I had a really bad incident with my bridesmaids this week.
Over a month ago, we picked out the bridesmaid dresses. We actually ended up finding a dress that was exactly what we were looking for at Express, so it was within everyone's budget and was something they could definitely wear again. All of the girls were really excited about it.
I should explain that one of my bridesmiads is my fiance's sister and we are not close. I really only asked her to be in the wedding because I fully expected by fiance to have my brother as a groomsman. She was worried the dress wouldn't fit her because she has big boobs and thinks she is fat (which she truly is not) but she got it in the biggest size and told me it was small but that she had already lost 6 lbs since she tried it on, was planning on losing more and that I should not worry about it.
Last week, I was informed from my fiance (who was informed by his mother, who spoke to his sister) that the dress doesn't fit and that she refuses to try to lose weight, get it altered or try it with the proper undergarments. (She is really not a girly girl and I guarantee was not wearing a good bra when she tried it on.) She said that if I had my heart set on the dress, she wouldn't be in the wedding.
Obviously, I can't tell my fiance's sister she can't be in the wedding over a dress. That would haunt me for my entire life in a family that I am really not that close to in the first place. (They are a big, close family and not so welcoming to the significant others of their children/siblings) I wasn't willing to fight this battle so my other bridesmaids, since they love me, said they would return their dresses and we would start looking again.
The problem now is that they really don't like my fiance's sister. They already knew I was having trouble forming any kind of relationship with her and now that she has pulled this stunt, they are kind of done with her. I feel like it is going to make the rest of the wedding festivities really akward. Also, I'm not even comfortable talking to her about whatever new dress we pick out since she obviously was not comfortable enough with me to tell me that she was having trouble with the dress.
And I get that it's embarassing when something doesn't fit. MY dress didn't zipper all the way when I picked it up! So I sucked it up and started weight watchers and it already fits. It's not like she is obsese or anything.
So I have no idea how to proceed in dealing with her being in my wedding.
HELP!!
