Tattoos

NAPgreen · June 2010

Ok, so my MOH approached me and told me she wants to get her tattoos covered up for the wedding because she thinks thats what I want. To be completely honest her tattoos hadn't even crossed my mind as they are apart of who she is...and the fact that I have two myself, just in places that are well hidden. I told her she could do whatever she wanted, if she wanted to cover them she can and if she wants to be herself and leave them how they are that is fine with me too. She's mentioned it to me quite a few times and each time I have told her it is up to her. She keeps pushing it saying that it's what I want, but it's not, I don't care either way.

I do feel like it may be my fault that she thinks that though because I am planning on getting a tattoo on my foot done after the wedding just because me personally didn't want it before the wedding A. because I didn't want it seen and B. bc the FI and I are getting them together. I have told her that I wasn't going to get mine til later so it wasn't in my own personal picture (just because my parents aren't too keen on tattoos) but that she can keep hers showing bc it is who she is.

Help, do I just keep telling her it is up to her or do I help her find something to cover it or what do I do because like I've said it is completely up to her and what she wants, to me it doesn't matter.

LolaPizzy · June 2010

Awww that is sweet that she is trying so hard to please you. I would tell her (although it sounds like you have already, so rather, keep telling her!): I want you to do whatever will make you most comfortable and happy! I love your tattoos and I'd be happy for you to show them off, really! But if for some reason you would feel uncomfortable, then feel free to cover them, but only if that's what you really want!

I was in a wedding and my friend who was a BM has a tattoo going down each side of her torso. She stressed over the BM dress choice because it didn't hide her tattoos. The tattoos are very much part of who she is, but for whatever reason she didn't feel it was right for them to be exposed.

angybanez · June 2010

Just assure her she doesn't have to cover it up if you do not mind at all. I have tattoos as well and one can be seen, but i'm not going to make anyone cover theirs. Like you said, it's part of their identity so just talk to her about it and I'm sure it will be fine :-) If she insists she knows what you want, then just let her cover it up and tell her outright it is up to her and you definitely are OK with it. Only you know what you really want right?

NAPgreen · June 2010

Thank you for the input, I just feel like it was my fault that she thinks I want her to cover them because I chose not to get another one right now. I am doing it in respect for my parents who are graciously paying for most of the wedding, not because I dont like them. She's my best friend and the tattoos are who she is and I don't want her thinking I'm making her do anything. I will just continue to tell her to do as she would like.

smilz4milz · June 2010

My MoH also mentioned that she was picking out a dress that would cover up her tats as much as possible so they wouldn't show during the wedding. I thought it was odd too...esp. since we got 1 of them together. And she did get a dress that pretty much covered them, and she kept asking if "it was good enough". I still didn't understand and tried to get my point across...REALLY FOR REAL I DO NOT CARE IF THEY SHOW!

Did these ladies read something somewhere or see a Bridezilla show or something??? I love my MoH tats...they're beautiful!

So maybe just one more time, tell her REALLY FOR REAL you don't care about them. If she's subconscious about them, then she can cover them up all she wants...but IMO tats are much more attractive than the possibility of getting cover-up all over a pretty dress.

KristenCR · June 2010

I would hazard a guess that most brides would *demand* tattoos being covered up, or purposefully not choose friends that have visible tats just for that reason. It's possible that that's what these girls are so used to that they assume your just being polite.

I would switch it up... tell them you *want* them to show their tattoos, you think their tats are beautiful and your looking forward to seeing them in thier dresses, you wouldn't have chosen them if the tattoos were an issue for you; but if they feel uncomfortable showing them and want to cover them up that works too. If you seem excited about seeing the tattoos, and not just supportive, it might shock them out of the though that you are just being polite.

Good luck... and if it helps tell her you knotties want to see the pics of her in her dress showing her tats!

Beth0413 · June 2010

I agree w/ the other ladies, just keep reminding her that you don't mind! That's sweet of her to consider how you would feel though

bean0408 · June 2010

I agree with pp, how very sweet that she is so concerned about covering them up for you. I think all you can do is reassure her that you feel her tats are part of her and beautiful. When ever my best friend and I have spent too much time away from each other she is great about sending me a sweet card, so how about reiterating your feelings and surprise her with a card sent to her?

MissMex · June 2010

I can understand how she feels. I loved my tattoos 5 years ago. Now, not so much... Whatever she decides to do, I would def not rec the tattoo cover up by Kat Von D at Sephora. I bought it for my wedding, and it sucked. It looked really unatural and cakey. It stained my clothes when I did my dry run- thank god I didn't wait till the wedding day. any way, that's my input.

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