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hmonkey
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iho secret credit card debt
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Re: iho secret credit card debt
It must be done, yo.
H asked me how much cc debt I had and I asked him. We didn't pull reports...frankly, I don't know what his current credit score is. He may know mine, but that's only because it's awesome so I told him what it was. I know what his bills are and he knows what mine are. We keep things seperate, but are knowledgable about what is going on in the other person's accounts.
[QUOTE]We bought a house together before getting married, so our credit scores were well known.
Posted by **O-Face**[/QUOTE]
<div>Ditto. Also, he started paying all my bills, so, you know. </div>
[QUOTE]Which is why him being a repeated dumbass about money is such a sore subject with me.
Posted by GBCK[/QUOTE]
<div>You shouldn't be too sore - couldn't you see the writing on the wall?</div>
i can't believe how many of you were satisfied with a discussion unless it involved printed statements and records.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: iho secret credit card debt : You shouldn't be too sore - couldn't you see the writing on the wall?
Posted by nicoleg1982[/QUOTE]
<div>Yeah, because NO ONE ever gets a fairly reasonable explanation (like medical issues and insurance and school and a healthy dose of young stupidity) for something in their FI's past and an obvious attempt to improve one's self and says "oh, good, he's managed that and has been on the straight-and-narrow for over a year and is making kick-ass progress" ?</div><div>
</div><div>For Cereal, do you just look for anything in my posts that is a bit of an open wound to try to poke at? </div><div>
</div><div>I should have seen writing on the wall. I didn't--not because he intentionally screwed me over so much as he's got a blind spot about $ the size of a small mountain. I'd still marry the man but I'd have made the $ thing get handled differently if I did it over again. And I'm handing it now.</div><div>
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We decided that we would be responsible for our respective cc debt, so I didn't need to see his records. Aside from affecting the interest rate on a house or car we will never buy, his cc debt has little to do with me.
I think credit reports should be pulled, and divorce decrees produced.
You know what I'm saying.
People are stupid and do stupid things, but you need to have learned from your mistakes, taking steps to pay it down, and NEVER make the same mistakes with money again.
If not, then it's a no go.
O, you know it. There are a lot of dumb people out here that *think* they are divorced, and aren't. I need proof.
[QUOTE]We didn't pull reports, but we had a frank discussion about bills/debts before we moved in together and then again when we merged bank accounts.
Posted by mrs.conn23[/QUOTE]
Same here. Except we did it all backwards. We got a joint account before we lived together, way before we got married or even engaged.
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Posted by Wifezzilla[/QUOTE]
and sometimes they collect interest.