so i'm not a bride, but my future sister in law keeps talking about her "local knottys" and from lurking around this forum you do seem to be quite helpful. i'd like some advice.
my younger brother is getting married in january and we've always been very close. we are only a year and a half apart and we have been through so much together in our lives. we also have another brother who is two years older than me. the woman he's marrying has two older sisters.
i feel very, very hurt that i am the only sibling who has not been asked to be in the wedding party. younger brother obviously asked older brother to be best man, and bride asked one sister to be maid of honor and one to be a bridesmaid. i cannot help feeling extremely snubbed. it's not as though money is an issue with asking me to be a bridesmaid, her family is splashing out a ridiculous amount of money on this wedding (and yes, i do know what weddings cost having worked in the industry, so it is legitimately an expensive wedding and not just sticker shock). the readings have already been assigned, so i know i'm not going to be doing that, either, and even if i were it would feel like a consolation prize.
i don't care about the dress or the flowers or the bridesmaid present or feeling special, what i care about is getting to be part of my brother's wedding day in the same capacity as every other sibling there. i know it's the bride's day but it's my brother's day too and he is just as upset that i'm not included as i am. is there anything i can say or do?