Can I have both walk me down the aisle?

Hnm8cd · December 2010

My mother and step-father have been together since I was a little over 1 year old. I have lived with them and I would go to see my dad every other weekend when I was younger. I feel like my step-dad has done a lot for me and has pretty much raised me as his own. But now that I am engaged I am having a lot of trouble deciding who should walk me down the aisle. I would love for both of them to do it but my mother and my step-mother both think it's a bad idea. I don't want to hurt anybody's feelings, but I don't want to leave either of them out because they have both been such a big part of my life. What to do? HELP! Also, my mother is obviously a part in the ceremony, and if I am including my step-dad should I also include my step-mom? Should I have all of them walk me down the aisle? I am so confused.

trix1223 · December 2010

I don't see why you can't have both dads walk you down together. Or have one walk the first half, and the other walk the second half. But I really like the idea of both of them escorting you.

I think both moms can be escorted in: MOG first, then stepmom of bride, and then MOB. That would involved your SM as well.

bethsmiles · December 2010

It would be insane to have them ALL walk you down the aisle. I also think think that splitting the walk down the aisle between them (half & half) looks awkward. Honestly I think your step-father would understand if you just had your father walk you down the aisle. I would just have your dad walk you down the aisle.Having someone walk you down the aisle is not the only way to honor someone at your wedding, you could split the father-daughter dance between them.

WeddingSpeechesHQ · December 2010

You know its your big day, and if you feel like both guys are ment to walk you down..then I will say do that so no one feels left out..

sister2groom · December 2010

I vote both dads. Obviously you'll have to make the final decision because I don't know anything about your relationship with each one, but don't do all four parents (they'll be trampling on your train unless you have the widest aisle ever).

Both dads is fine. What don't your mother and step-mother like about that idea? if it's just because they expect you to JUST walk down with their respective husbands then that's unreasonable and unfair of them to expect. I don't think you need to include your step-mother in your walk just because you're including your step-father--mothers don't usually expect to participate in walking you down. Since you would be treating her like you treat your mother (i.e. having them escorted down the aisle) I don't really see a problem, but again, I'm curious what problem they had with your suggestion.

tenofcups4me · December 2010

I'd walk with your mother and father. Than have your step-mother and step-father also walk down the aisle as part of the processional, but not actually escorting you (I can't imagine how you could be escorted by 4 people at the same time!).

cmcd16 · December 2010

I'm in the same situation. My parents divorced when I was 6 months old. My step-dad has been in the picture since I was 2. He's done a lot for me throughout my life. My dad and my step-dad are walking me down the aisle-- simultaneously. My step-dad would be crushed if I told him that only my dad was walking me down the aisle.

Talk to your mom about it. I already knew that I was going to have both of them walk me down the aisle, but my mom brought it up to me first. She wanted to make sure that I knew that my step-dad wanted to walk me down the aisle.

pinkhorse · December 2010

My parents divorced when I was 6 years old. I had it preatty lucky, my mom dad and stepfather are all friends, and they all have been in my life a great deal. I was thinking of having both my dad and stepfather walk me down the isle, but finally came to the descision to just have my father walk me down. The reason is because the ring berrer needs someone to help him down the isle (because he is so young that he may do some crazy stuff if not), and he is my stepsisters son, so my stepfather will be walking him down the isle.

I say do whatever makes you feel the happiest, it is your and your finance's day.

ajpufky · December 2010

One of my friends had her dad and step-dad both walk her down the aisle (the entire way) it was really cute one on either arm! She also did two separate father daughter dances and both dads were able to say a quick little speech at the reception. I thought it was really nice to have both of them included. Like PP said I would talk with your mom and find out what she thinks.

Lisa50 · December 2010

Are you confused about what you think you should do or what you want?

Many brides choose to walk alone. My fiance and I will walk to the canopy together, after we've greeted (personally said hello to) our guests.

Do whatever rocks your world. Enjoy!!

heather2449707 · December 2010

I am in a similar situation and I fully intend to have both of my dads walk me down the aisle. I wouldn't feel right having just my biological dad walk me down the aisle because I'm actually closer to my stepdad and I know he wouldn't see it as a betrayal if I didn't have him walk me down the aisle but I would feel that way so its gonna be the both of them. And imo if either of them have an issue with the other they can put it aside for one day.

DanielleZZ · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_ceremony-ideas_can-walk-down-aisle?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:10Discussion:681b72de-5d73-4fa0-a029-c485f2bc6ba9Post:239b460f-892b-4c3f-8c14-44d6f1695479">Re: Can I have both walk me down the aisle?</a>:
[QUOTE]I vote both dads. Obviously you'll have to make the final decision because I don't know anything about your relationship with each one, but don't do all four parents (they'll be trampling on your train unless you have the widest aisle ever). Both dads is fine. What don't your mother and step-mother like about that idea? if it's just because they expect you to JUST walk down with their respective husbands then that's unreasonable and unfair of them to expect. I don't think you need to include your step-mother in your walk just because you're including your step-father--mothers don't usually expect to participate in walking you down. Since you would be treating her like you treat your mother (i.e. having them escorted down the aisle) I don't really see a problem, but again, I'm curious what problem they had with your suggestion.
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I agree.

Brycedance · December 2010

I've seen two different things at weddings in this type of situation - one friend had her dad and step dad both walk her. Another friend had her mon & step dad walk her half way and then her dad and stepmother walked her the rest of the way. In the second case, the aisle wasn't straight - she entered at the alter with her mom and step dad, then walked around the left side of the chairs to the beginning of the aisle where her father and step mother took over and walked her to the aisle. It was pretty seamless and didn't seem strange.

reason00 · December 2010

I dont think it's a good idea to choose between both fathers. No no no. Even if one will understand there will definitely be underlying hurt there. I'm in your situation as well and even though my dad was never a big part of my life and my stepdad was the better father, I'm still having them both walk me down the aisle. Think of how lucky you are that you have 2 great fathers that wan to walk you down. And like the previous girl stated, I'm having all 3 moms escorted by brothers.

lilcassers · December 2010

Just remember, IT IS YOUR DAY. You can do anything you want-- nothing is traditional anymore. My friend had both of her dad's walk her last weekend and it was beautiful.

I am having my mom only because she has been there for me most. Anything goes!

cathrynprice · December 2010

Why not? It's your wedding after all.

simplebride_24 · December 2010

My parents divorced when I was 8 but separated when I was 4. For the longest time it was my mom, sister, and me. I wanted my mom to walk me down but she knows that my dad means too much. My mom remarried when I was 15 but he has been the best thing for our mom; so my result: my dad is walking me down the aisle, my stepdad will be in the aisle and they will both "give me away".

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