Is It normal to loose your mind? LONG!

LAMuehlen · May 2012

So I feel like I've just lost it and had a massive freakout. So the story first. I went into the jewelry store my fiance got my engagment ring/wedding bad from back in march to order his wedding band. It was a standerd white gold Irish Claddagh ring(he's wanted one forever but they are traditionally given as gifts, and he had dropped several hints that he wanted one for his wedding band.) They told me because it was so late they'd have to order the ring and the ring would be in, in two to four weeks and I could pay for it then. They told me they would call me. Fast foreward to middle of april. I still hadn't heard from them, thinking they might have just forgotten to call me, I went in to inquire about the ring. THEY HAD FORGOTTEN TO ORDER IT! They insisted they would order it and would call me the next day to verify it was ordered. I never heard from them. I tried calling them twice today and my call was not taken, I couldn't even get an answering machine. Am I just supposed to drop everything when my wedding is in 33 days? I need a ring to give my fiance! I'm so fed up. I wrote a email to the corprate company complaining. I have a new cheaper ring picked out online and ready to order if I have not heard from by the end of the week. I feel like I've had my first and hopefully only bridezilla freak out.

Am I being unreasonable or impatient? I feel like I'm loosing my mind? I don't even have a ring that could work as a place holder for the ceremony! I feel frustrated, let down and lied too.

Any suggestions? Any other brides who felt like they were loosing it like that a month out from their wedding? I really have been trying to remain calm through out things going wrong! I've kept cool through loosing our original venue to double booking, through having my alterations messed up by davids bridal, through having the sister in law to be who has complained about everything(From the dress i selected cause it wasnt sexy enough to the fact i asked the girls to stick with a rockabilly hair do and make up and complained that I had a very dear friend of mine do their hair and makeup(proffesionally, she's a professional) FOR FREE! Maybe the ring has just been the straw that broke the camels back. I don't know but I'm disgusted with Main Street Jewelers.

SarahPLiz · May 2012

I don't know who Main Street Jewelers are, but yeah, I'd be mad too. However, I would have called them every week or so until the ring was in my hand, from the beginning, because that's just how I am. It really just sounds like they don't want your business, so you should look elsewhere. They can't be the only place to get a ring like that.

And what is a rockabilly hairstyle? If its what I think it is, I'd complain too, even if it was free. I want to look my best when I'm in a wedding, in pictures that last forever, not like I'm at a costume party.

LAMuehlen · May 2012

i didn't tell them they had to. I asked them too but said if they didnt want to they could have their however they wanted. Even though thats what i wanted. I'll actually be wearing my hair in a rockabilly style since thats my usual day to day look.

And the rockabilly look is like Katy perrys first album katy perry.

I was able to find a ring from a jeweler in Ireland that can get the ring to me in a week(I showed the ring to my fiance and he loves the ring!) Plus other than shipping the ring is about a hundred dollars cheaper then main street jewelrs(SCORE!)

I'm feeling better now after my rant. My sil has just been getting under my nerves lately. She's been complaining for a month now that i wont let her drink with my friends and i(were 21 she's 17) she's been complaining her brother and i wont let her bring her ouji board over to our new apartment and sumon spirits, we wont let her because she likes sumoning the dark spirits. I've been listening to her complain that my other sil and i go out to the bar and have a beer together once a week on our days off and she cant go. Then one week we asked her if she wanted to go out to dinner with us and she told us she didnt want to because were horrible people and she hated us. I'm really sick of her attitude.

I've had issues with her since her brother and i moved in together. she's showed up at our places drunk and high while we're asleep. She's told us she's going to make a better adult then us. Then today ontop of everything. She actually called me fat... Yeah, apparently 100 pounds and working out everyday and being five foot tall is fat. I'm about ready to kick her out of the wedding party just because I have no tolerance for being called fat by a 95 pound 17 year old who drinks like a fish tells me I suck because i wont let her hold a seance where i live and wont let her throw parties at my apartment or drink with my friends and i. Today feels like it's been a bad day.

I think I'm just going to take a chill pill and do some laundry and pack for my upcomming vacation to go see my sisters. I can not wait to see them in two short days.

[Deleted User] · May 2012

I agree with Sarah about the ring. At this point, I'd just look somewhere else.

As for the hair, I wouldn't want that style either. It's not flattering and I wouldn't be comfortable. If she doesn't like it, then I would give up control on that one. Let her be comfortable.

In regards to the other stuff, where are her parents in all of this? They need to be handling the drinking and drugs. Or is she out of the bouse already?

Lenore2010 · May 2012

I think anyone would be freaking out about a ring mess up, and I third on the idea that you should go elsewhere.

Theme weddings are hard on the bridal party - don't push the rockabilly hairstyle. It would be great and some people and nightmarish on others. You might have some family photos of your grandparent's generation in those 'dos. Your bridal party would look more like that than Katy Perry I suspect.

cheeseandrice · May 2012

I don't understand. Is your mind usually tight?

celticmyss · May 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_is-it-normal-to-loose-your-mind-long?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:4c111115-fc63-4584-902e-e5aa5a8f0006Post:005717bd-93e8-4a84-bc03-7e05181fe004">Re: Is It normal to loose your mind? LONG!</a>:
[QUOTE]I don't understand. Is your mind usually tight?
Posted by Steph+J[/QUOTE]

<div>I'm glad someone went there. </div><div>
</div><div>And seriously, getting upset over poor customer service is normal and to be expected. It doesn't mean you're losing your mind. </div>

SarahPLiz · May 2012

Oh, and I looked up the hair. That is a VERY specific style that actually looks good on very few people, and even fewer people in a more formal setting. Personally, I don't have enough hair to do that. Also, one of the trainers at my gym has that style hair, and its cute for the gym, but I always picture her in rag curlers. It seems more appropriate for cleaning one's house in a frilly apron than a wedding.

celticmyss · May 2012

OP - I honestly am curious if you and your FI resolved the issues you posted about before?

http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_need-to-vent-long

I'm nozy and hate it when people never give us the follow up info.

Starmusica · May 2012

can someone post a link to this hair do? I tried the google and didn't see it!

Also OP- I don't even know where to start with you. First off, she is 17! If she is showing up at your home drunk or high, your fiance should be calling his parents. First off, it's ILLEGAL for you to give her alcohol so when she complains, remind her of that. Second- She clearly needs some SERIOUS help.

LAMuehlen · May 2012

we're working on things. hes got a new job he goes to everyday he's helping more were in counsling through our church things are getting better.

I've dropped the hair style thing. I dont care enough to fight about it. I dont really have the energry to fight. I dont really care right now as long as everyone shows up looking nice.

My sister in law is special. Its gotten to the point we dont really talk to her because of how she's been acting while were trying to work through things and be adults. things are strained between us and his parents because he told them cops would be called if she showed up at our place drunk and or high again. His parents told him that 'she's impossible to control she wont listen to us.' but this last week we had it out cause she told me she was going to shorten her bridesmaid dress(Her sister had started the idea, totally fine! my bm and myself are all short, seriously 5' or less i expected this) I didn't expect her to tell me she wanted to make it into a mini skirt. And yet by the end of our blow out she agreed to only shorted her dress an inch or two so it was the appropriate length.

Granted I'm not her fan. I don't particularly like her. But I love her brother. but his family can be pretty toxic right now with his dad going through rehab. We decided to save up some money to move away from his family even though that means moving away from my parents who have been so supportive.

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