So, we have a wedding to attend next week, and the couple decided against having a registry because they thought it looked "greedy". We love them both, but I have no clue what to get them. My H is insisting that just giving them cash at the wedding looks like we did not care enough to put some effort into thinking of a gift. I say cash is always a good gift! He wants to do a Crate and Barrel Gift card "at least" or better yet, have me think up something all wonderful and creative to get them. I suck at this for weddings in particular.
So, I am going to put it like this: if you were the bride (or groom, gotta include Vegas here!) would you prefer we:
1. Get you a Crate and Barrel Gift Card.
2. Give you cash.
3. I hit William Sonoma and buy you a very nice, overpriced something or another.
TIA for your help. I realize this is not a brilliant question, but my H has me wondering of others think cash is lazy or cold or something. I do not really know if the couple might think this (or 1/2 of the couple). I know the bride is a new med school grad with loans up to eyeballs, and this wedding has cost them, too.
Re: Wedding Gift Pondering
I made a bio?!?
I'd enjoy the cash or gift card.
And ditto npasquale. I've never seen an actual gift at a wedding.
My go-to gift when I want something personal but I'm not sure what to get:
Nice wooden picnic basket, picnic supplies (checkered table cloth, two wine glasses, nice disposable plates, etc.) bottle of wine, single use camera.
Not registering is often a code for "we would really like cash, please, but are not gauche enough to mention that." Cash is always, always welcome.
If your H is worried about being perceived as not thoughtful enough (which is sweet), be sure to write a loving, personal note in their card. I loved reading cards that had more than just the giver's signatures on them.
I've never been to a wedding out here that didn't have an overflowing gift table. When I lived on the coast, everyone gave cards and it seems like it's just not done much out here.
Plus, I just like giving pretty, wrapped gifts.
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