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dont want to change the date, but I might have to

callalily13callalily13 member
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I got engaged last x-mas and still have quite awhile before my date. I realize that I really shouldnt be worrying about this yet, but I cant help but be bugged by it. My fiance and I set a tenative date for June 8, 2013. This is our half year anniversary from dating. We started dating Dec 8, 2004. We thought it would be perfect because he wanted to be married in June and I wanted May and beginning of June would be perfect weather on the beach (hopefully). Well I am doing my PhD in psychology and we are on a quarter system full year. I looked forward in the academic calender for that date and saw that the date would be the weekend before finals and that would be horrible. I dont want to change the date because it was so perfect, but I dont think I would be able to do well in class and have my wedding. Ugh
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  • HobokensFuryHobokensFury member
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    Is the academic calander out for 2013 yet?!  I think you are totally jumping the gun here.  Calm down and enjoy your engagement.
     
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  • sprtychick10sprtychick10
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    I agree with the PP. Breathe, calm down. I am shocked the calendar is out already for the 2013 academic calendar. Know it will all work it out in the end

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  • MissOwlMissOwl
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    as a fellow grad student, i say pay attention to that academic calendar. do NOT plan your wedding for anytime near midterms or finals! i was in a few weddings as a BM or a MOH during my M.A. (now in my Ph.D) and it was murder to be in them during bad times of the quarter. can't imagine how bad it would have been if i were the bride.
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  • skyler1108skyler1108
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    I agree with PP.  I think you should focus on your school first and plan your wedding on another day. Whatever day you do get married on will be just as special because it will be the day you marry your love.
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  • naomikbnaomikb member
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    I am also doing my PhD and I definitely would work around school schedules.  We are doing ours in August when I don't have to teach or take classes, so I'll have time to do wedding stuff and have time for a honeymoon before the students come back after Labour Day.

    Since it's far away and you likely haven't booked the venue yet, I would say push it back a few weeks to later in June to avoid exams.  Don't worry about the "half anniversary" date.  You will soon forget your "dating" anniversary and only celebrate your wedding anniversary anyways.
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  • heyimbrenheyimbren member
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    Calla Lily, you really don't need to worry about your "date" this far in advance. It's what, 2 and a half years away? It sounds too early for things to be set in stone, so have a glass of wine and just relax :)

    Also, I know that picking that date sounds perfect because of the "half anniversary" thing. But that only exists in your head- 20 years down the road, you'll have a NEW anniversary which is whatever day you get married on. And that anniversary will be special, not the dating anniversary.
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  • callalily13callalily13 member
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    Yeah, I thought it was odd that the schedule is up already, but it is more of one that says when a quarter stops or starts not anything more. So this might mean it will change later down the road, but right now it looks like it would greatly conflict with that date.

    I know it sounds insane especially because of how far it is, but my fiance and I have been through so much and have been dating for nearly six years. I suppose "having a date" just was something that made me feel like I was actually doing something for the wedding and that date really meant something for the both of us. I also understand what you are all saying that whatever date we pick for our wedding will mean something to us, so it doesnt really matter. It had just seemed like that date was a perfect one because it was our half-anniversary of dating and in 2013 the date was a saturday. Ridiculous I know.
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