 
  
  Here't the bottom line you had $2k to spend.  You spent $2k.  You now have $1k left.  Spend it wisely. 

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• Heffalump member

  

  September 2010 edited December 2011

  I've read that some grocery stores and warehouse clubs make lovely sheet cakes that can feed a crowd.  That may be an option to trim your budget.  But yeah, I would definitely prioritize invitations ahead of cake at this late date.  A store can whip up a cake on a few days notice.

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• hmonkey member

  

  September 2010 edited December 2011

  y'all know i love cake, but really -- this is the hill you want to die on?  okay.
  

  

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• MOB Scene member

  

  September 2010 edited December 2011

  I don't know about difficult....but unrealistic!  If you can't afford the wedding expenses how are you going to afford a marriage to an ill man?  There is such a thing as self sacrifice. Elope or have a small private ceremony without all the hoopla! Sounds like medical bills and medical care is going to be a reality......not the fairytale wedding.  Life comes after the wedding.  You might want to think about the simple things that would make your life together easier.  For one thing, a saving account and the ability to follow a budget.  Good luck.

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• Sloane99 member

  

  September 2010 edited December 2011

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_am-being-difficult?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:47Discussion:3507ab06-860b-4f1e-8c8c-dee568bda23ePost:1ed2cb01-51aa-485f-bd0e-650422e2261e">Am I being Difficult?</a>:
  [QUOTE] My parents say that if we spend all their money,we have to pay the rest out of pocket. Posted by ReneeDawn[/QUOTE]
  
  This would be where you answered your own dilemma.
  
  Yes, you're being difficult. You have valid expenses and a tight budget so you have to work within it and give up the cake, or brochures (whatever those are) or something here if you want to stay within that budget. What am I missing here?

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