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VENT: Registering etc (long, sorry)

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So Saturday FI and I registered at Boston Store and had a horrible experience. Really bad customer service (I won't go into it all), some items weren't in the store because of store renovations and it was just bad. The main reason we went there is because they carry the Corelle pattern we like.

On Sunday I looked at the Boston Store registry online and saw that the dishware sets cost $40 more than I thought they did. That mad me more annoyed, and I then found online that Macy's has the same pattern for $40 less. My parents adamantly thought we should stay with Boston Store but I checked Macy's out online and they actually seemed to have a better, more reasonable selection and prices in some ways.

We couldn't decide which store to register at (Boston Store or Macy's) and my parents weren't helping so we went to my grandma for her input. She said that if we wanted to go to Macy's, then do it. (Yay for grandmas settling family controversies!). So today we went to Macy's finally after this whole debacle.

As the Macy's consultant was showing us around the dishware area I asked where Corelle was and she said that they don't carry it. Turns out that they do, but very few patterns, and not the one we want. Talk about being disheartened...because we don't want to register for something that is online only (the people who are most likely to get us dinnerware wouldn't look online). So today we just scanned a few things just to have some things on there so the consultant wouldn't be suspicious (which is actually too bad, because I like the stuff we scanned).

Which brings me to the point that I am thoroughly annoyed at and sick of at registering. This has been way too difficult of a process, more than it should have been. Ugh. On top of my already sour mood, FI almost got us into an accident on the way home and we got my friend's wedding invitation in the mail. They have been together a year (we've been 4.5 years), got engaged after us and are getting married before us. I am not usually one to get annoyed about this, I haven't cared up to this point and won't after, but in my bad mood today this is just the icing on the cake. Especially when I'm feeling behind on wedding planning.

Thank you all for listening, I apologize that it's so long, but I really needed to let it out to people who understand :(
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  • colstj1colstj1 member
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    I am so sorry to hear that the registering proccess has been a pain! Hopefully things will get better soon. Also, sorry to hear about the accident and how your friends wedding invite was the icing on the cake.

    Tomorrow is a new day though and hopefully it starts off great for you! :)
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  • saraschilling88saraschilling88
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    So sorry that you are having a frustrating time with your registering!!  I haven't started yet so can't tell you how mine is going..

    I am glad that you didn't get into an accident!!

    I know how you feel about the friend's wedding thing.  My FI feels the same way about his friend/GM!!  It didn't bother him at first, but now it is frustrating him I think, becase we have been together for over 4 years, and his friend got married by a Justice of the Peace at 6 months (then they lived apart and their own lives for the first 5 months of marriage, they got married for the tax break)!! 

    Didn't mean to steal the post from you, just letting you know that I can somewhat understand how you feel!!
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  • kap617kap617 member
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    I've also found the registry process to be frustrating and kind of a pain.  I thought it was going to be fun!
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  • brij2006brij2006
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    We had the same problem with the Corelle.  The only place that carried the design was Target, and our registry there was so screwed up that we deleted it.  So far I've found it easier to really push it with my mom that this was exactly what I wanted for dishes.  We went to the store and looked at the pieces and accessories, and she said she will share the information with the rest of the family for bridal showers. 

    If there's only 1 thing at a store that you really want then maybe try talking to your mom about the Corelle at Boston Store.  This way she can purchase something for you at the store she preferred, and she can also share it with the closer family that attend the bridal showers. 
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  • owengirl996owengirl996 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_august-2012-weddings_vent-registering-etc-long-sorry?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:1fb748ee-7a4e-40eb-b4b4-e553486f4cacDiscussion:b58d7e44-bb71-4d51-8d6a-582a9e2d60ddPost:e62543c5-ced6-490e-b3a0-2b70de678a5b">Re: VENT: Registering etc (long, sorry)</a>:
    [QUOTE]Registering can definitely be a pain. . . I feel your annoyance with the friend tho. My one friend was with the guy for 3 months, got engaged and is getting married soon. I wouldn't have cared but she kept saying she's only doing it for the gifts  . . . ick.
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    Ugh! That's super tacky! Why would you say that even if it were true?! I'd soooo not want to give her anything, but unfortunately, that's considered rude as well.

    OP, sorry you are having such a rough time :( It'll be ok though! I have felt similarly with friends. It is frustrating and can even hurt, but I've just learned to focus on my own wedding. It just stinks if you invest money into someone else's wedding when you think there is a good chance it won't last because it's too soon (or any other reason).

    I'd be frustrated with registering too in your situation! Luckily, we've only had a positive experience so far (at Bed Bath & Beyond), but we're looking to do one or two more places.

    It will all get figured out, just hang in there!
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  • lk&dparkerlk&dparker
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    I am registering for a honeymoon, my FI and I already live together and have bought all the furniture and plates and everything ourselves so we dont need that stuff. So were registering for something that would be perfect for us! People can just go online and put money on our account like they are buying something. you can put any amount you want so no obligation. I dont think I could have dealt with the registering stress!
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  • lk&dparkerlk&dparker
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_august-2012-weddings_vent-registering-etc-long-sorry?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:1fb748ee-7a4e-40eb-b4b4-e553486f4cacDiscussion:b58d7e44-bb71-4d51-8d6a-582a9e2d60ddPost:87e8be94-6c4d-4af3-bfee-bd8f3ee86f88">Re: VENT: Registering etc (long, sorry)</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: VENT: Registering etc (long, sorry) : Are you talking about a honeymoon registry? I'd still make another registry with things you'd like an "upgrade" on. If you do a quick search on theknot, you'll see many results that are not in favor of the HM registry. People find them rude. I too have my own house and live with FI. We still made a small registry even though we don't need anything.
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    We have thought about it and we still keep coming back to the Honeymoon registry. We already have everything that we would register for. We have already told our immediate family and they agree that would be good for us instead of getting the stuff we oursleves already went and bought. I dont know what else we could register for??
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  • BTCarolusBTCarolus
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    One of the major reasons honeymoon registries are frowned upon here is that a lot of them charge a pretty heavy surcharge, and mislead guests. Instead of actually putting the money toward what your guests pay for (breakfast in bed, scuba diving, whatever) they shave off between 10 and 20% of the gifts, and give the rest to you as a lump sum. It would be better to just get the money straight from the guests via a check, because that way you get the whole amount.
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  • bridejlbridejl member
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    Thank you for all the support everyone!  I thought registering was going to be fun too, and in reality it was at BBB and Kohl's until the Boston Store stuff happened. O well, I guess.

    I have a couple disclaimers, though: 1. I don't want to sound like I'm not happy for my friend...because I am! But yesterday the invite was just the straw the broke the camel's back, ya know?

    2. I also don't mean to discourage anyone from registering at Boston Store. Their customer service is probably much better at other locations and at different times. We stupidly went on a Saturday during quite a large home sale when they were understaffed at the one home register because of very recent (as in mostly finished last week) renovations to the floor. The lady who was helping us also happened to be quite old and didn't know how to set up a registry or operate the mainframe system on the computer.

    On a better note, though, FI just got back from an interview and it sounds promising...so yes, today has been a better day :):)
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