My Charlie Sheen Rant! LOL

Mrslamorte · April 2011

Okay I just want to say I am SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO OVER "wedding etiquette" and how RUDE ppl can get when it comes to not following the "rules" to the T! If your gonna tell me what is right and wrong about the wedding day Please do everything else right! Like be a virgin that lives with your parents! NOT someone with 3 kids with ur previous BF and 1 with ur fiance and lived with 3 different men before ur wedding day! Usually when ppl ask questions they aren't asking for etiquette they are asking for your normal, moral human response NOT what was deemed correct in FREAKIN 1820!!!!!! Thats what goggle and etiquette coach's are for! I use to wonder why Brides lost it..... its not becuz there is too much to do, its becuz they are trying to make 150+ ppl happy by following DUMB RULES! Ladies do you! Do what makes u and ur partner happy..... The ppl who love you wont judge you becuz ur dress wasnt the right shade, or the ceremony was too long, or the reception isnt in a ballroom downtown or even that you couldn't afford to pay $30/pp for alcohol when only 8 ppl drink alcohol, they will be happy that you and the love of your life had a day that was ALLLLL about your love for each other!

Srry if I offended anyone but i needed to get that OUT

JerseyML · April 2011

And here I thought there was going to be a cocaine reference..

I feel the same way. That's why I tend to not ask etiquette questions. If you are going to ask any questions, you should ask your family or friends or the very least the boards from your area. Each circle is different. The etiquette board annoys me. The "rules" don't apply to my family. I have to work with the etiquette of a traditional catholic Italian family born in Italy who moved to NY in the 60's.

jelybeancg · April 2011

There is a line between not needing to follow old fashioned rules / doing what you want and being rude to your guests who not only love you but are bringing you gifts.

And customs are different all over the place, so I agree with PP, if you are doing something not popular nationally and you don't want to hear the other side of the argument, don't post it. All of the girls here want to help and some people really do not know what is "normal" among weddings and need / want to hear both sides of a topic. And if they don't want to hear both sides, they should not have posted.

HobokensFury · April 2011

In Response to Re: My Charlie Sheen Rant! LOL:
[QUOTE]There is a line between not needing to follow old fashioned rules / doing what you want and being rude to your guests who not only love you but are bringing you gifts. And customs are different all over the place, so I agree with PP, if you are doing something not popular nationally and you don't want to hear the other side of the argument, don't post it. All of the girls here want to help and some people really do not know what is "normal" among weddings and need / want to hear both sides of a topic. And if they don't want to hear both sides, they should not have posted.
Posted by jelybeancg[/QUOTE]

This. Yes some "rules" are old fashioned and silly but many of them are just about being a good host to your guests.

beckerz03 · April 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_march-2012-weddings_charlie-sheen-rant-lol?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:955e4823-0be1-44ef-9ee7-99a63794e103Discussion:b404e581-76a2-4543-a4eb-904be0a92200Post:c713fee1-686e-4aea-a79e-5e0e9a29eec4">Re: My Charlie Sheen Rant! LOL</a>:
[QUOTE]There is a line between not needing to follow old fashioned rules / doing what you want and being rude to your guests who not only love you but are bringing you gifts. And customs are different all over the place, so I agree with PP, if you are doing something not popular nationally and you don't want to hear the other side of the argument, don't post it. All of the girls here want to help and some people really do not know what is "normal" among weddings and need / want to hear both sides of a topic. And if they don't want to hear both sides, they should not have posted.
Posted by jelybeancg[/QUOTE]

uh, actually, guests don't need to bring gifts. That's a rude suggestion by a bride to think that guests <strong>have</strong> to bring gifts to a wedding.

You do not have to do a registry either, there's a new "rule" that some people request that if people want to buy gifts they instead give to a charity. That's not the norm, so should others not post about it?

and we all come here to celebrate our own weddings. If this board is going to only celebrate the "normal" etiquette, than why the h**l was the knot created? some girls post on here because they want to give others ideas about wedding ideas, so what if it doesn't go by your etiquette.

maybe some girls are posting on here to get suggestions from both sides, but do not want to be chastized if their ideas is not the "norm." not everyone wants to follow the same, boring etiquette rules. You can have an amazing wedding without the foolish old etiquette rules that actually make your guests that much happier that they decided to go to your wedding.

My DW is not "normal". It's not "etiquettely" correct to have people spend $1000+ to come to my wedding, but guess what I don't care. I'm going to have my wedding in Jamaica and if guests want to come, they can spend the money for it.

It's normal to spend $20K on a wedding, so does that mean that someone who doesn't should not post about cutting costs?

The point is that we come on here to share ideas, whether they fit the norm or etiquette rules...and at the end of the day, we should be marrying our best friend, so what does it really matter if someone else doesn't follow the etiquette rules - it's their wedding, you probably weren't invited anyways. so you don't have to deal with the repercutions of their decisions.

danibride2012 · April 2011

LOL.... i have started to have these rants on a regular basis recently...and i'm still a year out!!! I so know what you mean and totally feel the same way! thanks for saying what needed to be said

jelybeancg · April 2011

I never said guests HAVE to bring gifts. Guests don't HAVE to bring gifts but most do. And even if they don't you still have the obligation to HOST them properly.

NO ONE here said a destination wedding was not proper etiquette.

NO ONE here said a DIY wedding or a small budget wedding was not proper etiquette.

I applaud anyone who asks their guests to donate in lieu of giving a gift. However, that does ASSUME they would have otherwise given you a gift, a no-no in your book. So, that rule of etiquette is ok by you?

Some people only have cake and punch receptions because that is what they can afford. There is nothing wrong with that. They are lovely BUT you would not tell some guests they can't have a whole piece of cake and others they can only have one glass of punch. It is about being a polite host which is what you should want to be.

I love seeing all of the non-traditional ideas on TK, but notice none would suggest treating your guests rudely.

I am by no means a stickler for the rules but treating guests rudely is where I draw the line. Don't get all defensive if you want to treat your guests rudely.

And once again if you post something on here you are going to get someone's differing opinion. That is just the way it works.

And advice is not criticism just because you don't like what the person said.

beckerz03 · April 2011

well nowhere in her post did she say that she was going to be rude to her guests....you made that assumption because she didn't want to play by the etiquette rules.

and advice is not criticism unless you sit there and assume that because someone doesn't want to follow etiquette rules, she's going to be rude to guests.

And, if asking people to pay for their own hotel rooms (even if blocked and cheapened) and their own airplane ticket is rude, than I'm just a crude rude person.

and actually, you only mention registry to people who ask for it (you should know that because you know all the correct etiquette, you don't put it in your invitation). So, yes, you can assume if someone asks about a registry, they want to get you something. So, yes, I think telling someone who asks if you have a registry, to give to a charity instead of gifts...yah, I think that's okay. or at least that's the "rule"/etiquette where I'm from.

Mrslamorte · April 2011

LOL, nope no cocaine just my random thoughts! And I see Im not alone! I think common sense will make u not a rude host, Im just saying if your not gonna go by the book 100 percent you shouldnt be telling ppl what part they need to follow! and usually on every other board except the ettique board we are asking ur opinion not what ettique says its right! Im just sayin..... And in no way was i talking only about ppl on here... more ppl are rude on yahoo answers than on here(theknot in general) so if u feel defensive, its you im Totally not calling anyone out on here, this is a general post! I posted this on a few websites!
However this is one that hit me the wrong way on this board:

Ex: if someone ask u about centerpieces for a party u shouldnt tell them its rude to host ur own party just give them suggestions about centerpieces!

You ladies are still awesome and i love ur opinions for the most part, LOL!

Mrslamorte · April 2011

@ jelybean were usually on the same page but i disagree like i said in my last post answer what they are asking not give them etiquette rules, if she ask about centerpieces dont tell her not to throw her own party, that is not answering a question thats being giving etiquette advice when i didnt ask for it, which can come off rude!

Im just sayin......

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